User Topic: Happy b-day
Dark Inertia
Member # 30727
Default  Posted: 2:44 PM, December 10th (Tuesday)

My ex sent me a happy b-day text. I started to reply with an indifferent "thanks" and then all the anxiety, bitterness, and hurt came flooding back. I thought "too much pain" and deleted it. It has been almost 6 years. He is remarried and I am happily engaged. Should I reply, even with something as small as "thanks"?

"If I listened earlier, I wouldn't be here. But that's just the trouble with me. I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it."

Posts: 1280 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: The Ohio
Member # 25341
Default  Posted: 3:32 PM, December 10th (Tuesday)

Should I reply, even with something as small as "thanks"?

In a word - No. He's not your friend.

I'm sorry you are hurting/triggering from that.

But: happy birthday to you!!


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 25 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 30
Dday: Dec 2008
Limbo-ish, again (after multiple S) -- weighing my options

Posts: 2606 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 3:37 PM, December 10th (Tuesday)


What a jerk trying to sully your day like this. FTG.

There are no fish in this pond.
This pond has no water.
Fuck off.

[This message edited by SBB at 3:38 PM, December 10th (Tuesday)]

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5609 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Member # 40141
Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, December 10th (Tuesday)

He's not worth a reply.

Happy Birthday, enjoy your day!

M 7 years, together for 12
2 kids- DD4 and a newborn
D-Day 7/2013 he didn't want R and moved in with OW
Filing for D

Posts: 155 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: California
Topic Posts: 4