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phmh
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Member # 34146
Default  Posted: 10:45 PM, December 4th (Wednesday)

Or, reversary, as someone else called it once here -- reversing the damage that being married to an NPD/ASPD did to me!

If you'd told me two years ago what my life would be like and how happy I'd be, I never would have believed it. So glad I didn't follow through on my suicidal thoughts when I figured my life was over without XWH.

Looking forward to see what else the future has in store for me! There is hope, guys. Things get so much better.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo


Posts: 3317 | Registered: Dec 2011
FaithFool
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Member # 20150
Default  Posted: 11:02 PM, December 4th (Wednesday)

Two years was still rough for me, so good on ya! You're doing great.

I just realized I'm nearly halfway into year 6... and it gets sweeter by the minute.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17340 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
libertyrocks
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Member # 38924
Default  Posted: 6:00 PM, December 5th (Thursday)

That's great news, phmh. I'm so happy for you! You escaped. Not everyone is smart enough to escape. I'm proud of you.


Me-BW 36. STBXH-35,Recovering Alcoholic, M6yrs T13. Boys 2 & 4 1/2.
DDay #1 Nov,2012. 1 1/2 year false R & TT. 10 OW PA's 1LTA (W lied to) 3 years.
S Nov, 2013 again Jan,2014
Filed for D Feb,2014.

Posts: 962 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: So Cal, baby. :)
better4me
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Member # 30341
Default  Posted: 10:05 PM, December 5th (Thursday)

So happy you made it through the dark stuff into the light


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 3096 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
phmh
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Member # 34146
Default  Posted: 6:57 PM, December 6th (Friday)

Thanks, guys.

In the grand scheme of things, I feel pretty lucky in that we didn't have kids and since he's NPD, I no longer exist to him. Plus, he had to move away to get a job. So, NC for well over a year and no fear of running into him anywhere.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo


Posts: 3317 | Registered: Dec 2011
tesla
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Member # 34697
Default  Posted: 9:40 AM, December 7th (Saturday)

phmh, I've always enjoyed your posts and positive drive. It's amazing how low and hopeless we can feel when d-day hits.

Congrats on freeing yourself from that piece of shit and creating an amazing new life!!


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4610 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
SBB
Member
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, December 7th (Saturday)

Things get so much better.

Amen. Almost 2 years for me too. I struggle to remember why I held on so tight, why I was so afraid of walking away.

I can only think it was Stockholm Syndrome.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

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