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steadfast1973
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Member # 24719
Evil  Posted: 7:33 AM, December 9th (Monday)

I saw this last night and I thought of all of us on SI. I think any one in the early stages of R feel this way on a daily basis.


Me- 40- BS Him- 36- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 3 mo. EA d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute 11/5/13 in R
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah."- Leonard Cohen

Posts: 2231 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Midwest
SisterMilkshake
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Member # 30024
Default  Posted: 7:38 AM, December 9th (Monday)


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9408 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
steadfast1973
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Member # 24719
Default  Posted: 7:40 AM, December 9th (Monday)

The "throw you into a tornado" was my favorite part.


Me- 40- BS Him- 36- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 3 mo. EA d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute 11/5/13 in R
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah."- Leonard Cohen

Posts: 2231 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Midwest
heartbroken2012
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Member # 38089
Default  Posted: 7:51 AM, December 9th (Monday)

I so relate...


BS(Me) - 32
WS(HUbbie) - 40
OW - 44 (a ugly, old, white trash horse faced Coworker)
Affair was 2 months long
3 kids - 5yr old, and twins 8 months
Dday - 12/25/12 (lots of signs before I should have seen)

Posts: 545 | Registered: Jan 2013
stunnedin12
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Member # 38141
Default  Posted: 7:57 AM, December 9th (Monday)

Even though wh and I have finally made the decision to work toward R - I totally get the post!


ME - Betrayed Spouse
Him - Wayward spouse
Not sure, but trying I guess.

Posts: 435 | Registered: Jan 2013
painfulpast
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Member # 41038
Default  Posted: 7:57 AM, December 9th (Monday)

Perfect!!!


It's so easy to believe someone when they're telling you exactly what you want to hear.....

Posts: 1751 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: East Coast
Jesu
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Member # 36422
Default  Posted: 8:02 AM, December 9th (Monday)

LOL


Me: BSO 39
Her: WSO 29
Together: 9 years
Married?: No
Children?: No
OM: A friend of a friend
DD#1: June 18th 2012
Many more DD after TT
PA#1: 1 week in Nov/Dec 2010, which led to a long distance EA
R: ?

Posts: 608 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Oz
simplydevastated
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Member # 25001
Default  Posted: 8:04 AM, December 9th (Monday)


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5838 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
ladycody
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Member # 41401
Default  Posted: 8:21 AM, December 9th (Monday)

Love this!!!


Me 47
WS 41
M=16 years

Posts: 130 | Registered: Nov 2013
meplusfour
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Member # 38958
Default  Posted: 11:55 AM, December 9th (Monday)

Love it!


BW (me)42
WH 44
3 daughters, 1 son
Married 10 years, together 13
DDay 3/14/2013, four year PA
In R
"Sometimes you have to accept the fact that certain things will never go back to the way they used to be."

Posts: 350 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Canada
gotmylifeback
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Member # 32693
Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, December 9th (Monday)

But wouldnt throwing them into the tornado put out the fire? There were times where I would have rather let the fire burn while I pulled out a coathanger and some marshmallows.


Her-Unremorseful, Wayward ex wife
Me-No longer a betrayed husband

Happily remarried.

"You are what you do. A man is defined by his actions, not his memory." - Kuato in Total Recall


Posts: 596 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: between Oz and Wonderland
loglyn2
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Member # 41396
Default  Posted: 12:14 PM, December 9th (Monday)

Excellent post! I feel this way every minute of every day.


Me-BS 37
Him-WS 42
Married/together for 20 years
2 kids
PA oct and nov 2013 same woman
Found pictures of them together as well as texts and phone calls.
PA opportunistic one timer 10 years ago just found out now.
Trying to reconcile but angr

Posts: 25 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: United States
steadfast1973
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Member # 24719
Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, December 9th (Monday)

Yeah, it would put out the fire, we can let them burn a bit before throwing them into the tornado.


Me- 40- BS Him- 36- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 3 mo. EA d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute 11/5/13 in R
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah."- Leonard Cohen

Posts: 2231 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Midwest
overandone
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Member # 39162
Default  Posted: 5:21 PM, December 9th (Monday)

Yup, count me in ...


Me - BW (54)
Him - fWS (61)
kiddies - daughters 22 and 27,son 22,
d-day - April 18 2012
R - but lots of bumps in the long road

Posts: 206 | Registered: May 2013 | From: uk
PinkJeepLady
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Member # 37575
Default  Posted: 5:28 PM, December 9th (Monday)

EXACTLY my sentiments!


Me: BW-54. Him-FWH 54. DDay June 1st 2012 cheating with prostitutes overseas
R-ing
"Not everything that counts is counted. Not everything that is counted counts." Albert Einstein

Posts: 471 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Out West
BrokenMomof2
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Member # 41219
Default  Posted: 6:31 PM, December 9th (Monday)

Love it!


Me: BS, 30
Him: WH, 31, 1 month EA & PA
Married 9 years
Kids: 2 perfect boys
D-day: Nov 3, 2013
Working on R

Posts: 86 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: ND
nekorb
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Member # 40306
Default  Posted: 6:31 PM, December 9th (Monday)

I feel like *I* have been set on fire and thrown in a tornado….


Me: BS 44
Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat
Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
Heading for Divorce
3 kids: 15,17,19

Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart, wait for The Lord.


Posts: 1725 | Registered: Aug 2013
julesinpain
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Member # 36746
Default  Posted: 6:33 PM, December 9th (Monday)

Wow!! Sums it up for me most days too! Thanks this is funny. Or not I guess


Me 44
WH 46
DDay 1 8/22/08
DDay 2 9/22/10
DDay 3 12/22/10 same OW each time. (so called friend)
To many TT's to count, last one Jan. 2013 ugh!
Married 21 years, together 23
4 amazing children, 2DS 2DD
Working on it!

Posts: 152 | Registered: Sep 2012
lostinthesouth
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Member # 41377
Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, December 9th (Monday)

yes!! me daily!!

Posts: 98 | Registered: Nov 2013
EZ24get
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Member # 29752
Default  Posted: 9:11 PM, December 9th (Monday)

nekorb~

I feel like *I* have been set on fire and thrown in a tornado….

...me too.


Told my request was one so unlike being you. Then, was punished for asking, by watching you become all that I needed, for someone new.
...so,..he traded my heart,for a hard-on.

BW~ me 38
CH~ he 38
20 years on 12/12/12, 2 kiddos 14&17
D-day 1


Posts: 67 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: here
steadfast1973
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Member # 24719
Default  Posted: 5:52 AM, December 10th (Tuesday)

I also feel like i have been caught in fire and thrown into a tornado.

My WH did bot find this e-card funny. At all.


Me- 40- BS Him- 36- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 3 mo. EA d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute 11/5/13 in R
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah."- Leonard Cohen

Posts: 2231 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Midwest
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