User Topic: Stupidest thing ever said
Member # 36060
Default  Posted: 6:35 PM, November 17th (Sunday)

The good news is that we settled. Took the full two hours of the pretrial a couple of weeks ago, but it is done now. The judgment entry will be submitted in January for tax purposes.
So Waffle has a new job as a regular floor RN, having been fired twice from more senior nursing positions. He is back to rotating shifts and every other weekend. This means he's working one weekend and has the kids on his off weekend. It has seriously cut into the poor thing's MOW time. Awww. In his infinite wisdom, during his first weekend after the divorce settlement, he decides it's a great idea to take the kids to OW's house for the entire weekend, Friday night to Monday morning, driving them across two counties to get them to school.

When discussing with him the appropriateness of having the kids sleep over at her place ("she's daddy's very best friend, mama, he calls her 'my love'. She's so super nice!") after the usual defensive bullshit, he bursts out with this gem: "it's good for the kids to see a model of a positive, healthy relationship"

[This message edited by roughroadahead at 6:36 PM, November 17th (Sunday)]

BS-Me 30s
WS-Him 30s
D-Day 4/2012 (Insisted EA only)
D-Day 5/2012 (Did I say EA? Ummm..)
Numerous other TT/broken NC d-days until S 1/2013. D settled 11/2013
MOW-coworker, 40s.
2 DS and DD all w/autism

Posts: 739 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: USA
Member # 32847
Default  Posted: 7:11 PM, November 17th (Sunday)

I have no words...

Tune out the noise of what others tell you about who you are and work it out for yourself...

Posts: 1650 | Registered: Jul 2011
Member # 6330
Default  Posted: 7:19 PM, November 17th (Sunday)

Does her BS know?

Posts: 5473 | Registered: Jan 2005 | From: Chicago
Member # 36060
Default  Posted: 7:27 PM, November 17th (Sunday)

Yes, she is really DOW these days, theirs was final in July.

BS-Me 30s
WS-Him 30s
D-Day 4/2012 (Insisted EA only)
D-Day 5/2012 (Did I say EA? Ummm..)
Numerous other TT/broken NC d-days until S 1/2013. D settled 11/2013
MOW-coworker, 40s.
2 DS and DD all w/autism

Posts: 739 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: USA
Member # 32962
Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, November 17th (Sunday)


-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004

Posts: 880 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 38735
Default  Posted: 7:57 PM, November 17th (Sunday)

OMG, the Gnat said the same thing to me! After DDay he told me that he was leaving me for her, because the kids needed to see what a healthy relationship looks like. What a bunch of idiots.

BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 918 | Registered: Mar 2013
Member # 40115
Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, November 17th (Sunday)

More importantly, the kids need to see what not to do.

Edited to correct stupid typos.

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.

Posts: 1861 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 8:54 PM, November 17th (Sunday)

They do seriously get dropped on their heads in the D.

The sad clowns response to my refusal to acknowledge requests when he sends them via my 5.5 year old - he's trying to teach her to be responsible for her things. No arseface - you can't keep your dick in your pants, you're putting her in the middle.

Oh my - I laughed so hard I almost wet my pants. He got crickets but what I would have said:

Don't worry your little head about stuff your brain can't compute, dude. I have it covered.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5609 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Member # 29203
Default  Posted: 10:24 PM, November 17th (Sunday)

It really is true that you just cannot fix stupid!

Posts: 1064 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Louisiana
Member # 36134
Default  Posted: 11:58 PM, November 17th (Sunday)

After 10 years, I have a theory: the more they exchange fluids, the more brain cells are destroyed. The excuses will only get crazier.

When DD4 was 10 she asked him why he married me-he told her he THOUGHT he loved me. When she asked him why he married OW? " I feel weird living with her and not being married to her."

There you have it folks the best reason to get married-you feel weird!

You just can't make this shit up.

Good news, eventually you get a chuckle out of the crazy way they justify their actions. Sort of like a side show-you can't not look away.

I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5264 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
Member # 1558
Default  Posted: 8:44 AM, November 18th (Monday)

“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"Great love requires determination." ~ tryingtwo
"Don't try to win over the haters, you're not the jackass whisperer." ~ Brene Brown

Posts: 14040 | Registered: Jun 2003 | From: Middle-of-Diddly, TX
Member # 37898
Default  Posted: 9:54 AM, November 18th (Monday)

I want to laugh at that, but it truly makes me angry. (What he said, not the baby .gif--THAT makes me laugh!)

[This message edited by Abbondad at 9:54 AM, November 18th (Monday)]

Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.

Posts: 1627 | Registered: Dec 2012
Member # 3703
Default  Posted: 10:24 AM, November 18th (Monday)

"it's good for the kids to see a model of a positive, healthy relationship"
Is he fucking kidding? Does he believe his own shit that spews from his mouth? Wow, he's delusional.

D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.

Posts: 3404 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
Member # 32789
Default  Posted: 12:23 PM, November 18th (Monday)

Oh barf!

BS: (Me) 47
Kids: twins DD(10)
D-Day April 18, 2011
Him:out Sept. 11, 2011
He moved to Europe June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"

Posts: 1420 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Ontario, Canada
Member # 40229
Default  Posted: 1:14 PM, November 18th (Monday)

I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2334 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
Member # 39847
Default  Posted: 6:57 AM, November 19th (Tuesday)

Seriously, who are these people we married? And more importantly, why isn't there a mental disorder defined that would require them to be locked up and treated?!

BS: Me (30s)
WW: Her (30s)
10 year marriage with 2 small children.
Status: Divorced.
DDay: May 2013

Posts: 55 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: RavenWood
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