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soveryweary
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Default  Posted: 4:59 PM, November 29th (Friday)

So we were both suppose to sign and fax over our our signature page of the divorce decree.
I was all ready to send mine and he texts this morning saying he won't agree to the non modification clause and he will not get any insurance in case he dies. Said that if he's lucky enough to die before the spousal support ends, I'm shit out of luck.
After being NC for 5 weeks, I called him. I won't write anything in a text or email that can come back to haunt me.
After getting the " I'm only on 40 hours and how am I going to afford everything", I let him have it. My bad , but I told him he should maybe cut back on all the money he has been spending on his whores and save for the future .He hung up on me.
Then he text that he would meet me at the bank and sign. I printed out the papers, met him at the bank and he signed.
I ran to kinkos to fax and Fedex the papers to my lawyer.
This is the text he sent while I was facing that literally caused me to buckle.

"You are still really hot and I would love to fuck you!"

I didn't respond and received thus gem:

"I wasn't saying that to be a smart ass either. I still love you very much."

I thought he had said/done it all to me. I think he is truly insane.


Divorced 1/3/14

Posts: 604 | Registered: May 2011
IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 5:10 PM, November 29th (Friday)

Well, stop the presses and call of the lawyers, he still thinks you're hot and he still loves you. ( Huge eye roll). Love the way he is trying to "win you back". Yup, he's a keeper

You did very well SVW. You got what you needed and ignored the crazy. Moving on


Me: 45 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 22, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1676 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
soveryweary
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Default  Posted: 5:25 PM, November 29th (Friday)

Thank you so much Irish.
I shared with my best friend and she had no words.
I knew the dear souls here would get it.:0)


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sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 5:40 PM, November 29th (Friday)

he is a disgusting human being.


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

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Posts: 3171 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
movingforward13
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Default  Posted: 8:01 PM, November 29th (Friday)

He is a stupid piece of shit.


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Regret is not remorse- know the difference!

Posts: 636 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: DC
welcome14
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Default  Posted: 8:03 PM, November 29th (Friday)

Wow. Cause it really is the next hit of the ego kibbles, nothing related to you at all, really. If you had said yes, what a HUGE hit for him. They really don't think at all, and especially not about anything but their needs. ((hugs)) so sorry you have do deal with that fucker, but at least the divorce is almost finished...you go girl!


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Posts: 1161 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: clarksville, tn/ Ft Campbell
shiloe
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Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, November 29th (Friday)

Does he have an OW you can forward the text too??
One he is saying the same thing to?

Maybe she could appreciate seeing what he sent to you.

FTG

[This message edited by shiloe at 8:35 PM, November 29th (Friday)]


But remember, good love is hard to find . . -Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers
BS - 54
Cheater -54
Married 26 yrs
DD - 21 DD -19 DS-17
A#1 2000 with married ho-worker/neighbor ow#1
A#2 2007-? OW#2 LTA with married ho-worker. Kicked him out, he filed

Posts: 573 | Registered: Mar 2003
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 8:39 PM, November 29th (Friday)

Well it worked on the whore so why not take a chance on you, eh?

What a loser he is.


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even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
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Posts: 3523 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
SBB
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Default  Posted: 2:13 AM, November 30th (Saturday)

Well it worked on the whore so why not take a chance on you, eh?

^^THIS. I think I vomited in my mouth a little.

There are no fish in this pond.
This pond has no water.
Fuck.Off.


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Posts: 5419 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
persevere
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Default  Posted: 2:47 AM, November 30th (Saturday)

AYFKM? Sometimes stupidity truly has no limits...


Me: BW-43
Him: XWH-43
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

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Posts: 4374 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
Bravenewgirl
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Default  Posted: 5:45 AM, November 30th (Saturday)

Holy sweet mother of moses, WHAT THE FUCK?

I will never understand how their minds work...never!

I think you handled it well. For example, you did not crash your car through his front door and drive over him repeatedly until he was just a stain.

This is a perfect example of why NC is a girl's (and boy's) best friend. One little encounter and he spews that douche-of-the-century gem. Unfreakingbelievable. Insane is the most apt description indeed.

WH texted me pictures of his junk throughout the aftermath of Dday, even while telling me that he he lurrrrved OW. Oh, darling, I am disappointed that you have a side-whore, but your erect penis is just soooo seductive that you can eat all the cake you want! Sheesh.

Your head is high, you did not respond (well done you!), you have what you needed, and now you can go back to ignoring the POS.

Onward.


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Posts: 661 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Canada
soveryweary
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Default  Posted: 5:54 AM, November 30th (Saturday)

I just think you are all the best.
Love the responses, thanks so much!!


Divorced 1/3/14

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Threnody
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Default  Posted: 8:59 AM, November 30th (Saturday)

"I wanted to fuck you, too. That's why I had you sign these papers."

Okay. Maybe not. But hopefully you're smiling.

*hug*


“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"Great love requires determination." ~ tryingtwo
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Posts: 14040 | Registered: Jun 2003 | From: Middle-of-Diddly, TX
Compartmented
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Default  Posted: 9:10 AM, November 30th (Saturday)

SoVeryWeary...I received a similar text upon settlement of our divorce. Really sucks. It made me think he was either trying to be mean, or really was nuts enough to think I'd go for it.
I think you handled it well. For example, you did not crash your car through his front door and drive over him repeatedly until he was just a stain.

I really like this ^^^. It says so much!

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IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 11:52 AM, November 30th (Saturday)

"I wanted to fuck you, too. That's why I had you sign these papers."


PERFECT


Me: 45 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 22, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1676 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
soveryweary
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Default  Posted: 5:30 PM, November 30th (Saturday)

You ladies rock!!! Hysterical posts.
Thank you!!!


Divorced 1/3/14

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