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hallelujah
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Default  Posted: 9:54 AM, November 11th (Monday)

My 28 year old son just bought his own house and moved out. It's an exciting time! But I have noticed that our relationship is more difficult now. Not that we don't get along or anything like that. It's just that we are both introverts and so our conversations usually happened in 5 minute bits as we passed in the hallway or set the table or he came out of his room to grab an evening snack. Now I go over there or he comes over here and we sit and it is a really awkward time where we kind of sit across from eachother and both feel awkward and try to find something to talk about. I feel like it would be better if we actually had something to do.But I'm not sure what. Does anyone have ideas on negotiating the change from son-living-at-home to adult-son-living-on-his-own?

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betrayedfriend
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Member # 19785
Default  Posted: 10:46 AM, November 11th (Monday)

Maybe offer to set up a dinner once or twice a month where y'all go out to eat and talk about what's going on at work, or with friends.


I originally joined SI as a way to help my best friends find ways of coping with infidelity, but now infidelity has touched my family much closer to home.

Posts: 868 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Midwest USA
Dreamboat
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Member # 10506
Default  Posted: 12:44 PM, November 11th (Monday)

Play cards or another game, play video games, watch a movie or favorite TV show together. Or if the 2 of you share a hobby then plan to do that together. You don't have to talk to spend quality time with someone.


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

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tushnurse
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Member # 21101
Default  Posted: 6:41 PM, November 11th (Monday)

Dinner night go out to eat and people watch.
Movie night in or out.
Play some backgammon or cribbage


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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