SurvivingInfidelity.com Forums
Divorce/Separation
User Topic: 1:31 A.M.
welcome14
Member
Member # 26741
Default  Posted: 1:30 AM, November 29th (Friday)

We made it! We got through Thanksgiving for another year. Yay us! I remember Thanksgiving four years ago, I had just found out. I was supposed to host my daughter, her boyfriend, a soldier that worked for me and her two kids and husband and my son, his wife and my two grandkids. Two days before, my daughter decided to have dinner at her boyfriend's mother's house. My son decided to stay home with his inlaws. The day before the soldier said her husband was smoking a turkey and they weren't coming.
So, I was alone, with a thawed and brined turkey in the fridge. I decided to go to the river, the boat launch where XWF and I had fished so many times, and I cried, oh, how I cried, over all the loss in my life. I had a runaway XWF. He told me ILYBINILWY, he loved her, a woman he had only met on the internet.
While I was there at the launch, crying and grieving, my daughter called. She wanted to be home with me, and have dinner. Then my son called to say that he, my DIL and my two grandbabies were coming for dinner. Then the soldier called and said her, her husband and their two kids were coming. At 10:00 people. Whiskey Tango Foxtrot. For realz.
I stuffed that bitch and threw that damn turkey into the oven. I was making mashed potatoes with my right hand, and stirring the gravy with my left, while ignoring the damn turkey in the oven. It could go straight, screaming, to hell.

Did I mention that I have a pond and landscaped yard? They wanted to see the koi and spend time on the deck. Soooooooooo, clean deck, clean leaves off of walkway. Sweating like a pig, vacuuming with one hand while dusting with another, screaming to all the Gods in the universe that life was unfair, while washing the Thanksgiving dishes and throwing the linens in the wash......cleaning the shower while I was washing my hair and shaving my legs...I had been out of the shower for ten minutes when the first guest showed up.
And, sweet fancy Moses, the turkey turned out to be the best I had ever made, the gravy and potatoes were perfectly seasoned even though I had never tasted them,and the broccoli and squash casserole were amazing, and everyone had the best Thanksgiving they had ever remembered. After everyone finally left, and three shots of Patron later, I got onto my knees and thanked God that life was truly good, and knew, at that point, that I would make it.
Life will go on, and we will make it better for all of those who know us, because, that is who we are. The betrayed, the strong, the successful. Because we have been making it real for our families alone for all these years. We are awesome and those losers will someday just be fading memories in the rearview. Rock on!

[This message edited by welcome14 at 1:39 AM, November 29th (Friday)]


Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx

I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.


Posts: 1175 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: clarksville, tn/ Ft Campbell
ArkLaMiss
Member
Member # 14918
Default  Posted: 1:38 AM, November 29th (Friday)

Bless you, Welcome. I wish you many great holidays to come!


Just HOW stupid do you think I am, exactly?

Posts: 1178 | Registered: Jun 2007
timeforchange
Member
Member # 27454
Content  Posted: 4:52 AM, November 29th (Friday)

ah boy you just made me cry

Fantastic post


Me = BS aged 43
2 boys, 13 and 9
DDay 1/19/10
Confronted him 2/16/10
Finally Divorced 8/29/12

“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”


Posts: 726 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Expats in Europe
debbysbaby
Member
Member # 32962
Default  Posted: 7:09 AM, November 29th (Friday)

Love this! You painted such a vivid picture. Your new beginning should include writing for a living.


-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004

Posts: 860 | Registered: Aug 2011
trumanshow
Member
Member # 25624
Default  Posted: 7:49 AM, November 29th (Friday)

I stuffed that bitch and threw that damn turkey into the oven.


Your ex wanting to be friends is like asking a kidnapper to stay in touch when they let you go.

The type of fierce loyalty that I possess made me incapable of comprehending the level of disloyalty that he possessed


Posts: 1746 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: Charlotte, NC
MakingLemonade
Member
Member # 41143
Default  Posted: 9:22 AM, November 29th (Friday)

I LOVE THIS!!!! Thanks for sharing!


Me: 40's; XBS Him: 40's; XWS/NPD/SA
D-day 1: 5/2007- A #1; 7/2007 A #1 continued-R
D-day 2: 3/2013 A #2/multi-ONSs; 4/2013 A #2 continues to present
D: 7/2013 (25 yrs together; days shy of 22nd anniversary-GOAL MET!)
Our kids: teen & tween

Posts: 168 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Southern US
careerlady
Member
Member # 16958
Default  Posted: 9:29 AM, November 29th (Friday)

Great story! I''m happy for you!


Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI

Posts: 937 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Northern California
jackie89
Member
Member # 38271
Default  Posted: 10:22 AM, November 29th (Friday)

You just made me cry! You described it so perfectly! Isn't it amazing that in those trying times that the food will come out the best - because you made it with such love!

You Rock!


Separated/divorcing

"The Secret of Change is to focus all your energy - not on fighting the old, but on building the new" ~~Lori Greiner FB post~~


Posts: 469 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
sleepless34
Member
Member # 40274
Default  Posted: 10:54 AM, November 29th (Friday)

That is a great story. Thank you


Me BW- 40ish, awesome
Cheating scusband 40ish
2 kids, elementary school age
Bomb dropped Aug 4 out of nowhere...

Posts: 443 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Hell
welcome14
Member
Member # 26741
Default  Posted: 11:48 AM, November 29th (Friday)

Thanks everyone, I just wanted to try and recreate that early-on havoc we are all thrown into in an attempt to let the newer ones know that life will go on. That while life is moments of unmitigated chaos and scrambled hell, there will be moments of great peace again. When I wrote the original post, I was finally back home after sharing Thanksgiving with a great friend and her daughters, then we did a little crazy shopping, just to get out there and see the scene, if you know what I mean. I was sitting on my couch, with my feet up, and the stupey beagle was snuggled next to me, and my yorkie was in my lap, and I realized how far I had come since that first, just found out Thanksgiving day. As Nikki Six says, "Life is beautiful"


Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx

I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.


Posts: 1175 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: clarksville, tn/ Ft Campbell
PurpleRose
Member
Member # 33129
Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, November 29th (Friday)

You rock.


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3557 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
Shattered-Heart
Member
Member # 32165
Default  Posted: 3:33 PM, November 29th (Friday)

I love it. Thank you for sharing. :)


Me BW
Him WH
"The trick is to keep breathing." - Garbage

Posts: 180 | Registered: May 2011
SBB
Member
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 4:21 PM, November 29th (Friday)

I love this. It gave me goosebumps.

Love it.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

Posts: 5535 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
soveryweary
Member
Member # 32265
Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, November 29th (Friday)

This is absolutely fabulous welcome.
What a wonderful read after a not so good day.
Thank you.


Divorced 1/3/14

Posts: 621 | Registered: May 2011
prowoman
Member
Member # 40761
Default  Posted: 8:31 PM, November 29th (Friday)

agreed. awesome, feel good, keep your head up post. thank you!


me: BS 39 | stbxWH: 46
DD14, DS2
DDAY: Aug12... A continued "underground"
Separated Nov13 and Divorcing
OC Born May 14

Posts: 129 | Registered: Sep 2013
Topic Posts: 15