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Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 11:46 PM, November 8th (Friday)

DS20 was just telling me that he had a conversation with XPOS today regarding the three ATVs that XPOS officially received in the settlement, but are still at my home. Why? Because before the dissolution XPOS said he was giving two of the kids two of the ATVs, and the third could be used by DD17 as long as she wanted then it would revert to XPOS. I was fine with that. So DS and I have been collaborating on a way to get XPOS to put the transfer of the two ATVs in writing as XPOS has a history of threatening theft reports, even against his own kids. That is in the works and should be completed soon. DS knows his father's penchant for changing midstream, so he very much wanted everything in writing. Don't blame him as he is spot on.

Anywho, DS proceeds to tell me that XPOS was going off in their conversation today about how he doesn't know what else to do regarding the third ATV because he has asked 'me' several times to send it to him, and he may have no alternative but to file a theft report with police but unfortunately he doesn't have the VIN number (and remember, XPOS is veteran law enforcement). Oh, that's right POS, you ran away last spring and left all documents in my possession. Let me break out my violin on that one...

So apparently I am a flaming bitch because I won't crate up and send, 4,000 miles, at my expense, an ATV that he left for DD to use as long as she wants. I told DS that I hope he DOES file a theft report so I can show them the text message I have from XPOS saying he was leaving it here for DD. DS said he was laughing to himself the whole time during the convo because he knows the truth and how utterly fucked in the head his father is (DS's words)...

Absolutely fucking mind boggling how these douche bags constantly rewrite history and conveniently forget the truth, and that there is a paper trail to prove it... The sad part is that he is willing to fuck over his own child (DD) in his rewrite... the title 'POS' simply does not do him justice...

Bring on the theft report, shit bag, and watch law enforcement laugh you out of the state!!!

[This message edited by Phoenix1 at 12:05 AM, November 9th (Saturday)]


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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careerlady
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Default  Posted: 12:06 AM, November 9th (Saturday)

For real. These cheaters just can''t seem to live authentic lives. He''s crazy if he thinks he''ll get that ATV back


Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI

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SBB
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Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 12:12 AM, November 9th (Saturday)

This was all a show for DS. Idiot doesn't realise the kid is onto him.

He probably has himself convinced that that is the situation. I DO hope he files a police report. It would be nice to have his memory jogged publicly.

It is actually kind of funny - it wouldn't be if it were my kids he was trying to fuck up with his transparent lies.

Imagine being 20 and knowing how fucked in the head your father is?


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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anewday78
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Default  Posted: 9:10 AM, November 9th (Saturday)

Can't you send him, via certified mail, a notice stating that he has 90 days to get the ATVs off your property otherwise they will be considered abandoned property and you will auction them to the highest bidder to cover the cost of storing them? Either he comes up with the $ to have them shipped to him (not worth the $) or he loses ownership of them. I'm pretty sure that would be perfectly legal to do but you may want to confirm with the courts.

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devistatedmom
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Default  Posted: 9:14 AM, November 9th (Saturday)

Phoenix1, forgetting the part where he said the kids could have/use them for as long as they want for a minute, and I would check with a lawyer on this one, but could you not just send him a letter stating that any of his property left on your property past xxx date becomes yours? That you are not a storage facility, and it will be assumed he does not want anything left there by Nov 30 or whatever?

After my XH moved out I know I sent him one of those, and that was the end of that, but nothing left behind was specifically named in the papers, so that is why I would check with a lawyer.

Could I also ask...especially if he's in law enforcement, why in the heck does he think YOU are responsible for the transportation costs of these items? He must know that he has to pay for it!!!

If I were the kids and you, I would send him a letter, and once they are officially "yours" I would sell the freaking things then block the ass from ever contacting you again. Idiot.


BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.


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Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 1:37 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

could you not just send him a letter stating that any of his property left on your property past xxx date becomes yours? That you are not a storage facility, and it will be assumed he does not want anything left there by Nov 30 or whatever?

If the kids weren't involved that is exactly what I would do! However, I WANT the kids to have them, and the first two should be legally theirs very soon so they are moot points. The third, and the one he is now posturing about is actually the oldest but the one DD has always used as her primary recreational activity during the summer. XPOS knows that, hence his initial gesture to leave it for her use. I was just smart enough to get the douche to put it in writing, which he seems to have conveniently forgotten.

Could I also ask...especially if he's in law enforcement, why in the heck does he think YOU are responsible for the transportation costs of these items? He must know that he has to pay for it!!!

Because he is a NPD idiot and doesn't comprehend that no one else listens to or believes the nonsense that he spews... Haha

He no longer contacts me since I shut him down a few weeks ago, and he has no contact with DDs, only DS. But since DS knows the truth, XPOS's rambling bullshit falls on deaf ears. For me? It only earns an eye roll at the stupidity of it. Once DD feels she is 'done' using it (which will be never, and there was no timetable placed on this), THEN I will gladly send a letter to have him pick it up in X days or it becomes mine.

None of this bothers me, really, and just makes me laugh that, well, he is the same old douche. His relationship with DD is already nonexistent, but it makes me sad that he would continue his douche-ism with his own child. Not a surprise though as he has always been that way. If they don't have him on an ivory pedestal in their minds then they become expendable in his. Father of the year, not.

[This message edited by Phoenix1 at 1:43 PM, November 9th (Saturday)]


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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