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damncutekitty
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Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, November 20th (Wednesday)

The other day while I was doing a little cleaning, I asked my SO to grab the bag of trash out of the bathroom trash can. Later on I noticed that he'd gone ahead and placed a fresh trash bag in the bathroom can without being asked, and I thanked him for it. He looked at me like I was insane. Because who takes out the trash and doesn't put a new bag in the can. Who indeed?

I didn't say it to SO, but I can tell you that's the kind thing my XH did all the time. Mostly to exasperate me so that I would not ask him to help with chores.

My SO gladly helps with housework. He will even clean things without being asked. In fact he sometimes even cleans up after me. So amazing.


Keep calm and carry on.

Posts: 49482 | Registered: Nov 2004 | From: Minneapolis
msk99
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Default  Posted: 3:31 PM, November 20th (Wednesday)

We do exist....lol. Happy for you...


BS (Me): 40 STBXWW (Her): 40
M: 15 Years, 2 Awesome Boys
Divorced

Five simple rules of happiness:
1. Free your heart from hatred.
2. Free your mind from worries.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less.


Posts: 712 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Alberta
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 4:33 PM, November 20th (Wednesday)

In about a year, can you tell him to send his brother over!
I'm just not there yet, but don't make the mistake that I'm down for the count just yet.
Niiiiice.
STBXWH would take out the trash without being asked, and most times remembered to put a trash bag in, but oh did I have to pay for it in his PA way later on.


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2335 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
Newlease
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Default  Posted: 4:34 PM, November 20th (Wednesday)

DCK - after all the crap you have been through the last few years, it really warms my heart to see you enjoying not just a normal relationship, but a good one!

Very happy for you!

NL


Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.

Posts: 7744 | Registered: Aug 2005
k94ever
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Default  Posted: 5:36 PM, November 20th (Wednesday)

You are only a couple of hours from me.

Send his brother!!!!!!!!!


k9


BS: 56
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.

Posts: 6582 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: Wisconsin
missherlots
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Default  Posted: 5:37 PM, November 20th (Wednesday)

We are around still!!!!!

For two years, I got up early in the morning with XSO even though I did not have to. While XSO was taking a shower, I cooked her favorite breakfast every time she stayed with me at my place. It was my pleasure to cook and make her happy because I love her (still).

When she called me in the afternoon to let me know that she was coming to my place to sleep over, I would leave work early to have dinner ready since she was in a 9-5 office hours.

One of many things I did for her with my heart no my body.

That was my way to show her my love on top on the words.

Love is an everyday action for your partner.

Also, I did a good deed for a girl in a hike and she wrote me a note. she injured her foot and I help her descending from the mountain.

--------------------------
“Just wanted to say thank you again for all your help on Sunday. You made a very difficult and painful situation bearable.

When they show bad things happening on tv news and evil strikes, I try to remember to look at all the people running to help. You are one of those good people.

Your sweet spirit and gentle kindness make the world a better place.

I hope you will surround yourself with loving, joyful people who treat you with respect and honor.

You are in my prayers and forever in my gratitude.

love,
(name delete to keep her privacy).
--------------------------------

So good men do exist!!!

my two cents.

[This message edited by missherlots at 5:43 PM, November 20th (Wednesday)]


Pain and suffering is part of life, but I choose to feel love and compassion for all people excluding no one.

Posts: 96 | Registered: Jan 2011
wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 8:30 PM, November 20th (Wednesday)

Aw... this just makes me smile, kittycat.


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

Posts: 15415 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl
NaiveAgain
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Default  Posted: 9:01 PM, November 20th (Wednesday)


Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

Posts: 15291 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Ohio
better4me
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Default  Posted: 10:09 PM, November 20th (Wednesday)

a round of applause for DCK's guy and for msk99 and missherlots.

Love is a verb!


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 3209 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
HurtsButImOK
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Default  Posted: 2:42 AM, November 21st (Thursday)

wait, what! Your SO takes out trash and re-lines the bin...............

without a standing ovation ??????

No, really? Next you will be saying he changes the toilet roll

Happy for you, one day I too hope to have this partnership you speak of.


Me: Awesome - 35.... ummm, not anymore

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou


Posts: 752 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia
stronger08
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Default  Posted: 3:22 AM, November 21st (Thursday)


You cant eat soup with chopsticks.

Posts: 5730 | Registered: Nov 2007
trying to smile
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Default  Posted: 5:35 AM, November 21st (Thursday)


Good Women.
May we know them,
May we be them,
May we raise them.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Dday1 Aug 2005
Dday2 Aug 2014
I should have listened when he showed me who he was the first time.
Divorcing

Posts: 6195 | Registered: Feb 2006 | From: The Land Down Under
damncutekitty
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Default  Posted: 8:07 AM, November 21st (Thursday)

Hurts, he also bought me a programmable coffee maker and sets it up every night before leaving for work (he works nights). So I wake up to fresh coffee every morning.

I am getting very spoiled.


Keep calm and carry on.

Posts: 49482 | Registered: Nov 2004 | From: Minneapolis
lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 8:09 AM, November 21st (Thursday)

DCK, could you clone him and give us all a copy?

I'm very happy for you. You deserve a good man in your life.


Walk away from anything or anyone who takes away your joy. Life is too short to put up with fools.

Posts: 13810 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Houston
Dawn58
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Default  Posted: 9:36 AM, November 21st (Thursday)

So happy for you!! I had to dump the trash, put in the liner, but not before spraying the can with Lysol!!!!


I got into the marriage, because I loved him. I got out of the marriage, because I love me.

Posts: 481 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Southern California
Dawn58
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Default  Posted: 9:37 AM, November 21st (Thursday)

He was above dumping the trash.


I got into the marriage, because I loved him. I got out of the marriage, because I love me.

Posts: 481 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Southern California
ninebark
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Default  Posted: 10:25 AM, November 21st (Thursday)

Isn't it nice to have someone who does things for no reason other than that is what a good partner does.

my friends are in shock because BF came over on his day off while I was at work and did all the dishes and cleaned my kitchen because I was too tired the night before to do it. It made my day


BS (me) 40
WH - 48
Married 12 years
DS - 12
D-day 06/21/09
Separated....hopefully divorcing soon.

Posts: 630 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Canada
BelleStar
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Default  Posted: 12:01 PM, November 21st (Thursday)

In the 10 years that I stayed with XWBF, he never and I mean NEVER took out the trash and he NEVER put the toilet paper on the roller...not once did he do anything but complain....

MY LIFE IS SO MUCH BETTER NOW!


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phillygirl
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Default  Posted: 1:45 PM, November 21st (Thursday)

If he is up for cloning himself like suggested above, I'm in for one!


Me - BW
Him - WH
Divorced - 7/2013

Posts: 826 | Registered: Dec 2005
idkam
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Default  Posted: 2:03 PM, November 21st (Thursday)

I'm really happy for you DCK..... I know i shouldnt complain but when my SO takes out the trash he almost always forget to that we have trash cans in other places like the other bath room and our bd room... So when i empty the trash in those rooms the big trash can is almost full again....

My SO does all of the cooking and he grocery shops every sunday.... If i ask for blueberry pancakes for breakfast he makes it for me with no problem...

I love being spoiled and you will too DCK..


People come into your life for a Reason, Season or a Lifetime..
Divorced

Posts: 1801 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Texas
idkam
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Default  Posted: 2:04 PM, November 21st (Thursday)

I'm really happy for you DCK..... I know i shouldnt complain but when my SO takes out the trash he almost always forget to that we have trash cans in other places like the other bath room and our bd room... So when i empty the trash in those rooms the big trash can is almost full again....

My SO does all of the cooking and he grocery shops every sunday.... If i ask for blueberry pancakes for breakfast he makes it for me with no problem...

I love being spoiled and you will too DCK..


People come into your life for a Reason, Season or a Lifetime..
Divorced

Posts: 1801 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Texas
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