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khrisdeus
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Default  Posted: 11:57 PM, November 11th (Monday)

So WW shut my cell phone off. Then when I can home told me how OM was a great fuck, huge dick, and could eat her out like nobody's business. Going to make it a whole lot easier to file tomorrow. I can't wait to be free.

Posts: 44 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Illinois
careerlady
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Default  Posted: 12:27 AM, November 12th (Tuesday)

I'm so sorry, she is a cold hearted person to treat you this way. You definitely deserve better and congrats on getting on the path to obtaining it


Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI

Posts: 937 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Northern California
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 12:51 AM, November 12th (Tuesday)

She sounds like a really vindictive bitch! But that should be your wakeup call as to what to expect after you file. Start thinking strategically to protect yourself from any future surprises.


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


Posts: 1033 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
monarchwings
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Default  Posted: 3:40 AM, November 12th (Tuesday)

Wow. I am sorry to hear she is being such a hateful bully. No ine deserves to be spoken to like that.

Posts: 95 | Registered: Jul 2013
Pass
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Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 8:35 AM, November 12th (Tuesday)

Wow! Holy fucking claws on her!

She's just saying that shit to hurt you. I'm sorry you're going through this.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1828 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
TrustGone
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Default  Posted: 9:12 AM, November 12th (Tuesday)

What a fucking bitch!!!!!! Just know that you are better off without her in your life. Get rid of the slut.


BW-50
WH#2-51
M-9 yrs T-11 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
Status: Your guess is as good as mine.

Posts: 2420 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
shiloe
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Default  Posted: 9:34 AM, November 12th (Tuesday)

Geeze, what a class act.

No, he IS a huge dick . . . . .and that great fu*k shit wears off after time.

Tell her good luck with that and she need to go live with him so he can do it to her when ever they feel like it


But remember, good love is hard to find . . -Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers
BS - 54
Cheater -54
Married 26 yrs
DD - 21 DD -19 DS-17
A#1 2000 with married ho-worker/neighbor ow#1
A#2 2007-? OW#2 LTA with married ho-worker. Kicked him out, he filed

Posts: 586 | Registered: Mar 2003
dmari
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Default  Posted: 10:06 AM, November 12th (Tuesday)

What a looney toon. I'm sorry she lashed out at you. Just shows how immature and selfish she is. File today. Your new beginning is going to be amazing.


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 18, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

Posts: 2146 | Registered: Oct 2012
welcome14
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Default  Posted: 12:44 PM, November 12th (Tuesday)

I would have had to look at her smug face and say "then what does he see in you?" and leave her to figure out just what you meant by it....but that's just me. I'm a bit rude...


Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx

I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.


Posts: 1171 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: clarksville, tn/ Ft Campbell
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 12:55 PM, November 12th (Tuesday)

She is disgusting. FTB


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2213 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
pregnantandsad
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Default  Posted: 1:09 PM, November 12th (Tuesday)

That's just awful, I am so sorry you have to deal with that.


M 7 years, together for 12
2 kids- DD4 and a newborn
D-Day 7/2013 he didn't want R and moved in with OW
Filing for D

Posts: 155 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: California
LifeIsBroken
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Default  Posted: 1:09 PM, November 12th (Tuesday)

I think WS's who say stuff like that are examples of how off-their-rockers they become once they begin their affairs. It's almost like any lie will do. My xh said inappropriate things to make me angry.... then, if I would have become angry, in his mind he was more justified to continue on the wayward path. It made it easier for him to pull away if I was being witchy, if that makes sense. I quickly learned not to become angry as it would add fuel to his fire. Instead, I would make calm, thoughtful responses. It's like dealing with small children who throw tantrums. Engaging in the craziness with your WS is what she wants because it makes it easier for her to do what she's doing. Don't fuel the crazy.

If you have documentation of when she has disappeared for days, with or without your children, have it with you when you go to court. She doesn't appear to be stable at all.

Good luck, hoping it goes well for you....


BW: 59
XH: 60
Married 34 yrs, LIBerated: 2/17/11
MOW: 50 (she said she wanted a sugar daddy; xh said, "I'M HIM!")
Actions ALWAYS have consequences. Too bad cheaters don't consider the consequences BEFORE they create so much damage.

Posts: 453 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Missouri & Massachusetts
7yrsflushed
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Default  Posted: 1:22 PM, November 12th (Tuesday)

If you haven't, start protecting yourself financially and listen to your L. Also if you don't have one get a VAR(voice activated recorder) and keep it with you at all times. If she is this vindictive now, the D proceedings are likely to get messy. Don't let her bait you into any arguments and don't engage her unless it's via email or text. 180 and detach and now it will be okay eventually. Come her to vent as needed and always remain calm around her. I wish you the best.


D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
D hopefully official any day now, off to check the mail again.

Posts: 1899 | Registered: May 2011 | From: VA
Lost15
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Default  Posted: 2:07 PM, November 12th (Tuesday)

Wow! What a class act she is. My STBXH is very vindictive also. He shut my phone off and gave me a go phone. He does things weekly to try to control me and just upset me. Don't trust anything she says to be the truth especially when the divorce proceedings start, that is when they get worse. Things that you never imagined them doing, they will do and you are better not to even react. Just contact your L. Good Luck with everything!


me(BS)-34 him(WS)-32 DS-15
Married 15 years
Blindsided with divorce 07-12-13
DD-08-1-13 OW-40ish,married 20 yrs, with 4 kids she abandoned
Divorcing and trying to move one tiny step forward at a time.

Posts: 114 | Registered: Oct 2013
SBB
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Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 3:12 AM, November 13th (Wednesday)

Klassy.

Let me tell you I had bigger/better (two VERY different things, BTW) than the sad clown and I've NEVER told him about it. Ever.

You don't need to when its true.

Aside from the patent cruelty she is simply a classless fuckwit.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

Posts: 5533 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Bravenewgirl
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Default  Posted: 7:16 AM, November 13th (Wednesday)

wow, just wow. Methinks the lady doth protest too much.

She is making this shit up just to hurt you...you can see that right?

What a grad-a fucking TWAT.

File those papers brother, you do not need to listen to that pile of human garbage and her nasty mouth for one minute longer.

(((((khris))))))))


Don't come around here no more
-Tom Petty

Posts: 661 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Canada
Take2
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Default  Posted: 7:42 AM, November 13th (Wednesday)

Holy hellcat! Lawyer up! And start carrying a VAR. She is out for blood. She is the enemy now. She tried to hit you where it would hurt the most (don't let it - recognize it for what it is - a low blow from a desperate woman).

Post here - vent here. With her - Go completely dark. NC! (kids and finances only!) Protect your assets! And yourself - VAR - Now! Do not say or write anything you don't want showing up in court to bite you in the ass!

Hang tough! ((khrisdeus))


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

Posts: 4112 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England
khrisdeus
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Default  Posted: 12:19 PM, November 13th (Wednesday)

My lawyer this morning advised me to let her waste all of her money. Let her pay to file, let her try to put things into action. He said don't leave the home because her attorney is advising her not to. He said my money will last longer reacting to her, than her money will last her coming at me first. Instead of trying to file this, and file that to anticipate her actions, only address what she throws at me.

Posts: 44 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Illinois
Housefulloflove
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Default  Posted: 12:29 PM, November 13th (Wednesday)

That sounds like really good advice as long as you are protected from the damage she could do to herself financially. If she doesn't file right away, you probably should. My ex maxed out credit cards and began to live like he knew the world was going to end before any bill was due. Thankfully he was responsible for EVERYTHING that happened after our date of separation.

What an evil b*tch! Don't give her another opportunity to say such nonsense. Treat her like an ugly picture on the wall (don't talk or look at her) that comes to life only when you need to discuss something *IMPORTANT* about the kids and finances. She doesn't deserve your attention or kindness, give her nothing but crickets.


Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
Undefinabl3
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Default  Posted: 12:36 PM, November 13th (Wednesday)

My lawyer this morning advised me to let her waste all of her money.

The problem with this statement is right now, her money is your money. Her credit is your credit, and her time is your time.

I understand what your lawyer is saying, but he doesn't have to life with her either.


Me: 31 MH
Him: 37 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit

Posts: 1717 | Registered: Sep 2012
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, November 13th (Wednesday)

Remember, all assets and debts are marital at this point. Think about that. If she starts racking up debt, it is marital debt... You might want to discuss that with your L and the best way to protect yourself.


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


Posts: 1033 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
lost4now
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Default  Posted: 1:41 PM, November 13th (Wednesday)

Well......I don't want to be too crude here but I think I would have said..."Yeah, it appears OM sucked your brains right out of your twat. I didn't even know that was possible but you are living proof"!


BS - ME 43
WH 44
Married 20 years
DDay #1 12/28/07
DDay #2 9/18/08
DDay #3 12/28/08
Dday #4 11/18/10 (same OW)
Dday #5 8/22/12 (same OW)
2 beautiful daughters
"Love grows where it is nurtured and dies where it is not!"

Posts: 841 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: NJ
khrisdeus
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Member # 41265
Default  Posted: 2:52 PM, November 13th (Wednesday)

My L is putting a request for relief through which would make her legally responsible for half the bills while she lives here, he also said her L said she was filing today. If so I should be getting served soon

Posts: 44 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Illinois
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