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Chria
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Frustrated  Posted: 9:44 AM, December 6th (Friday)

I have been off of SI for awhile ( ), but I know I can count on all of you when I am in a real bind.

My girlfriend and I have been going strong for 5 years now!! However, I have no idea what to get her for Xmas. For starters, she is a successful professional....makes good money, no kids, owns her condo, etc. So she is always tough to buy for. Last year, I got her SCUBA diving lessons (which she loved ).

She has tons of jewelry so that is out of the question; as is most household and kitchen stuff (she already has everything).

HELP!!!!


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ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 9:49 AM, December 6th (Friday)

CHRIA!!!!!

How about a trip to a place she can show off those SCUBA skills?

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Newlease
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Default  Posted: 9:52 AM, December 6th (Friday)

Treat her to a day at the spa. I don't know any woman who wouldn't appreciate that!

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 10:00 AM, December 6th (Friday)

A spa day sounds like a wonderful idea.

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Pentup
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Default  Posted: 10:04 AM, December 6th (Friday)

Scuba trip. New beach bag, new beach towel, pretty sandals (if you know her size) and 2 tickets in the bag.

Underwater camera


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 10:37 AM, December 6th (Friday)

SCUBA Trip!!!!

If that's out of the question, then a spa day is always good.

I also am always happy to get a high end quality leather bag.


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Gottagetthrough
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Default  Posted: 11:04 AM, December 6th (Friday)

Scuba trip. New beach bag, new beach towel, pretty sandals (if you know her size) and 2 tickets in the bag.

great idea!

have you asked her what she wants?


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Gottagetthrough
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Default  Posted: 11:05 AM, December 6th (Friday)

or if experience gifts are a hit with her... what about a parachute jump?

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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 11:09 AM, December 6th (Friday)

I don't know what area you're in, but a hot air balloon trip (perhaps over wine country) is an absolutely fantastic way to spend a day!


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Default  Posted: 12:03 PM, December 6th (Friday)

I vote for the scuba trip too


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Default  Posted: 12:08 PM, December 6th (Friday)

I don't like heights, but the hot air balloon ride would still e swoon worthy to me


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Chria
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Default  Posted: 12:48 PM, December 6th (Friday)

Great ideas...but let me explain why this is so hard this year:

1) We just went on a Scuba trip (St. Lucia!). Since we just came back, we self-imposed a $200 spending limit for Xmas...so a trip is out of the question.

2) She does her own spa treatments once a month.

3) I am 6'6" tall...and let's just say that I am too large for a hot air balloon.

C'mon. You all had some good ideas there (even if I did shoot them down). Keep 'em coming....


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Default  Posted: 12:50 PM, December 6th (Friday)

Chria!!!

What about a stain glass class? They have them here at Hobby Lobby. Like 6 classes for $200.00 and it's all hands on. You actually make your own piece of art Who knows...she may really like it!!


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Gottagetthrough
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Default  Posted: 12:57 PM, December 6th (Friday)

hmmmm.... would a charitable gift be something she is interested in? Maybe give $150 to a cause shes passionate about, and then a token gift from you (some great coffee, wine, etc)

A bottle of wine or good liquor? Something that is meaningful to you guys (like, a bottle of wine from the year she was born?)

A trip to a vineyard/ a wine tasting

lingerie?

its hard when you have everything you want/need! But that's a good problem to have


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Default  Posted: 1:02 PM, December 6th (Friday)

You can bust the budget a little bit and get a new hand bag.

Or some very nice perfume, paired with something else.

Did you buy all your own gear? I was thinking a regulator but that is more than $200. But maybe something else?

Cashmere sweater

A personalized phone cover?

Books? Magazine subscriptions? A down payment for a trip to Paris?


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ascian
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Default  Posted: 1:05 PM, December 6th (Friday)

Does the have a Pinterest account? That's been my go-to for ideas on my wife lately.


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lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 1:15 PM, December 6th (Friday)

Cooking class
painting class
tickets to a show
tickets to a concert


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Default  Posted: 1:44 PM, December 6th (Friday)

Do you have a great picture of something or the two of you in St Lucia? If so, get it put on canvas and framed. Can do for under $200.

I would do something sentimental related to that trip to show her it was special for you as well.

Maybe recreate a dinner that you had there, complete with a kiddie pool, sand on your patio, fake palm tree and then a photo book, or pic on a mug, or a locket with a picture that means something to the 2 of you. See a sea turtle or a seahorse?

Does she have a pandora bracelet, if so a related charm.

$200 is a good amount if it is used in a romantic gesture.

If she likes to cook, a seafood cookbook, some specialty ingredients, maybe a class in making sushi or something.
Maybe a gift certificate for a private chef to come cook for her and friends or for the 2 of you.


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 1:58 PM, December 6th (Friday)

A class of some sort together. Some areas offer cooking classes for couples that would be a lot of fun.

Can't do a hot air balloon rode for $200 around here anymore so even of you werent so dang tall I'm not sure that's an option.

How about hiring a service for something she dreads like housekeeping or laundry?


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Default  Posted: 2:48 PM, December 6th (Friday)

Nice pair of sexy boots or a purse. If she likes those things..you can never have enough shoes/boots and handbags!


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Default  Posted: 7:16 PM, December 6th (Friday)

Downpayment on an engagement ring??


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sad12008
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Default  Posted: 8:05 PM, December 6th (Friday)

Concert tickets?

Does she drive to work? Sheepskin/shearling seat cover?

Chelsea barometer?

I try to think of little luxury touches to everyday tasks or doings that one wouldn't purchase for oneself when trying to shop for the challenging people on my gift list.

Good luck!


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Whalers11
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Default  Posted: 8:45 PM, December 6th (Friday)

Treat her to a day at the spa. I don't know any woman who wouldn't appreciate that!

Me. I don't do spas/manicures/pedicures. I've had people who don't know me very well get me gift cards for those types of things and I end up re-gifting.

My suggestion in the $200 range would be tickets to an event she would like - sporting event/concert/theatre production/etc.


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Default  Posted: 12:00 AM, December 7th (Saturday)

I would make a picture book spanning 5 years.

I would look into the theater or a concert- possibly to her favorite performer.

I don't know how much they run but a dive suit or gear for your next trip.

A nice fallback is a gift card to her favorite store or to a restaurant.


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Audrina
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Default  Posted: 9:34 AM, December 7th (Saturday)

A gift card at a photo studio where she can dress up and take some portrait/ glamour shots. I think this would be a nice gift.


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Default  Posted: 12:43 PM, December 7th (Saturday)

Boudoir Photos of yourself.


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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 12:55 PM, December 7th (Saturday)

I second a cashmere sweater, or a handbag. Check out caphillstyle.com for ideas.

Or, since she does the salon thing every month already, why not upgrade her to a full day of more intense pampering for January?

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Default  Posted: 7:54 PM, December 7th (Saturday)

Cashmere makes me itch.

Don't know if you're anywhere near there, but I'd love a day trip to NYC, carriage ride in Central Park, champagne and a swanky lunch.


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Default  Posted: 8:24 PM, December 7th (Saturday)

A woomba. Women love those.


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Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, December 9th (Monday)

Boudoir Photos of yourself.

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