One month after D-Day and he wants to "put the A aside and work on your M?" This IS working on your marriage!!!!!
He is delusional if he thinks he is going to sidestep your questions and you're going to just magically be fine. He needs to help you heal, and if it means that he answers ALL of your questions over and over and over and over again, then that is what he has to do!
Someone will come along to answer your question about MC. I can't answer that. What I can tell you is: If you rugsweep this like he seems to want to, you will regret it. That's what I did the first time, and 12 years later I'm dealing with this crap again!