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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 12:25 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

A year ago SIL was diagnosed with breast cancer. Double mastectomy, chemo, radiation, the whole nine yards.

She had her final reconstructive surgery done a couple of weeks ago and on Thursday she developed an infection. She's okay, she's home on antibiotics and resting but the doctor had to clean out the infection and take the implant out, put in a drain, all that fun stuff. After the infection is gone she will go back to square one with the reconstruction on the left side.

If you could spare any good thoughts for her I'd appreciate it. She's been through a lot and was looking forward to this holiday season and being healthy. If she heals well, with no complications, all should be okay.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 12:37 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

Always love and prayers to you and your family...I really hope she has a speedy and healthy recovery.

(((AN & SIL)))


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sisoon
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Default  Posted: 12:39 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

Count me in, AN. I wish the best to your SIL and family.


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DDay - 12/2010
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DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 12:41 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

Sending strength and healing thoughts.

((((AN & SIL))))


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
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M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

((((an & sil)))).

That stinks!!!! More mojo and prayers heading your way.


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Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 12:58 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

Sending prayers.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:59 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

Sending it all, an. (((((SIL)))))


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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 2:17 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

Thank you, SI friends.

She has come such a long way and she is discouraged by the setback, as we all are. Last year's holidays were sad and scary, and this year we will make them great no matter what. After the new year she will go in for more surgery.

I appreciate the prayers very much .


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 4:33 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

Good thoughts coming her way. Cancer sucks.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 4:42 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

(((SIL, AN, & family)))

Sending good thoughts, prayers, and mojo.


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Gottagetthrough
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Default  Posted: 6:16 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

good thoughts coming your way and your sil's way.


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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 8:13 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

Sending prayers for healing and a healthy holiday.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
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AgainandAgain
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Default  Posted: 8:41 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

This is so sad. It breaks my heart when someone comes so far and has a setback.

Many prayers coming her way. I am praying for a speedy and pain free recovery!


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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 9:09 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

Good Thoughts and Healing Prayers!


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Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
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R - he finally came home
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weeping willow
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Default  Posted: 10:30 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

Sending prayers and healing thoughts.

((((AN, SIL & family))))


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karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 11:20 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

Always have room for more good thoughts.

(((AN and family)))


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Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 11:50 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

{{{AN}}} {{{SIL}}}


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In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 9:02 PM, November 10th (Sunday)

Sending positive thoughts!


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It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 9:03 PM, November 10th (Sunday)

Sending mojo for your SIL. I know it's been a terribly hard year for her, and for your family. It's almost over. She'll be well again soon and this year will be a year to celebrate.



“We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.”... Anais Nin

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5454real
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Default  Posted: 10:20 PM, November 10th (Sunday)

sending prayers and Mojo in abundance. I hope recovery is swift and complete.


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D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
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― Sophocles, Antigone

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refuz2bavictim
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Default  Posted: 2:53 AM, November 11th (Monday)

Prayers and healing thoughts for SIL's return to good health in time for all of you to enjoy the holidays.


BS:ME DDay: 7/18/09 Last of TT 7/11/10
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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 5:18 AM, November 11th (Monday)

Thank you all so much. H and I were going to visit her yesterday but we figured she needed to rest. We called her and she sounded very, very tired. She isn't sleeping, which has been an issue for months anyway. The meds? Who knows.

But she said she'll sleep when her body lets her, and continue to focus on healing.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 8:53 AM, November 11th (Monday)

Thinking of you and SIL. Healing thoughts for a speedy and complete recovery with no more complications. (((Hugs)))


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JKL Vikings
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Default  Posted: 12:52 PM, November 11th (Monday)

Sending healing thoughts from Texas


Her- Alpha Female 40
Me-FWH 41
Married since '02, together since 2000
D-day 2/10/2009
3 sons- J- born Oct 2001
K- born Sept. 2005
L- born Apr. 2008
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JKL Vikings
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Default  Posted: 12:52 PM, November 11th (Monday)

Sending healing thoughts from Texas


Her- Alpha Female 40
Me-FWH 41
Married since '02, together since 2000
D-day 2/10/2009
3 sons- J- born Oct 2001
K- born Sept. 2005
L- born Apr. 2008
We ALL have issues. It's how we deal with them that makes the difference

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still2suspicious
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Default  Posted: 1:42 PM, November 11th (Monday)

Sending prayers for a quick recovery.


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

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