User Topic: Just painful and frustrating
Member # 33287
Default  Posted: 8:54 AM, December 8th (Sunday)

Why, two and one half years post DDay and on the verge of D being finalized, do I wake up dreaming about WW's AP? "Holiday cards arrive and one is from her AP" and then his name and image refuse to leave my head space. Ugh! And no, he did not send a holiday card - that was just the dream.

Looking forward to a peaceful existnce, someday.


BH (me, 50)
WS (her, 48)
3 wonderful teens
Heading for Happiness

Posts: 405 | Registered: Sep 2011
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 12:43 PM, December 8th (Sunday)

I hope you can shake off the dream AND the invasive thoughts, honey. ((((H&C))))

You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato

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Member # 34373
Default  Posted: 12:58 PM, December 8th (Sunday)

(((HandC))) may you find a bit of peace today and forget the dream.

[This message edited by IrishLass518 at 12:58 PM, December 8th (Sunday)]

Me: 45 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 22, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1672 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
Member # 39193
Default  Posted: 1:42 PM, December 8th (Sunday)

I'm struggling today too.

No advice to give, just hugs and mojo that all of us get through this effing holiday in one piece!

Did you do the SI Christmas card exchange? If so then you should be receiving enough glitter to blot out that bad dream.

Hugs to you

Me: Looking forward to the future
Him: Left behind in the past

Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life. ~ JK Rowling

Posts: 658 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Oregon
Member # 3703
Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, December 8th (Sunday)

I am 3 1/2 years past D-day, and once in a while I have a dream about XWH, and it ruins my day.

D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.

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