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Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 12:59 PM, November 18th (Monday)

Asked out next Saturday. I am as jumpy as a cat on a hot tin roof!! And maybe just a little excited about it as well...


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


Posts: 1033 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
nutmegkitty
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Member # 33882
Default  Posted: 2:11 PM, November 18th (Monday)

How exciting!!

What will you do on the date?


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


Posts: 2585 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
Phoenix1
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Member # 38928
Default  Posted: 4:53 PM, November 18th (Monday)

Just going to meet up for a casual dinner. Nothing special.


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


Posts: 1033 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
Blackhair
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Member # 39451
Default  Posted: 6:16 PM, November 18th (Monday)

That is still exciting, enjoy your First date! Keep us posted!


M: 10 years
DD:5 DS Twin: 2 yrs old
DDay: Earlier 2013, WS flew/met many times with a Philippine girl found online (20 yrs younger)
SA finalized 6 months after DD. divorcing...
I am determined to fly even with broken wings and a broken heart!

Posts: 175 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Canada
soveryweary
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Member # 32265
Default  Posted: 6:39 PM, November 18th (Monday)

OMG!!!! So excited for you!!!
Where did you meet him?
I cannot imagine what I will be like if/when I get asked on a first date!!


Divorced 1/3/14

Posts: 621 | Registered: May 2011
Phoenix1
Member
Member # 38928
Default  Posted: 7:41 PM, November 18th (Monday)

Where did you meet him?

We were both waiting for our cars to be repaired...

Can you believe I am already trying to decide what I am going to wear?? Geez, I thought I was past all that already...

[This message edited by Phoenix1 at 7:41 PM, November 18th (Monday)]


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


Posts: 1033 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
259
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Member # 22860
Default  Posted: 3:46 AM, November 20th (Wednesday)

nice


Me = FBS
Him = gone


things that happen in my life do not define who I am. I get to choose to be the best I can be, for me. cause I'm worth it.


Posts: 286 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: my happy place (most of the time)
broken2
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Member # 16935
Default  Posted: 12:57 PM, November 20th (Wednesday)

Oh Phoenix, you go girl!!!

Can you believe I am already trying to decide what I am going to wear?? Geez, I thought I was past all that already...
Oh, why the hell not. That's part of it. You are perfectly normal in trying to decide what outfit to wear.

Have fun!


Posts: 2031 | Registered: Nov 2007
Phoenix1
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Member # 38928
Default  Posted: 2:36 PM, November 24th (Sunday)

UPDATE!

The evening was great. We chatted for hours. Closed down the restaurant then walked next door to listen to some karaoke (I've never done that) at a small lounge. He was quite the gentleman and held my arm as we walked across the parking lot because it was very icy. We have a lot of common interests, and he has quite a good sense of humor, which is a must. It was just a really good time.

However, didn't know DS's girlfriend works at that restaurant. She saw us (came over to the table to chat) and am SO busted! Lol I am waiting for DS's third degree of who I was with any moment. DS will feel better when I tell him the guy is a high ranking officer in the same branch of the military as DS. That was a bonus.

He said he would like to go out again. If it happens, great. If not, that's okay too. If I don't make my expectations high I won't be disappointed. So it is good no matter what.

Just really feeling good overall at the moment.


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


Posts: 1033 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
newnormal
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Member # 21925
Default  Posted: 3:08 PM, November 24th (Sunday)

Whoop, whoop, whoop! You go girlfriend!


BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07

Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo


Posts: 1033 | Registered: Dec 2008
cmego
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Member # 30346
Default  Posted: 3:32 PM, November 24th (Sunday)

Great update


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4110 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
Blackhair
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Member # 39451
DOH!  Posted: 3:48 PM, November 24th (Sunday)

Good for you girl! Aren''t you glad that you took the first step to get out and start dating?!


M: 10 years
DD:5 DS Twin: 2 yrs old
DDay: Earlier 2013, WS flew/met many times with a Philippine girl found online (20 yrs younger)
SA finalized 6 months after DD. divorcing...
I am determined to fly even with broken wings and a broken heart!

Posts: 175 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Canada
torn2bits
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Member # 28376
Default  Posted: 6:13 PM, November 24th (Sunday)

This is amazing! How fantastic that you are such a great person to be asked out by someone while waiting for your car. It like a movie!

Congrats and keep having FUN!!!


Me: 44/WH (SA): 49
M: 24 years 3 kids over 10 yrs old
EA/ PA Dec. 2009 -Divorce pending

Posts: 1240 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: Midwest
persevere
Member
Member # 31468
Default  Posted: 6:31 PM, November 24th (Sunday)

Sounds like a nice time - awesome! A little stressful to have your kids know about your first date, lol, but it sounds like you have it handled. And you have a fantastic perspective.


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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