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Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 2:46 PM, November 13th (Wednesday)

More than school ever taught me;

That I will dream again;

That who I chose to be with as a kid was not who I needed to be with as an adult;

And that out of the midst and wreckage come good things; I have to be willing to look through the pain to find them

and that I can go on.

that who I once loved is now my enemy and

that the world is still ok and full of good people who care.

I learned that I am stronger than I thought

and that perhaps I will even love one day, again.

I've decided that OW can have the prize

and I will go on to watch many more suns rise and set.

Life will be quieter now but also filled with other things.

The drama she can keep and the peace I will keep.


Ashland 13

You gave me nothing and now it's all I've got - Bono

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington


Posts: 2289 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
missmydogs
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Content  Posted: 3:14 PM, November 13th (Wednesday)

Yay,Ashland this list is fabulous! I think Ill print this out! I keep one on my phone that says: Don't be afraid to start over. It's a new chance to rebuild things. This time better. The way you want it.


Me 36
DS 16
DD 4

Divorced!

I've made a huge mistake - GOB


Posts: 71 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: missmydogs
Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 3:19 PM, November 13th (Wednesday)

I like that, MMD.

It's a long time to get here, that's for sure.

I think for a long time I was in a kind of dream state that wouldn't let me look past the pain. I had to do a lot of admitting in order to move on.

Maybe that's part of the acceptance we all have to go through.

Did you ever think...what was I thinking?


Ashland 13

You gave me nothing and now it's all I've got - Bono

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington


Posts: 2289 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
dmari
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Default  Posted: 4:35 PM, November 13th (Wednesday)

I love this post Ashland13! The only thing I would change is OW having the prize. Your ex is not a prize YOU ARE! I am excited about my life's journey but you are right I had to work past that pain. I had to name it, feel it, grieve it, process it, look it straight in the eye you get my point. But today is the gift that I have been given for getting through it.


Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

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Thefly559
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Default  Posted: 4:47 PM, November 13th (Wednesday)

I am so happy to see this post and to read the strength of the person behind it! You are doing amazing in your battle! Keep up the good work.


"what does not kill you , makes you stronger"

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