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User Topic: living alone is great until
Member # 10798
Default  Posted: 10:28 PM, December 10th (Tuesday)

you get sick.

Not the serious kind of sick--I'd have all kinds of people around if that happened. I'm just talking about the everyday cold and flu sick. Like I am now. My head feels like it's full of cement, my body aches and even my hair hurts. I'm surrounded by used Kleenex, dirty dishes, overflowing trash and I've been wearing the same clothes for 2 days. My apartment looks like a hobo lives here. I have tons of work to do and can work from home, thank goodness, but so far only have the energy to watch reruns of Friends and Big Bang theory.

I feel like a gross and disgusting cesspool of germs and while I should be glad there is no one here but me to witness this I can't help but feel sorry for myself.

So I thought I'd come here and whine. I wish I could fall asleep and not wake up until spring break.

Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James

Posts: 2128 | Registered: May 2006 | From: Midwest
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Default  Posted: 11:39 PM, December 10th (Tuesday)

just remember that the beauty of a person is in the heart and not in the body.

so, You are still beautiful with or without a shower!

My two cents

Pain and suffering is part of life, but I choose to feel love and compassion for all people excluding no one.

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Default  Posted: 12:13 AM, December 11th (Wednesday)

I'm sorry you're not feeling well, but you just described to me all of the good things about being sick when you're alone. No one can complain that the house is a mess and you're just lying around in your filth.

You will clean up when you feel better; the flu isn't a life sentence. Just relax, drink lots of fluids and enjoy the quiet, reruns and your sleep.

I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20327 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
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Default  Posted: 12:27 AM, December 11th (Wednesday)

What Sazzy said. ^^^^^^^


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Posts: 17591 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
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Default  Posted: 8:31 AM, December 11th (Wednesday)

((((meanie)))) Hope you feel better soon, honey.

You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

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Default  Posted: 8:56 AM, December 11th (Wednesday)

Awwww, I feel for you. When I have a cold/the flu, I feel like I'm going to die--and actually there are times, when I wish I did! Then as it drags on and I have no energy, I think I've become extremely lazy! Next stage? I recover and think, "Oh, no, I'm not lazy. I was SICK." Happens EVERY time. And every time, I get better. You will, too. And then you can shower. And clean house. Those things will wait. Take care of yourself. My dad's remedy, a strong hot rum toddy, doesn't cure you, but it makes you feel like you don't give a crap that you're sick. :-)

Age: 64..ummmmmmm,, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks

Posts: 7308 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Toronto, Canada
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Default  Posted: 11:57 AM, December 11th (Wednesday)

sending healing mojo to you MM! ((((Meaniemouse)))

DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52

Posts: 3219 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
Member # 10798
Default  Posted: 12:54 PM, December 11th (Wednesday)

thanks everyone. Sorry to be such a whiner but I was pretty deep in the pity pot last night. Being an overthinker it's pretty easy for me to make the leap from, I feel awful, I have so much to do, I'm lazy, I'll never get it done, I should take better care of myself, no one cares about me, I'll never feel better, I've made so many mistakes in my life, I'm going to die alone. Nothing like flu, over-reaction, 10 degree weather and too much Nyquil to turn you into a blubbering hot mess.

Thank you all for responding. It was the best medicine yet.

Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James

Posts: 2128 | Registered: May 2006 | From: Midwest
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Default  Posted: 1:09 PM, December 11th (Wednesday)


I hope you feel better.

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Default  Posted: 3:01 PM, December 11th (Wednesday)

Same, hope you are feeling better.
My STBXH NEVER took care of me when I was sick. Never, so I don't feel any different now that Shrek has that problem!

I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2342 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
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Default  Posted: 3:08 PM, December 11th (Wednesday)

Feel better soon.


BS (Me) 39
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Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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Default  Posted: 6:10 AM, December 12th (Thursday)

Thanks for posting. I thought I was the only one who wishes there was someone to take care of me when I was sick. Sheesh, its not like I ever had a man that ever played that role. Are they even out there?

[This message edited by newnormal at 6:10 AM, December 12th (Thursday)]

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Default  Posted: 7:09 AM, December 12th (Thursday)

Anyone else think this was going to be a giant spider thread?

I rarely get sick but when I do it is pretty bad.

I had gastro a few months ago - one of my girls had it too. I have a strong gag reflex at the best of times so it was kind of a comedic tragedy with her puking, me gagging, puking myself all the while trying to keep the catsos from eating anything yucky... and *TMI* all done whilst running to the loo every 5 mins.

I've learned a few things:
* its Ok to use a sheet when you run out of towels.
* vomiting whilst being watched by 2 kids and 2 cats is up there with my Top 10 weirdest life experiences.
* These days there is a distinct LACK of pressure to get better ASAP because my incapacitation was clearly a massive inconvenience to the sad clown.

Doesn't matter that it only happens maybe 2 times in 5 years, I was treated like a malingerer. Worse because I don't like taking over the counter pain meds so generally wait until I *have* to.

The only thing I miss is someone making me eat chicken soup, or checking to see if I've fallen into the toilet.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5619 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
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Default  Posted: 7:54 AM, December 12th (Thursday)

My ex never took care of me eitherůso I don't miss it.

Now I keep an emergency stash of "flu stuff" constantly stocked. It has crackers, gatorade, cans of soup, popsicles (in the freezer!), ginger ale, box of tissue and toilet paper.

I have it ready to go if I become sick enough I can't leave the house, I know I"ll be good for a few days. It makes me feel better knowing that I have a "flu stash".


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings

Posts: 4187 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
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Default  Posted: 5:43 PM, December 12th (Thursday)

I wish I could be alone while sick! XH was never any help and he would always get sick (of course he claimed he was more sick than me) and didn't do anything. I've always had to be sick and care for him and the kids. Now I still care for two kids while sick. I dream of being able to just be sick and veg out on TV!

I'm not trying to diminish your feelings though. I'm sorry you feel alone and I hope you feel better soon.

BW - Me (38)
XWH -The Gnat
OW - Hello Kitty the Whore Engaged to the Gnat. I hear the white trash, wedding bells as we speak.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (7), 1 DS (2)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 934 | Registered: Mar 2013
Member # 10798
Default  Posted: 12:32 AM, December 13th (Friday)

newlysingle--what you are describing is exactly how it was when I was married to my ex! Any time I would get sick he would too, and always, always be sicker than me. I don't recall him ever doing anything to take care of me or the kids when we were sick.

Thanks everyone for reminding me that there are far worse things than being alone and sick. At least I don't have little kids to take care of too.

But I do hate cold and flu season. And there's a winter storm heading our way this weekend.

Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James

Posts: 2128 | Registered: May 2006 | From: Midwest
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Default  Posted: 1:39 AM, December 13th (Friday)

((((meanie))))) I want to be taken care of when I'm sick too. Hope you are feeling much better soon. Lots of healing vibes headed your way.

Me: 42
Two boys: 17 and 14
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?

Posts: 25628 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
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Default  Posted: 3:26 AM, December 14th (Saturday)

Hope you're feeling better, Meanie!

Me: BW (44 yo then); Him: WH (46 yo); No kids
DDay: 6-15-12
M 13.5 yrs; T 14 yrs (at the time)


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