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User Topic: I'm tired. Just leave me the eff alone.
suckstobeme
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Default  Posted: 4:48 PM, December 1st (Sunday)

I'm so tired of it all. I can't give a shit about him, her or anything they do anymore.

Why he now cares that I don't give a shit, I'll never understand. Isn't this exactly what he wanted? Me out of his life? He should be having a party.

As some of you may know, my ex is a passive aggressive dick bag. He knows he can't get to me much at all anymore except through the kids. So, he has this awesome habit of ignoring my text messages that are always purely about the kids or not answering for a while so I worry and have to text again. This mainly happens when they are with him. I don't interfere with visitation and just want to be sure they are ok and/or get confirmation of when they are coming home since that sometimes changes. Hence, the texts. Trust me, they are minimal in number and I use as few words as possible.

He did it again the other night and it happened to be one too many times. So, I told him I will just make sure that DS has his phone on him from now on and I will go through him for answers.

Ex acted like I wanted to chop off his pinky toe. "no, that's not necessary". "I'll be more attentive to messages". "I will pay more attention".

What the fuck. Just leave me alone. I don't want you to be more attentive anymore. I don't ask for much and you can't even give me this one common courtesy as their mother, so go fuck yourself with a rusty spoon. Shove your useless apologies straight up your ass. This is what you prayed for - so I'm giving it to you ten fold.

Merry Christmas, douche.


BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.

Posts: 2504 | Registered: Jan 2011
alphakitte
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Member # 33438
Default  Posted: 5:16 PM, December 1st (Sunday)

You probably would have kept your power if you would make sure your son has his phone with him, inthe future. As frustrating as it is for him not to respond,quickly, regarding the kids, poking him about it cost you more than it probably was worth.


------ Some people are emotional tadpoles. Even if they mature they are just a warty toad. Catt

Posts: 335 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: 3 klicks north of Ambiguous
soveryweary
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Member # 32265
Default  Posted: 6:20 PM, December 1st (Sunday)

He is a big fat douchebag!!!


Divorced 1/3/14

Posts: 579 | Registered: May 2011
Strongmama
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Member # 33062
Default  Posted: 7:38 PM, December 1st (Sunday)

Oh God, what an absolute asshole!
My now ex did the same crap. Stay strong and be
prepared for it to intensify the more you detach.
Mine went bat shit crazy; stalked me; tortured me and our kids, and eventually had a three night stint in jail!
Best three nights of my year!
These f'ing assholes are absolutely evil.
The stuff they've already done to us, and then to continue
the hurt and fear and torture.
Hang in there. It truly does wear you out.
Oh, and now my ex has freaking amnesia about all he did???
Can't understand why I hate him and wish he was
Dead....they are truly nuts, and evil to the core.
Fuck them!

Posts: 662 | Registered: Aug 2011
SBB
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Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 2:20 AM, December 2nd (Monday)

It might be time to bust that button he has become so fond of pushing.

I too wanted to know my girls were OK. A part of accepting this shit sandwich has been relinquishing that control. He was using it to hurt me so I had to shut that shit down.

It will burn for a while but you will get used to it. Brick up that door that you are allowing him to torment you through. Make it watertight.

I'm not suggesting it is easy - far from it. It was agony. But the payoff (more detachment) was so very worth it. It works.

((stbm))


Sending all of the love and strength I can muster to Phoenix1 and her family.
"Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal."

Posts: 4552 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
sparkysable
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Member # 3703
Default  Posted: 9:16 AM, December 2nd (Monday)

go fuck yourself with a rusty spoon. Shove your useless apologies straight up your ass
And this...is why I love you!



D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.

Posts: 2793 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 9:17 AM, December 2nd (Monday)

From now on, I would make sure DS has his phone with him and I'd use that. Take away the one tiny link that POS had to mess with you with, and go through DS exclusively.

And then hand him the rusty spoon



D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.

Posts: 2793 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
caregiver9000
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Member # 28622
Default  Posted: 5:21 PM, December 2nd (Monday)

(((stbm)))


Me: 43, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 12 DS 9
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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