User Topic: Sadly, I'm here to weep....
Member # 41010
Default  Posted: 7:26 AM, December 11th (Wednesday)

..... So we spoke last night as he's been sulking like a child since I gave him the ultimatum and a piece of my mind three nights ago. I asked him why he was behaving so badly towards me, as he should be more respectful as I had actually eventually given him what he wanted - surely he should be feeling some sortv of relief? It's just a huge pity I didn't let go a lot sooner because he quite clearly stated what he wanted. I'm just feeling so awful now add I'm rollercoastering through a myriad of emotions on a moments notice. I had prepared myself for this and knew this was the way it was going to go and I have been pretty strong till now, accepting it all but at this moment I feel that my heart is shattered. I've lost my partner. The person who was meant to be with me into old age...... I'm struggling to breath from the hurt. I can't even type clearly through the tears. Now I have to pretend everything is okay for my DS's til after Christmas???? I'm broken. ......

Me: BS Married 10 years, together 20
Him:WH - EA with engaged COW.

'If you come into my life, the door is open; If you leave my life, the door is open; Just one request, don't stand in the doorway, you're blocking the traffic'

Posts: 123 | Registered: Oct 2013
Member # 34405
Default  Posted: 7:34 AM, December 11th (Wednesday)

I'm so sorry, it's an awful time of the year and we don't get to choose the timing do we...

I don't have any wise words for you but wanted you to know you've been heard and understood. can do this, just breathe.

Big hugs, BIG HUGS.

God bless us, everyone.

Posts: 633 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Boston
Member # 30631
Default  Posted: 8:05 AM, December 11th (Wednesday)

Do you think perhaps, that he has realized that maybe, this isn't what he wanted? Reality checks work wonders.

In R since shortly after DD.
Discovered what was right in front of him and nearly lost.

Always, tell the other BS! Always!

"It's hard to be in love when you can't tell lies"!

Posts: 877 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Northeast
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 8:14 AM, December 11th (Wednesday)

(((((shocked))))) I'm so sorry you are hurting, honey. Keep breathing. Focus on your self-care, and be gentle with yourself while you grieve. This time of year can be filled with expectations and obligations that can seem daunting. Pare them down as much as possible. You can do this. We're here for you.

You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

Posts: 25777 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 15300
Default  Posted: 8:18 AM, December 11th (Wednesday)

Having this happen at this time of year is so very sad and daunting. I can remember going to Christmas Eve midnight carol service (alone), and sitting in the back of the church, crying my eyes out while singing along. I must have looked so incongruous. Just breathe, put one foot in front of the other, and try to hold yourself together. Wear yellow, watch the comedy channel, fake it till you make it, honey. This, too, will pass. I know it doesn't feel like it now (been there), but it will.

Age: 64..ummmmmmm,, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks

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