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User Topic: 11/15/2009 - Today is my D Day Anniversary
She11ybeanz
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Concerned  Posted: 9:52 AM, November 15th (Friday)

It doesn't hurt quite as much this year....as in the past few... but I still remember it was on a Sunday night.....and that I cried all night before I had to go to work the next day. I broke down crying in my bosses office and confided in her and she let me go home (luckily we were pretty close friends even though I had just started my job not a month earlier!)

I had just graduated from my masters degree the end of July... started my new career on October 13th and then I found his emails to MOW on November 15, 2009. Ones he had written to her in September when I was struggling working full-time through a temp agency to help with the bills.

I never knew my whole life would change from one click of a mouse button to snoop in his email account. My marriage died that night.....and I didn't actually realize it truly until he left me 10 days before our 5 year wedding anniversary on April 30th, 2010. Our divorce was final on December 13th, 2010.

I hope that one day....maybe...I will forget all of these details that seem so vivid to me now.... and maybe these dates will pass me by without a thought. That would be nice.

But, if you told me 4 years and 1 day ago that today I would be a single mom and my child would not be my XWH's baby....I would have called you bat-shit crazy! Life has a funny way of doing a 180 on ya....


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2710 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
katiesmom
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Default  Posted: 10:15 AM, November 15th (Friday)

(((Hugs)))

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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 10:21 AM, November 15th (Friday)

((Shelly))

It sure does.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7435 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
BrokenDaisy
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Member # 37063
Default  Posted: 11:44 AM, November 15th (Friday)

(((Lots of hugs)))


Me BxW, him SA NPD WxH
1 wonderful toddler - sole legal custody to me and supervised visitation to xwh.
DDay 01/2012
10/2013 Divorced!!

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Pass
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Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 11:53 AM, November 15th (Friday)

Hey Shelly. We share a DDay anniversary: Mine was Nov 15, 2012.

... and this day fucking sucks. It's nice to hear it gets easier.

Wishing you all the best today.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after married 17 years, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1698 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 11:57 AM, November 15th (Friday)

((pass)) I know that one year out it still hurt pretty darn bad so I feel for you today! It does get better..... now its just a memory.....but sometimes I indulge in the feelings I felt that day and that's not a good feeling. I can't wait until one day its 11/16 and I let the day pass without a thought! Kinda like your name.... pass! Funny huh!!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2710 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
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