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Ashland13
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Member # 38378
Default  Posted: 11:27 AM, November 27th (Wednesday)

What I wish for the most, is...

Money is the obvious one, so I will say more...

1.) More hands;

2.) More types of drive thru's for younger, sleeping kids to not have to get out of the car;

3.) More time

4.) That dd did not know or spend time with Fatty B. Ugg.

What do you wish for?


Ashland 13

You gave me nothing and now it's all I've got - Bono

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington


Posts: 2306 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
lisaloo
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Member # 20082
Default  Posted: 12:32 PM, November 27th (Wednesday)

I'm not a single parent just yet, but I have been (before I met WH, and after Dday 2) and certainly more money...but also a little more understanding, because it feels like other people put the blame on me for being the only parent, when nothing could be further from the truth...but mostly, more time. I wish WH had given DD the gift of being a decent father longer. Instead, he's giving her the gift of "daddy issues."


Me: 33 STBXH: 34 DD: 8
D Day (EA): 6-19-08
D Day #2 (SA): 7-5-10
D Day #3 (EA): 11-8-13
WH moved out: 11-18-13
Moved BACK IN (because the lawyer told him to): 11/29/13.
Filed for Divorce: 12-9-13
In house separation...fun, fun, fun.

Posts: 474 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: AL
nutmegkitty
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Member # 33882
Default  Posted: 12:36 PM, November 27th (Wednesday)

I wish I could just relax for a little while. I always feel on edge.

I also wish I did not have to spend so much freaking time in the car, shuttling little ones back and forth.

More money would be lovely too.


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


Posts: 2601 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
ninebark
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Member # 24534
Default  Posted: 12:36 PM, November 27th (Wednesday)

As a single parent:

- more time
- money money (of course)
- some appreciation from my family of how difficult it is at times being a single parent.
- a day off, just for me, no driving around to sports or appointments, no responsiblities, just a day to myself. I only need one day to recharge..lol. DO you think Adam Levine would be willing to be my slave for that day...probably not
-and my big one ---- the world to see who the real parent is and who the disney dad is!!


BS (me) 40
WH - 48
Married 12 years
DS - 12
D-day 06/21/09
Separated....hopefully divorcing soon.

Posts: 630 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Canada
GabyBaby
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Member # 26928
Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, November 27th (Wednesday)

As a divorced parent (remarried now, but still) of young adults, I wish my kids could see my truth.

They're very hesitant to hurt their dad's feelings, which usually means I get sidelined or they consider his plans (holiday, weekend, etc) first before giving the ok to things I plan with/for them.
In a nutshell, I guess I just wish they could appreciate things from my view.


Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity.


Posts: 6588 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
Topic Posts: 5