Wayward Side
User Topic: timeline
Member # 41497
Default  Posted: 10:37 PM, December 4th (Wednesday)

How important is it in working towards R? I've told him everything i can think of, and answered every question he has had, except for the ones i'm trying to work on figuring out myself. Though he hasn't asked for an official timeline, and actually said "why would i want one?", i made one anyway just in case. Just curious. he is making it seem as though what ive told him is enough. I'm keeping it anyway just in case he does one day want it

Mad Hatter

Me: 21
Him: 21
Together 2 years
my ONS->1 mo EA abroad

after D-Day BF admitted he had broken NC with EXGF (EA)
D-DAY 11/21/13

In Limbo

Posts: 114 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Kentucky
Member # 20082
Default  Posted: 11:18 PM, December 4th (Wednesday)

That's for your spouse to determine...for me, I NEEDED every little detail and date and time to heal after Dday's like someone had taken a part of my memories from me and without every single one of those details I couldnt fill in all the blanks in my memory.

Me: 33 STBXH: 34 DD: 8
D Day (EA): 6-19-08
D Day #2 (SA): 7-5-10
D Day #3 (EA): 11-8-13
WH moved out: 11-18-13
Moved BACK IN (because the lawyer told him to): 11/29/13.
Filed for Divorce: 12-9-13
In house, fun, fun.

Posts: 474 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: AL
Member # 41286
Default  Posted: 5:48 AM, December 5th (Thursday)

He may not need it. I would kill for one.

It helps you also to recall things you think are unimportant... until he asks and you can't remember. It can sound demeaning or suspicious. Seal it in an envelope and label it "timeline". If he ever does need it; it will be available and not lead to another d-day of hidden stuff.

Me: 42
WW: 36
Latest D-day: Sept 2013
Reconciling? Limbo?

Posts: 96 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: NE Ohio
Topic Posts: 3