User Topic: Adult Friend Finder?
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Member # 41393
Default  Posted: 8:17 PM, November 19th (Tuesday)

I found out that my husband was visiting Adult Friend Finder as well as other porn. I have been married almost 20 years, have 5 children. He has been caught by me looking at porn a few times over the years. Why would a man use adult friend finder?

How can I get good proof?

Posts: 12 | Registered: Nov 2013
Member # 33606
Default  Posted: 8:59 PM, November 19th (Tuesday)

Bonnets, Look under Investigative Tips and you'll get more info. You might want to post your questions there too.

Adult Friend Finder is a site that is for anonymous sexual liaisons. It's pretty graphic and disgusting. Also, the company that owns it owns a few other similar sites like

A man would use AFF to find people to hook up with.

I think that you would need to find his user name and then look him up on the site. You might need to pay for a subscription to get any photos that he posted. Once you have his user name, you can google it - if he has multiple profiles on other sex sites, he might be using the same name. Google will capture that.

I'm sorry your H is on that site. It's not porn. It's just ads for hookups.

Posts: 1702 | Registered: Oct 2011
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 9:09 PM, November 19th (Tuesday)

The only reason to be on AFF is to find someone to screw.

Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011

Posts: 9856 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Member # 40115
Default  Posted: 10:57 PM, November 19th (Tuesday)

Oh God. Major trigger. Adult Friend Finder is where wayward spouses go to cheat.

Edited to correct stupid typos.

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.

Posts: 1878 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
Helen of Troy
Member # 26419
Default  Posted: 9:08 AM, November 20th (Wednesday)

I'm sorry you're here.
For the how to on AFF try another forum.
AFF is for cheaters and others for sex hook ups.
No need to be embarrassed, some of our xws were on there while married too.

Posts: 4719 | Registered: Dec 2009
Member # 6330
Default  Posted: 6:53 PM, November 20th (Wednesday)

AFF victim here but we're still together.

No other reason to be on there other than he either is looking to hook up with someone, is trying to hook up with someone or is hooking up with someone from there.

I would recommend a keylogger. You'll be able to talk to those in Investigative once you've posted 51 times.

Posts: 5473 | Registered: Jan 2005 | From: Chicago
Member # 33606
Default  Posted: 10:33 PM, November 20th (Wednesday)

I just wanted to post that keyloggers are illegal. The biggest mistake of my life was trying to install a key logger on my STBX's computer. He came after me in court - it's a federal crime. He's also threatening to sue me for civil damages.

I got lucky. It never installed properly and my lawyers are able to prove it.

Posts: 1702 | Registered: Oct 2011
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