Woman I've been see'n has been down in the dumps since friday. Job stress, kid stress, and I'm sure I probably add to it. So last night I get the whole "you deserve someone better, yada yada yada". She says she doesn't know what she wants right now but she needs to fix her own unhappiness. So I ask if she wants to me to leave her alone, and if she is "dump'n" me(in a joke'n manner)with the whole "it's not you it's me" bit. She says she doesn't know what she wants right now, she is sad and hurt. I tell her to "unload" on me and I will listen, what I'm here for. She does and it's all about her job, not liking the town she lives in, etc. Lucky for me, I don't come up.
I try to cheer her up, I do make her laugh...but it's not enough. I ask again if she wants space and for me to leave her alone....she doesn't know what she wants. After talking it's agreed that she "dumped" me and I will leave her alone. I tell her when she figures out what she wants to let me know. Ends nice, all is ok.
Today I could tell she is happier, she texted me many times. I respond in a friendly manner, but nothing extra. Then she askes if I want to go to a game with her saturday. I'm caught off guard, stumble, and before I answer she says "its ok you don't have to go". Then I told her I just need to think about it and I'll let her know asap. I also tell her she might have more fun with someone else. Which is true cause I'm in the dumps after being put there.
I've told her no matter what, I want to stay friends. In my position is it best for her to be away from me, or should I be the friend that goes with her? At this point, I really don't know what I want.
So, she's down, sad, depressed. will I add to it going? How do you deal with someone like this. I just want the best for her right now since she is sad.
I sure wish women came with directions. hahaha