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brkn_heartd
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Member # 30396
Default  Posted: 7:26 PM, November 28th (Thursday)

Thanksgiving used to always be a big tradition at our home. We were usually the hosts for the family gathering. My Mother died in early 2009 and my FWH started his A in August 2009. He was in the middle of it in Nov 2009. We went to our son's home that year for Thanksgiving. They typically celebrated with friends and not family. It was very obvious that we crimped the party (i.e. no pot allowed with parents around).We haven't been back for Thanksgiving. Not to mention FWH was being an a$$ that day to me. Since then we have moved farther away from our family for employment.

It is now 2013. We had a very nice, quiet day with the just the 2 of us. Our daughter was working and we will do a family dinner tomorrow. It has been a very nice day. The pain is gone. We did briefly speak of it today. During our blessing tonight at dinner, he thanked God for me giving him another chance, and he was choking up during his prayer.

I tell this story to those that are just experiencing the pain of betrayal for your first holiday season. It does get better. It is possible to have a holiday without the A dominating everything about the day. R is possible if FWS is committed to trying.

SI has made a huge impact in my life and recovery. I only wished I had found them when I was dealing with the A. There is so much support and wisdom. I am very Thankful that the wonderful people here offer so much support.


Me-50 BS
Him 57-WS
Married 30 yrs, together 33
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10

Posts: 1533 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Northwesten US
LosferWords
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Member # 30369
Default  Posted: 7:41 PM, November 28th (Thursday)

Thank you for the message of hope! I'm glad things are going better for you.

Posts: 6251 | Registered: Dec 2010
Jrazz
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Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 12:33 AM, November 29th (Friday)

Great report, brkn_heartd!


We are what we repeatedly do, excellence, then is not an act but a habit. - Aristotle

Posts: 16433 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Shattered-Heart
Member
Member # 32165
Default  Posted: 12:48 AM, November 29th (Friday)

I'm glad you had a nice, peaceful day. Hope to follow in your shoes right now, as for me the season from now to VDay is one giant trigger.
Hope you have a wonderful dinner tomorrow night, too.


Me BW
Him WH
"The trick is to keep breathing." - Garbage

Posts: 180 | Registered: May 2011
yousaid4ever
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Member # 32626
Default  Posted: 2:39 AM, November 29th (Friday)

Thank you, it is so encouraging to hear that it can and does get better. Am very happy for you and for the Thanksgiving you shared with your hubby.


I took your words and I believed
In everything you said to me
Cause you said forever
And ever, who knew?......Pink

BS(me)55...STBXWH 55
Married 37 yrs/4 grown children, 5 grandchildren
DD's-10/75; 10/80; 09/92; 12/09; 12/10; 03/11...more?


Posts: 74 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Utah
yousaid4ever
Member
Member # 32626
Default  Posted: 2:40 AM, November 29th (Friday)

sorry, double post.

[This message edited by yousaid4ever at 2:41 AM, November 29th (Friday)]


I took your words and I believed
In everything you said to me
Cause you said forever
And ever, who knew?......Pink

BS(me)55...STBXWH 55
Married 37 yrs/4 grown children, 5 grandchildren
DD's-10/75; 10/80; 09/92; 12/09; 12/10; 03/11...more?


Posts: 74 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Utah
TennisTC
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Member # 41330
Default  Posted: 9:29 AM, November 29th (Friday)

Thank you for your post. This is my first holiday season after the A, which was going on this time last year. The holiday season feels tainted to me this year, and it's encouraging to hear that it's possible it won't always be this way. I hope you have a wonderful dinner tonight.


Me: BW Him: WH (Both early 30's)
Married 11 years with a DD7
DDay: 2-24-13
R'ing

Posts: 165 | Registered: Nov 2013
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