User Topic: Psychosomatic symptom? Something else?
Member # 32554
Wink  Posted: 1:33 AM, November 9th (Saturday)

I've shared here that the stress of my marriage almost killed me. I was hospitalized twice with what seemed like stroke symptoms (it wasn't, we still don't know what caused them). I had crippling back pain & needed a heating pad so much that my skin changed color. I had stomach pains so constant I popped Pepcid & Tums like they were Pez. Migraines up the wazoo (including ocular migraines, OMG!). Dizzy spells. Heart palpitations. And I developed high blood pressure that was truly frightening (240 over 210, if you can believe it!), although I was able to get it down with multiple medications. And I walked with a limp.

And then I Hefty Bagged his cheating, perverted ass.

Back pain disappeared.
Limp disappeared.
Stomach pain disappeared.
No more heart palpitations.
Kidney stones that I didn't know I had passed. Okay, ow!
Migraines never came back.
No more dizzy spells.

And now? Now that my divorce is final? My blood pressure readings are down 10-20 points??? Yeah, that's right.

Wow. Just wow.


I hope this lasts.

Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011

Posts: 9827 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Member # 38928
Default  Posted: 1:42 AM, November 9th (Saturday)

Stress can manifest itself in truly horrific ways, probably more ways than modern science can currently discern. Now that your horrific stress is gone, it makes sense that some of those physical manifestations have gone with it. That is terrific news, and you can now continue to heal further. Life will only get better for you and your children.

BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet

Posts: 1199 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
Member # 39036
Default  Posted: 1:50 AM, November 9th (Saturday)

Yay!!!! I bet you feel so much better. He was killing you...literally!

Me: BS 36
Him: WS 37
14 month old DS
Married 5 years, together 8, DIVORCING!!! (taking forever)
DDay: 3/1/13 (4 Month PA while I was pregnant)
Sometimes all you have to do is forget what you feel and remember what you deserve.

Posts: 374 | Registered: Apr 2013
Member # 36267
Default  Posted: 7:36 AM, November 9th (Saturday)


Its like you had a tumor removed. Amazing!

oh, and congrats on the D being final!!! I am doing my happy dance for you!


Don't come around here no more
-Tom Petty

Posts: 661 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Canada
Member # 33129
Default  Posted: 11:01 AM, November 9th (Saturday)

Stress can really do a number on your body. I have a friend who has been divorced over 30 years-- but she lost sight in her right eye for almost a year while divorcing her WH!!

divorced the Dooosh
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.

Posts: 3612 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
Member # 39166
Default  Posted: 11:11 AM, November 9th (Saturday)

Its like you had a tumor removed.

She did...he's her Ex

Me: BW
Him: STBXWH 'The Arse' likes strong but broken OW
OW - EA - 'Holy Chick'
COW - Suspected EA/PA 'The Ambassador'
COW - Susp EA 'The Baker'
COW - EA/PA 'Fat Bottomed Girl'
COW - Susp EA 'MiniMe'

Posts: 1061 | Registered: May 2013 | From: UK
Member # 37215
Default  Posted: 11:28 AM, November 9th (Saturday)

Wow just wow! He was a toxic infectious tumor and you lanced it right off! Here's to your health NG!!

Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

Posts: 2271 | Registered: Oct 2012
Member # 23890
Default  Posted: 11:36 AM, November 9th (Saturday)

A severe allergic reaction to perversion and asshats ? Glad you are feeling so much better! So happy for you!

"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

Posts: 4135 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

Stress does some shocking things to you. I rarely get sick but I was getting headaches almost weekly during the last year of that M - since S, not one (except the self-inflicted wine headaches which are pretty rare).

I'm thrilled for you NG.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5609 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Member # 32810
Default  Posted: 6:36 AM, November 10th (Sunday)

I have to wonder whether he was slowly poisoning you.

"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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Member # 38458
Default  Posted: 11:02 AM, November 10th (Sunday)

It's called "malignant" narcissism for a reason. The day of our divorce hearing I wrote "malignant narcissist removal" on my calender.

I'm so glad that you are doing better. He was definitely toxic to you mentally AND physically!

Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
Member # 38458
Default  Posted: 11:04 AM, November 10th (Sunday)

I have to wonder whether he was slowly poisoning you.

With some of the discoveries about your ex that you have shared here, this seems like a big possibility as well.

Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
Member # 24643
Default  Posted: 11:23 AM, November 10th (Sunday)

Do the resolution of many of these physical traits open up more possibilities for full-time employment, Nature_Girl?

"We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us." ~J. Campbell
"In the final analysis, it is your own attitude that will make or break you, not what has happened to you." ~D. Galloway

Posts: 2143 | Registered: Jun 2009
Member # 33698
Default  Posted: 2:23 PM, November 10th (Sunday)

I can tell when I'm stressed about something. Many people have headaches-- I get back pain that can sometimes even radiate down my legs; I had to go to physical therapy for it. When I was still with XWH (before DDay), I was experiencing:

constant back pain
plugged ears
lower abdominal pain

I was convinced that there was something seriously wrong with me; I saw my PCP, an ENT, my OB/GYN, and an NP at a gastroenterology practice. I had a lot of tests run, and nothing ever showed up.

When I finally left him, ALL of the head symptoms disappeared, and now the back pain/abdominal pain only comes back when I'm very stressed out. It's amazing the kind of power that the brain has over the body. Glad you're feeling better!

BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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