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User Topic: Why wont he just leave already??
lisaloo
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Member # 20082
Default  Posted: 11:17 PM, December 8th (Sunday)

Living in this house with that asshole in the guest bedroom is miserable. Seriously...this sucks. I dread either coming home, or him coming home. And DD is just being so...weird about it all...making plans as to which parent gets to tuck her in first each night...being weirdly manic about going to play with first one friend then another...And I think WH is trying to convince DD that shared custody would be ideal for her, so that he can get what he wants (ie no CS), seeing as how DD mentioned to me the other day that she THOUGHT she would spend a week with me and then a week with WH...Also, that jackass is using her to try to get info out of me (DD asked me who her pediatrician was last night...seriously? WTF? That was not a question that DD came up with on her own).

Ugh...Christmas is going to SUCK here. I'm having such a hard time trying to get into the spirit for DD. This is like a special form of torture...no one should have to live with the butthead that is ruining their life. No one.


Me: 33 STBXH: 34 DD: 8
D Day (EA): 6-19-08
D Day #2 (SA): 7-5-10
D Day #3 (EA): 11-8-13
WH moved out: 11-18-13
Moved BACK IN (because the lawyer told him to): 11/29/13.
Filed for Divorce: 12-9-13
In house separation...fun, fun, fun.

Posts: 474 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: AL
Take2
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Member # 23890
Default  Posted: 12:27 AM, December 9th (Monday)

lisaloo - is it possible he is reading your posts here? the pediatrician's name... that is something that gets raised here when discussing custody, and I can't imagine where else it would come up... I know I'd never have thought of it on my own... Just a thought.


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

Posts: 4112 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England
careerlady
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Member # 16958
Default  Posted: 1:50 AM, December 9th (Monday)

I bet it''s the lawyer who told him to move back in that told him to find out the pediatrician''s name and seem more "involved"

It''s so unfair that he''s using DD against you. People without morals can do those kinds of things

I am doing in house separation too and I know how it feels to dread his return. It''s sucks! Hugs! One day this small period in our lives will just be an annoying memory.


Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI

Posts: 937 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Northern California
StillLivin
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Member # 40229
Default  Posted: 9:01 AM, December 9th (Monday)

He won't leave because he is a POS selfish snake in the grass bastard!
I'm sorry, you and your DD deserve so much better.
Hang in there. This too shall pass. At least you know YOU did everything you could to make your marriage work. HE is the complete and utter failure f..ktard!


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2213 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
lisaloo
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Member # 20082
Default  Posted: 9:22 AM, December 9th (Monday)

Careerlady- he admitted that the only reason he came back is because his lawyer told him to...I liked his first lawyer better-the one who was giving him guidance on how to LEAVE THE HOUSE without screwing himself (which essentially makes her a bad lawyer!!).

I seriously just hate this...On the bright side, it seems that WH has finally figured out that I DONT want to talk to him...he's hiding in the guest room while I am home. Nice change.


Me: 33 STBXH: 34 DD: 8
D Day (EA): 6-19-08
D Day #2 (SA): 7-5-10
D Day #3 (EA): 11-8-13
WH moved out: 11-18-13
Moved BACK IN (because the lawyer told him to): 11/29/13.
Filed for Divorce: 12-9-13
In house separation...fun, fun, fun.

Posts: 474 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: AL
Gemini71
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Member # 40115
Default  Posted: 10:46 PM, December 9th (Monday)

Just a thought, if WH only wants shared custody to get out of CS, could you offer to waive CS in return for full custody? Not the ideal situation, but maybe something to float by your lawyer.


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


Posts: 1645 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
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