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million pieces
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Content  Posted: 5:15 PM, November 11th (Monday)

My SO and I went to Cape May for a long deserved mini vaca. It was the first time we've gotten away in almost 2 yrs! Well, he proposed and we are engaged!!! Whole nine yards, called my dad, got a beautiful ring, and went down on his knee. I just love this man and how thoughtful, caring, and wonderful he is. We won't be getting married any time soon, our kids are coming first and are an hour apart and pretty integrated into their communities/school. And the other parents are where we each are living. So we are staying put until his son is driving to HS (2-3 yrs) and then we will get married and he will moving into my house until my kids are a little older. I know that we've had our trials (death of both of his parents) and less tragic stressors (our exs). He has done everything to reassure me about his boundaries w his ex and has included me with everything in his life (financial and logistical decisions). SOOOOOOO much different than my marriage, I have so much more hope!


Me - 42
2 kids, 9 and 11
D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later
Divorced 11/15/11!!!!

Posts: 1241 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: MD
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, November 11th (Monday)

Wow! Congratulations, honey!!!


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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NaiveAgain
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Default  Posted: 5:20 PM, November 11th (Monday)

Congratulations! That is wonderful!


Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

Posts: 15195 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Ohio
damncutekitty
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Default  Posted: 5:28 PM, November 11th (Monday)

Congratulations!


Keep calm and carry on.

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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 5:37 PM, November 11th (Monday)

Very cool.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7575 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 6:01 PM, November 11th (Monday)

Congratulations!! I am so happy for you!

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Random thoughts
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Default  Posted: 6:47 PM, November 11th (Monday)

Congratulation on anoth er New Beginning, Million Pieces


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Chasing Cars-Snow Patrol.
FWW

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AussieMum
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Default  Posted: 7:13 PM, November 11th (Monday)

Congratulations!! Love reading good news around here


Me 46
ExH 51
EA Jun-Aug 12 (OW1)FB flirting and then EA/PA with OW2 (Aug-Dec 12). New OW Jan 13, introduced her to the kids immediately.
Married 10 years, together 14yrs
2 kids (DS11 & DD7)
Separated Jan 13. Divorced Jun 14

Posts: 180 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
MyVoice
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Default  Posted: 7:41 PM, November 11th (Monday)

Congratulations I'm so happy for you xox


Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
Married 26 years
OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
"People are formed by their actions, not their ideals" unknown

Posts: 470 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Australia
cmego
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Default  Posted: 8:09 PM, November 11th (Monday)

Congrats!


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4113 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 8:16 PM, November 11th (Monday)

Congrats! How exciting! Happy for you both.

PS: Ring pic?


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

Posts: 15384 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl
Blackhair
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Default  Posted: 8:36 PM, November 11th (Monday)

Everyone here is cheering here for you! Congratulations!


M: 10 years
DD:5 DS Twin: 2 yrs old
DDay: Earlier 2013, WS flew/met many times with a Philippine girl found online (20 yrs younger)
SA finalized 6 months after DD. divorcing...
I am determined to fly even with broken wings and a broken heart!

Posts: 175 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Canada
little turtle
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Default  Posted: 9:14 PM, November 11th (Monday)


Failure is success if we learn from it.

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courageous
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Default  Posted: 10:47 PM, November 11th (Monday)

Congratulations! That is some truly wonderful news.


Me: BW (35)
Him: ExWH (31) EA/PA with MOW coworker
Married 9 years, 2 small kids
dday 3/12/2011 divorced fall 2012

My ipad does a lot of crazy typos.


Posts: 641 | Registered: Jan 2012
numbandnauseous
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Default  Posted: 12:13 AM, November 12th (Tuesday)

Congratulations and thanks for sharing!!!!

Love these happy, happy stories!!!!


BS (me) - 41
WH - 48, EA with HS GF x 2
M: 10 years, T: 20
2 small children
DDay#1 - Christmas 2011 (OW#1)
Confronted - 4/6/12
DDay#2 - July 9, 2012 (OW#2)
He is an SA (Oct 2012)
Divorcing

Posts: 827 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: the other side
blue8888
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Member # 40896
Default  Posted: 12:18 AM, November 12th (Tuesday)

Congratulations, gives me hope for the future!


Me- BW 31, WH- 29
M 11 yrs Together 13
2 kids (special needs)
Last Dday 9/26/13 EA w/ 19 yr old OW, too many prior EAs to list, one he kissed
Divorcing
My value hasn't decreased based on his inability to see my worth.

Posts: 38 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: United States
careerlady
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Member # 16958
Default  Posted: 12:24 AM, November 12th (Tuesday)

congrats! May your marriage last forever and bring you much joy!


Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI

Posts: 937 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Northern California
okaynow
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Member # 13813
Default  Posted: 12:36 AM, November 12th (Tuesday)

Congratulations!!!


Married 18 yrs, together 25+.
D-day: 2/18/07.
1 child
The story doesn't really matter anymore. Time is a great healer. Life is good.

Posts: 2430 | Registered: Mar 2007
Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 8:43 AM, November 12th (Tuesday)

Congratulations.


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 8:58 AM, November 12th (Tuesday)

congrats!


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 9:07 AM, November 12th (Tuesday)

Congrats!!


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

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fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 9:07 AM, November 12th (Tuesday)

Congrats!!


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 9:31 AM, November 12th (Tuesday)

How exciting! Congrats!

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lonelylost
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Default  Posted: 10:28 AM, November 12th (Tuesday)

Yay! Congratulations


Divorced Jan 2013

"Don't look back, the road is long."
- Needtobreathe


Posts: 208 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: IL
Pentup
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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, November 12th (Tuesday)

Ring pics?
Congratulations!


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

Posts: 6548 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
dreamlife
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Default  Posted: 1:08 PM, November 12th (Tuesday)

Congrats!


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

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SoHappyNow
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Default  Posted: 5:07 PM, November 12th (Tuesday)

Thanks for sharing this, and congratulations!!!!


In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer..Albert Camus
**Beloved hubby died at home 1/28/2013, age 61..** God sent me two good men in a row......and saved the best for last. Remarried 2/14/14, grief and joy....

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ChoosingHope
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Default  Posted: 5:46 PM, November 12th (Tuesday)

congratulations!!!

Wonderful.


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meaniemouse
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Default  Posted: 11:42 PM, November 12th (Tuesday)

Congratulations!


Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James

Posts: 2105 | Registered: May 2006 | From: Midwest
million pieces
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Member # 27539
Default  Posted: 7:17 AM, November 13th (Wednesday)

Thanks everyone!!! I've been a little crazy w kids' activities and work so this was the first time checking back in and the congrats were so overwhelmingly wonderful! I am so excited for my future, living my life w my very best friend :)

Ring pic to come, can't do that at work (actually shouldn't be doing these either )


Me - 42
2 kids, 9 and 11
D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later
Divorced 11/15/11!!!!

Posts: 1241 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: MD
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