Just Found Out
User Topic: My head hurts
Member # 41313
Default  Posted: 9:43 PM, November 13th (Wednesday)

Every day a throbbing headache since I found out. I guess it is from all the sobbing. Normal?
Also I have always been a very trusting sort of person. Now I feel like I'm living in some sort of surreal crazy Dali painting. No idea what is real and what is a lie.

Posts: 132 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: the inside of my head
Member # 25001
Default  Posted: 10:00 PM, November 13th (Wednesday)

Unfortunately, this is normal. You're not going to which way is up or down for a while. Try to focus on yourself, maybe treat yourself to something relaxing. I know how difficult this all is.

Sending you strength and (((hugs)))

Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 1:41 AM, November 14th (Thursday)

So awful, and yet very par for the course.

Drink lots of water. You need it to keep hydrated (yes, crying actually dries us out) but you also need it to flush out all the cortisol jogging around your system.

It seems overly simple, but it will make a huge difference.


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

Posts: 17840 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Member # 41313
Default  Posted: 10:15 PM, November 14th (Thursday)

I've been feeling so awful, and I find it surprising that these cyber hugs from you all make me actually smile. I didn't expect anyone to actually care. Thank you.

Posts: 132 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: the inside of my head
OK now
Member # 14459
Default  Posted: 7:04 AM, November 15th (Friday)

You better believe we care!
Sisters in pain. Anyway we can help each other makes the agony that less intense. Just keep posting.

I have chronic, migraine headaches on a virtually daily basis so I know how distressing it must be. Hope your WH is suitably remorseful for his betrayal and initiating this physical pain to add to the misery.

Posts: 1748 | Registered: May 2007 | From: NC
solus sto
Member # 30989
Default  Posted: 7:25 AM, November 15th (Friday)

Oh, we care.

And yes, it's normal--the body is flooded with all kinds of stress hormones, and physical symptoms can be really shocking.

If you do your best to eat (as hard as it may be--lots of us end up relying on protein supplements early on), stay hydrated, get rest (even if you can't sleep, be sure to spend enough time resting your body--and if sleep problems persist, talk to your doctor), and exercise (best anxiety/stress/ANGER release!), you will give your body and mind the best odds at recovery from this enormous trauma.

BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8844 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
Member # 36711
Default  Posted: 7:36 AM, November 15th (Friday)

Headaches...constant since dd. I thought it was from the crying. Then the crying slowed down a bit but the headaches continued. I'm glad to hear it's "normal".

D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

Posts: 1292 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
Member # 41195
Default  Posted: 7:47 AM, November 15th (Friday)

This place is saving my life. Stay here and post often. I'm right there with you.

caelitus mihi vires
"My strength is from heaven"

Posts: 211 | Registered: Nov 2013
Member # 41322
Default  Posted: 8:24 AM, November 15th (Friday)

Stress and tension headaches...I feel your pain. 800mg of motrin on a full stomach (yeah right, who has a full stomach at this point) and lots of water. Reduce caffeine if you can, but this could cause headaches too!

I can relate because I have had my first two migraine headaches since my DD.

Take care of you!

[This message edited by Michman at 8:25 AM, November 15th (Friday)]

Betrayal is the only truth that sticks. -Arthur Miller, lol, that's rich.

Posts: 57 | Registered: Nov 2013
Member # 39885
Default  Posted: 11:14 AM, November 18th (Monday)

It will get better. Keep taking care of yourself. I know it's easy to drown yourself in alcohol. I also took up smoking again after quitting for 6 years. I have noticed a direct correlation between how I physically feel and how I feel emotionally. If my body is weakened by not eating, drinking too much the night before or overwork my brain has free run and the monsters take over. That's why it's important to take care of yourself. I haven't done the best job of that myself but when I do it helps tremendously.


Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.

Posts: 773 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: The beach.
Member # 39885
Default  Posted: 11:43 AM, November 18th (Monday)

(((Dyinghere))) too

Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.

Posts: 773 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: The beach.
Member # 41040
Default  Posted: 12:45 PM, November 18th (Monday)

More hugs from me. I am barely a month out and it has gotten a bit better. Drink as much water as you can. That was my mistake the first couple of weeks. As soon as I feel the tightening in my chest (my cue that a crying session is about to start) I get a huge glass of water. It's key.

WH -37; BS (me) 38
Married 12 years, 3 kiddos
First DDay 9/13. 3 more since then (trickle truth sucks). 6 years of Prostitutes, 2 affairs in 2013, SA diagnosis now with 1 relapse so far (massage parlor with happy ending 2/14).
Waiting, observing,

Posts: 210 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Southeast United States
Member # 41313
Default  Posted: 12:03 AM, November 26th (Tuesday)

I've never really been a crier. Now I have had to go to Walgreens and buy mouth-wetting drops because I am so dehydrated from all the crying. Glasses of water are all over my house. It is ridiculous. Get a grip, self!

Let's invent a time machine and go back to fix all these messes.

Posts: 132 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: the inside of my head
Member # 35593
Default  Posted: 12:12 AM, November 26th (Tuesday)

I had a massive headache because I could not sleep. I have prescription sleep meds and the headache lessened after I got rest and sleep. I dreaded night time and going to bed because the mind movies kept me awake. I am still taking the meds, but at half strength. I got dehydrated because I did not remember to even drink water or eat. It would be 6 pm and I would realize I had not eaten or drunk anything since morning coffee. My hair started falling out and I still have dark circles under my eyes that are not going away. I did nothing but cry all day until I had no tears left.

Remember to drink water and try to get rest anyway you can.

Me 52
WH 52
Married 30+ years
Together trying to R

I tell people I am tired but really my heart is broken and I am sad.

Posts: 1526 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Southern, bless your heart
Member # 41313
Default  Posted: 4:42 AM, November 26th (Tuesday)

People ask me what is wrong and I say I've been sick with the flu. I look awful...lost weight, dark circles, red eyes, sort of limp.

Posts: 132 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: the inside of my head
Member # 41217
Default  Posted: 6:28 AM, November 26th (Tuesday)

Almost 2 months for me and I am still barely eating or sleeping. I have lost a ton of weight. I am drinking lots of water and trying to keep busy. My hubby moved out right away so perhaps easier? I don't know I kind of wish he was there. I am working hard on no contact and struggling. He is just mean as can be when I do contact him so best not to.

Me- 32
Left me on 9/30/13 and moved right out
Divorce filed by him upon leaving
Living with OW

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