|Just Found Out|
Topic: Joining the club..
Member # 41296
| Posted: 10:02 PM, November 13th (Wednesday)|
Here I am. Another BS. We have been through many ups and downs in our marriage. This year was going well.. until it wasn't. It started with my uncovering my husband carrying on an EA with a coworker. It ended abruptly with my discovery. About 2 months later, ANOTHER coworker of my husband started sexting him. He had sex with OW#2. He confessed after misunderstanding my questioning him about our phone bill. He thought I had found out. They pretended to end it. It didn't. We started marriage counseling. My husband eventually came to me on his own to confess. He tried to break things off with the OW#2 by text, just like it started. She kept contacting him. I called her husband. He didn't believe me. I think she was warned by my husband, as her husband wasn't surprised by my call. OW#2's husband threatened to sue me for harassment for calling him at work! OW#2 works with my husband. He sent her a no contact email on 10/28. I believe him that it has ended. I'm terrified that OW#2 is just waiting for me to calm down so she can have another go at my WS. She was very aggressive in trying to get my husband to leave our family for her. I'm maintaining for our children. The kids are totally sheltered. I'm having a very difficult time controlling my emotions from day to day. The MC thinks my husband is in crisis after the birth of our infant daughter (as he had a very difficult childhood and his parents were horribly abusive.) I'm trying to be understanding, but it's hard. My happily ever after was taken away.
Me: BS age 35
Him: WS age 38
Married: 15 years.
Children: 5, 3, & infant.
WS: had EA June-July 2013 with OW#1; & PA Sept-Oct 2013 with OW#2.
Status: MC started and possible reconciliation underway. 2nd NC letter to OW#2 sent 10/28/13. Still raw.
Posts: 1 | Registered: Nov 2013
Member # 37455
| Posted: 10:28 PM, November 13th (Wednesday)|
OW#2's husband threatened to sue me for harassment for calling him at work
Have you sent him the texts?
Sorry that you are here, so glad you have found us!
BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone
Posts: 2869 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
Member # 38427
| Posted: 3:07 AM, November 14th (Thursday)|
Hi adrift, Hang in there. As far as The MC thinks my husband is in crisis after the birth of our infant daughter (as he had a very difficult childhood and his parents were horribly abusive., man- that may be true but there is absolutely no justification for what he has been doing. I am sure if you dig enough, everyone's childhood was pretty crappy at points. As far as the ow#2 wanting another go at your spouse, that may be true that she was aggressive, but your husband was not an unwitting duped participant in the affair. It was had for me to accept that my FWW could do such a thing and was not an innocent victim, but I had to realize in my head that she was capable of hurting our marriage that badly. Hey- as far as your happily ever after, believe me- if you two choose to R, and do the work, you can end up with an "even better ever after". I can happen. My wife and I were married 17 years with 4 kids when I jfo, and if you asked me then, I would not have thought I could have such a beautiful respectful marriage that we have now, even though she was plowing her AP for 3 years behind my back.
"Son, you've got the future- shining like a piece of gold, but I swear as we get closer- it looks more like a lump of coal"
Posts: 132 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Ohio
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