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No12turn2
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Default  Posted: 1:42 PM, November 8th (Friday)

I have this smirk and a sarcastic laugh that REALLY drives her insane. What are some of the actions or words that drive your WS crazy?


Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.


Posts: 526 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: United Staes
crazyblindsided
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Member # 35215
Default  Posted: 1:44 PM, November 8th (Friday)

When I call him out on his conflict avoidance or passive aggressive behavior.


BS/FWS (me):40 Madhatter
WS/BS:42 Serial Cheater
Together 18 years, Married 13
DD(10) DS(7)
DDay(s) 5/08, 5/09, 3/30/12
Final Dday 7/11/14 Affair never ended

Posts: 2266 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
No12turn2
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Member # 40996
Default  Posted: 2:02 PM, November 8th (Friday)

Another thing she hates is when I talk about things I have read. She claims to be a unique case and refuses to be grouped under the same category or label as any other WS would be. I wonder how many other WS's actually thought this?


Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.


Posts: 526 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: United Staes
SisterMilkshake
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Member # 30024
Default  Posted: 2:10 PM, November 8th (Friday)

FWH insists he isn't and never was "broken". Irritates the crap out of him. Doesn't like to read threads that I wrote about him and people refer to him as broken. Or even if it is a thread that generally calls WS's broken.

He also got annoyed when the OW referred to him as its "boyfriend". It bugs him when I call it the "girlfriend".


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9650 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
crazyblindsided
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Member # 35215
Default  Posted: 2:20 PM, November 8th (Friday)

Another thing she hates is when I talk about things I have read. She claims to be a unique case and refuses to be grouped under the same category or label as any other WS would be. I wonder how many other WS's actually thought this?

Oh yeah mine falls into this category too. Says you can't always believe what you read or what people tell you. Well WH I am sure the author with the PHD has more knowledge about A's than you do.

typical


BS/FWS (me):40 Madhatter
WS/BS:42 Serial Cheater
Together 18 years, Married 13
DD(10) DS(7)
DDay(s) 5/08, 5/09, 3/30/12
Final Dday 7/11/14 Affair never ended

Posts: 2266 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
No12turn2
Member
Member # 40996
Default  Posted: 2:22 PM, November 8th (Friday)

WW hates it when I say the OMs name or any nickname she used to call them.


Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.


Posts: 526 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: United Staes
painfulpast
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Member # 41038
Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, November 8th (Friday)

Haha – where to start. If I look away and just say ‘whatever’ to something he’s trying to tell me. HATES it.

Mine also thinks he’s not like other WSs. Yeah, they’re all so damned special – except that they’re all the same. How come nothing they say shocks anyone here? Because there are only about 3 affair stories. You just have to figure out which one is your WS. Although, mine is ‘different’ because he was just toying with OW. He NEVER liked her in any way. Yeah, whatever.

And reading about infidelity – the worst. He’s convinced I’m going to just wallow in it and that reading about it is keeping me in it instead of moving on.


The stones from my enemies, these wounds will mend
but I cannot survive the roses from my friends

Posts: 1893 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: East Coast
LetMeRollIt
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Member # 41189
Default  Posted: 6:22 PM, November 8th (Friday)

Mine is also convinced she's a unique case. Also hates it when I mention things I know about OM. This pleases me greatly. I'm working on it. :)


D day- June 30, 2013
Me - BS
Married 15 years
5 year old child
Attempting R as of Oct. 1 2013

"Cry, and let your soul be cleansed of a love that turned to carnage." - Christy Brown


Posts: 99 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Canada
TXMommy
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Member # 28857
Default  Posted: 6:30 PM, November 8th (Friday)

When I tell him he is selfish. And, this transfers from not only the A, but our entire lives together... I just never saw it until after the A.


ME - BS - 33
WH - 30
Married 9 years, together 11
2 kids: D8, S2
D-Day: June 10th, 2010
Trudging through R.

Posts: 593 | Registered: Jun 2010 | From: TX
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