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SoOver96
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Default  Posted: 10:45 AM, November 9th (Saturday)

Mine did last night i asked him how many people do you know in a certain town because a friend of ours moved there and WS oh where at cause he thought they moved north baw he said oh hell no I know to many people there. That's where my question came into play and he said well you already know gutter fish lives there. I dont know is that a score for me or no? He's been staying home I've gotten my courage back and I'm letting him have it when he steps out of line. I haven't posted in a month because weve been working on us we just had our 16th wedding anniversary these years have been hard but I believe he sees that I shouldn't be taken for granted and as for that friend that I've posted about before. WS is finally seeing he and his girlfriend is no good for our relationship don't take this wrong but I don't know you guys and you all are very special to me even they ones that were critical. Thank you SI for helping all of us

Posts: 171 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Illinois
mchercheur
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Default  Posted: 10:56 AM, November 9th (Saturday)

Yes!
From the very first moment I found out, I have called her The Slut, & asked WH what kind of a low life would try to destroy a family for her own selfish desires.
Then WH found out ( from someone else) some info about OW that really made it obvious that she is a lowlife.
WH has been referring to OW as The Slut pretty much from the first day as well. We have never referred to her by her real name----she does not deserve that respect.


together 25 yrs, married 24 yrs, 4 children;Rebuilding
D Day: 5/10/2011 PA
OW: WH's co-worker,divorced, no children, 20 yrs younger than I-----& she knew he was married, had met our kids, but that did not stop her from trying to destroy our family

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Lovedyoumore
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Default  Posted: 11:19 AM, November 9th (Saturday)

Yes. He may not utter her real name. We call her Hagrid. Sometimes Hag for short.


Me 52
WH 52
Married 30+ years
Together trying to R

I tell people I am tired but really my heart is broken and I am sad.


Posts: 1477 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Southern, bless your heart
heforgotme
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Default  Posted: 12:01 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

WS does not call her by her name, but by what HE decided to call her. Which is "it". While he owns his own behavior, he also understands that she was behaving as as much of a __________ as he was. And he does not respect her for it, just as he does not respect who he was at the time. Thus....."it". And he actually has worse descriptions for himself at the time.


D-Day 11/15/12
5 month PA
Married 20 years, 3 kids
All good is hard. All evil is easy. Dying, losing, cheating, and mediocrity is easy. Stay away from easy.
- Scott Alexander
It was the day I thought I'd never get through - Daughtry

Posts: 1081 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: FL
selkiescot
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Default  Posted: 12:37 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

NO! He doesnt mention the Filth at all which makes me very very suspicious. Nor dos he call the RHino a Rhino. He calls her by her stupid hyphenated name.


The truth shall set you free or reveal the name of the OW!
ME 57
WH 64
DDAYs TOO MANY
daughter 27
You give me gifts! I don't want your gifts I want the truth. That's the greatest gift.

Posts: 1394 | Registered: Apr 2009 | From: CT
SoVerySadNow
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Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

No, I call her slut and whore (hell, I call him that too when I'm raging) but her calls her "she" and "her" since I no longer allow him to refer to her as "the young lady"! Seriously, he did.


Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

Posts: 1292 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
SoOver96
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Default  Posted: 1:09 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

He told me just about 30 min ago that he has had no contact with her( gutter fish troll because seriously she looks like a troll) since day before DDay June 16th 2012 no I will never forget Fathers day.... We got on the topic because we got a private call and when I answered they hung up. With WS's calling the OW names do you think he's being sincere that we as BS need them to be? It felt good but I'm still iffy you know because I don't think the whole truth has came out.

Posts: 171 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Illinois
SoOver96
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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

I love the names lol. My friend says she looks like one of the Simpson characters

Posts: 171 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Illinois
Holly-Isis
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Default  Posted: 1:57 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

For a time MrH would call xOw1 Fingercuffs (Chasing Amy reference) because she bragged about doing two guys at once.

Basically though I call them by their names. I guess it's to make it more real to him that he had GFs while M rather than trying to make them into caricatures.


"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

Posts: 11197 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: Just a fool in limbo
dayatatime
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Default  Posted: 6:10 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

yes. we both call her bitchface


BS 52
WH 55
son 13
ddays 9/27/07 and 9/1/10

Posts: 764 | Registered: Nov 2007
myperfectlife
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Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

My kids swear OW has a dick.

I call her a horse, or a man.

STBX calls her "the biggest mistake of my life"

yet...the papers are signed.

*so pathetic my life has become*


I cannot be responsible for another's personal growth.
DDay#1 of a "cheatillion" 4/1/13
Divorce final 11/04/13

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sullymeishadomi
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Default  Posted: 6:53 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

One of the ways I refer to her is "whore". He calls her "horse".


People tell you exactly who they are...why expect them to be what they are not ....will be divorcing the selfish creep.

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Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 7:46 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

No, but I notice that he does call Fatty B "OW" lately to me with a little p.s.: "as you call her", he says. He apparently notes the jargon.

I think I've never actually said the nickname around him, we don't discuss it.


Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington


Posts: 2239 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
SoOver96
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Default  Posted: 11:54 AM, December 7th (Saturday)

Well its been 24 hours since he's been home so I guess he left me I should of seen this coming hmm Im not ok right now I know I will in do time but I'm not know only two hrs sleep I hope gutter fish troll takes his shit because I'm not taking him back even though I do love him I'm not doing the 100 percent and him 0

Posts: 171 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Illinois
whattheh
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Default  Posted: 1:50 PM, December 7th (Saturday)

Yes we both call her psycho bitch or miss piggy. We never use her given name. I also call her whore slut the usual...


BW- mid 50's (me)
fWH-late 50's
M 33 T 35
DD-Early 2013 PA 2010
In R but I have PTSD...

Posts: 545 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
StrongerOne
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Default  Posted: 3:45 PM, December 7th (Saturday)

LOL, no. For a time I called her "your special friend" (in a very sarcastic tone), which really bugged him. More effective than "loser psycho bitch", because that sounds mean and petty (although completely true), whereas "your special friend" is superficially nice while making clear that he was full of shit about her and their so called friendship.

He tried really hard not to talk about her at all. Finally just referred to her as "she".

But we all know that she is, was, and always will be a loser psycho bitch.


DDay Feb 2011.
In R.

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Blobette
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Default  Posted: 4:37 PM, December 7th (Saturday)

I thought CumDumpster was pretty funny and call her that, and WH does too. In front of the kids we clean it up to CD. In MC, however, I call her by her name. It's a bit like Voldemort... I don't want to give her power by refusing to say her name.


BS (me): 50
WS: 50
Married: 26 yrs
Kids: 2
OW: Co-worker, 7 yr LTA
DD 8/1/2012, Working on R

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