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boots5050
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Default  Posted: 8:40 AM, November 12th (Tuesday)

yesterday morning my wife and I went to therapy and discussed quite a few issues we had been struggling with, we both came out of therapy feeling emotionally close
reestablishing intimacy has been a challenge for us
so it was my thought to break this barrier between us.

I went to V.I.P ( a specialty shop) and purchased a gift, a vibrator.

Then I decided to get a card to go along with the gift. As I searched through the cards, I couldn't find and appropriate match.

Suddenly, I looked down and saw the get well cards and started laughing out loud. I purchased a card that simply said, "Get Well Soon".

I gave the card to my wife feeling embarrassed and nervous about her response. At first she looked perplexed and then she laughed. Still feeling embarrassed I handed her the gift. Then we both laughed. We still haven't stopped laughing.

I was pretty sure she was ready to see the humor of this gift. I took a chance and it seemed to have been worth it.

We laughed together.


Posts: 32 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: usa
JKL Vikings
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Member # 32094
Default  Posted: 9:33 AM, November 12th (Tuesday)

Any time you can share a laugh together, it's a good thing.
Good job on fighting through your nervousness.
Keep moving forward
JKL


Her- Alpha Female 40
Me-FWH 41
Married since '02, together since 2000
D-day 2/10/2009
3 sons- J- born Oct 2001
K- born Sept. 2005
L- born Apr. 2008
We ALL have issues. It's how we deal with them that makes the difference

Posts: 515 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Dallas, TX
Trying2Survive1
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Member # 40022
Default  Posted: 9:39 AM, November 12th (Tuesday)

Laughing right along with you !!! Thanks for sharing!


Madhatters, M 31 yrs
FWW/BS 57-BS/FWH 56
Separated 5 mos in 07.His DDay,11/07.False R since 07. My DDay,7/5/13."Once you are real you can't become unreal again. It lasts for always.
― Margery Williams, The Velveteen Rabbit

Posts: 128 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: United States
harrypotter
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Member # 39526
Default  Posted: 2:03 PM, November 12th (Tuesday)

Great that you shared a laugh, and pretty dang funny! Good for you two!


WS-Me
BS-Her (Lostinthismess)


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ascian
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Member # 40304
Default  Posted: 2:16 PM, November 12th (Tuesday)

My wife and I have both shared some pretty dark humor in the months following her affair. It takes some of the power away from the hurt, and gives us some common ground.

And honest laughter, with someone you care for, is always a good thing


Me - BH 39
Her - FWW 36
D-Day: 8/13
Working on R

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