Bit of a vent.
I remember last Christmas, WH talking to me about his plan to slowly "phase out" OW by contacting her less and less, slowly disappearing from her life. He tried it several times in different ways but she refused to let go. And he refused to have the balls to just end it.
Anyway, his telling me that was not a shocker, it goes along with his conflict-avoidant nature. And,...it also gave me insight into what he is doing with me and DD now!
Shot himself in the foot by admitting his thought processes like that.
He is starting to contact us less and less (which is great for me but not for DD). I can almost predict his schedule of contact. "Start by three times a day....wean off to twice a day....then once a day but later in the afternoon....then every other day...then twice a week...."
Its actually comical. Thing is though, he should be talking to DD daily. I'm about to bring that up. What a self-centered jerk. He can ignore me all he wants, better for me. How he can go that long without a word to DD is horrible. Not even a "happy Thanksgiving" to her.
As part of his slow "phase out" campaign, he feels we should just verbally and quietly agree on the divorce stips and financials...quiet and sweet and then fade away into the mist....just the same attitude he had during the marriage. No fights, no confrontation, don't carve my wimpy nature in stone...just be happy with crumbs.
People here were right when they said you will get the same attitude in the D that you did get in the M.
Well I am telling him NO. We are documenting every single asset in Black and White. Bold print. If we are divorcing, lets have a Real fun one! Yep, your race car (technically our race car) is going down in writing!! Value...$15,000. Your shiny new truck your parents bought US. $32,000. The list goes on.
I will not fade away. He will remember this.
He can go phase out himself. Big wimp of a man.