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better4me
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Member # 30341
Default  Posted: 10:10 AM, December 9th (Monday)

He called last night. He rarely calls anymore. I have his number identified as "the XH" on my phone and for a moment last night when he called I thought "What does XH stand for again?". I didn't pick up the first or second time that he called. Let it go to voicemail. Listened to it this morning because I didn't want to hear it last night. I really can't understand what he says. Drunk? Tired? Ugh. Something like "Hi Better, Just wanted to see if you were home. Didn't think you'd slur, slur, slur" Yeh, probably drunk. Ugh, just ugh...

Just leave me the f*ck alone, Dude.
But really, I don't give a rat's ass...


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 3063 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
ruby44
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Member # 41135
Default  Posted: 10:26 AM, December 9th (Monday)

Must have been in the air last night. My STBXH called my 2 DDs. They had it on speakerphone so I could hear. Drunk off his ass. I know he was with the OW because drinking is their second favorite pastime. Slurring, animated, did not listen to anything they told him just kept saying how much he loves them. Really sad. They just don't care anymore. Here is my question. He calls and they do not want to talk to him. Is it going to hurt me if they don't answer or call him back. I hate to keep checking their phone and remind them to answer but will it be blamed on me?


Me BW 52, Him WH 48
Married 13 years,
2 DDs (12 and 10)
D-Day Confirmed 10/24/13 suspected before that but did not want to believe it.
WH filed for D 11/12/13
2/8/14 WH asked if he could come home.
Lies!

Posts: 276 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Midwest
better4me
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Member # 30341
Default  Posted: 10:40 AM, December 9th (Monday)

Is it going to hurt me if they don't answer or call him back. I hate to keep checking their phone and remind them to answer but will it be blamed on me?
My answer is Maybe? Does he see them very often? How often does he call? I had my kids call their dad once a week if he had called and they hadn't talked to him that week. He lived out of state and saw them one time a month or less. Once they got to be 17+ I let it be up to them whether they talked to him or not...Another idea would be to have them not answer if it is after 5pm or whenever he is more likely to have been drinking, cuz really, why should they have to hear that??


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 3063 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
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