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livebythesea
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Member # 38900
Default  Posted: 7:02 AM, December 10th (Tuesday)

I'm at the point where I find myself putting the blame on myself. "It must be me". I was not a very "loving wife" to him. Why can't I just forget the whole thing, forgive him, and move forward. For minutes, I'm good, going to move forward, then, I find myself back in the same hole. Back to square one ... the past, all the years of unhappiness, the stress, staring to feel angry, and a bit sorry for myself.


HIM - 56(looks older by the day)
his time has come
ME - 56 (heart aged lately)
DD1 April 5 2013 (told me a lie)
DD2 April 23 2013
DD3 June 22 2013
3 children
1 grand child

Posts: 196 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Near the ocean ... Canada
karmahappens
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Member # 35846
Default  Posted: 7:10 AM, December 10th (Tuesday)

(((hugs)))

You cannot take years of unhappiness and make it go away in a matter of months...

It takes years to get through this, really, years.

What steps are you both taking in order to help you heal?

Are you getting IC, being good to yourself?

Be easy on you, it's a slow process.


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3845 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
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