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Chefj9
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Default  Posted: 1:25 PM, December 12th (Thursday)

So, I still go and look at OW's FB. She hasn't posted anything in months publicly until today. This is what she posted...

2/12 - thought of the day...

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
~Mahatma Ghandi

Today is the 2 year date that marks the first time they had sex.

I would never post a retort since we have been in NC since July. It has taken me too long (because I'm stubborn and l have to learn the hard way)to get to this point. But I would love to hear some of my fellow SI'ers wicked sense of humor on this one!

I need something to make me laugh on this most heinous day of the year.


ME - BS 49, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 25, 15, 15 and 12
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/13/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere

Posts: 468 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Texas
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, December 12th (Thursday)

After DD#2 I came to the decision to leave him.
I told him that forgiving him was the easy part, it was respecting him again that I was at a loss for.
Maybe something along those lines could be a possible retort.


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2181 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
nomadlady
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Default  Posted: 1:45 PM, December 12th (Thursday)

I'll take that Gandhi quote and raise her TWO Gandhi quotes!

"An ounce of practice is worth more than tons of preaching."

"To believe in something, and not live it, is dishonest."


DDay: 2013
In R

Posts: 77 | Registered: Oct 2013
Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 1:45 PM, December 12th (Thursday)

The weak can never keep their pants zipped. Keeping your pants zipped is the attribute of the strong.


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

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Fireflies
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Default  Posted: 1:45 PM, December 12th (Thursday)

"You can lead a whore to culture, but you can't make her think." Dorothy Parker


Me: BS
Him: WS
Go your way,
I'll take the long way 'round,
I'll find my own way down,
As I should.

Posts: 78 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Grr Argh
Chefj9
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Default  Posted: 1:50 PM, December 12th (Thursday)

These are priceless.... Love it! Especially the about keeping their pants zipped. Oh how badly I want to post these.... I won't but it would be priceless to shut her ass down!


ME - BS 49, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 25, 15, 15 and 12
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/13/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere

Posts: 468 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Texas
nomistakeaboutit
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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, December 12th (Thursday)

Vengeance is mine, sayeth The Lord.


Me: BH 56.........Her: WW 43
DD: 6..........DS: 4
Married for six years.
DDay: 12-25-11 Divorced: 7-15-12
...................................
"It's like a nightmare within a nightmare, which in and of itself is a nightmare!"

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prowoman
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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, December 12th (Thursday)

The weak can never keep their pants zipped. Keeping your pants zipped is the attribute of the strong.

If it were the OW in my situation I'd be tempted to post something like "Then you'll forgive me for saying you're a slimy fucking skank who has so little self-respect and self-worth that she has to go after a middle-aged married man who's only now with her because his wife kicked his poor ass onto the street because he's tainted now that he's been in you."

[This message edited by prowoman at 1:56 PM, December 12th (Thursday)]


me: BS 39 | stbxWH: 46
DD14, DS2
DDAY: Aug12... A continued "underground"
Separated Nov13- OC due June14

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Cabot
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Default  Posted: 1:58 PM, December 12th (Thursday)

"One man cannot do right in one department of life whilst he is occupied in doing wrong in any other department. Life is one indivisible whole."

-Gandhi




Posts: 68 | Registered: Nov 2013
Chefj9
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Default  Posted: 2:30 PM, December 12th (Thursday)

Cabot. That one is brilliant. So tempting!


ME - BS 49, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 25, 15, 15 and 12
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/13/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere

Posts: 468 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Texas
nomistakeaboutit
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Default  Posted: 2:34 PM, December 12th (Thursday)

Or, you could take this angle:

It seems like you have become more spiritual and introspective over the past several years. I am happy for you and your new spirit,,so much so that I wrote you this poem:

"Roses are red.

Violets are blue.

Go fuck yourself you stupid, ignorant bitch."


Me: BH 56.........Her: WW 43
DD: 6..........DS: 4
Married for six years.
DDay: 12-25-11 Divorced: 7-15-12
...................................
"It's like a nightmare within a nightmare, which in and of itself is a nightmare!"

Posts: 927 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: U.S.A.
MediumRare
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Default  Posted: 2:39 PM, December 12th (Thursday)

"A relationship is for two, but some bitches are too dumb to count."


BS (ME): 44
WS(HER): 42
9 years
OM#1- 20-something loser, stole bunch of my things after she had sex with him in our bed (no condoms, STDs)
OM#2- 24 year old, unemployed loser, lives with mom & dad
DDay 1/2012
NC 3/20/2012
SGASDay 4/1/2012

Posts: 712 | Registered: Mar 2012 | From: California
Chefj9
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Default  Posted: 2:43 PM, December 12th (Thursday)

^^^^^ <3 this


ME - BS 49, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 25, 15, 15 and 12
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/13/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere

Posts: 468 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Texas
foreverchanged61
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Default  Posted: 3:02 PM, December 12th (Thursday)

Love these!


me:BS-39
Him:WS-39
Married 15 years
DS-14
DD-11
D-Day 11/2010
Trying hard at R
OW 29 (27 then) SAHM pure white trash

Posts: 24 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: South Carolina
7yrsflushed
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Default  Posted: 3:05 PM, December 12th (Thursday)

This thread is full of awesome! I like them all but mediumrare's has me dying over here.


D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
D hopefully official in 7/2014

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Ascendant
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Default  Posted: 3:15 PM, December 12th (Thursday)

"Roses are red.

Violets are blue.

Go fuck yourself you stupid, ignorant bitch."


Bwahahahahahah.


"The thing that always seems to be shocking to wayward wives is the simple fact that the man you choose to reconcile with is not the same man you cheated on." - a friend.

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WeepingBuddhist
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Default  Posted: 3:22 PM, December 12th (Thursday)

I love all these!!!


Me: BS 46
Him: LCB--lying, cheating bastard 50
D-Day 4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14

Posts: 533 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Columbus
headdesk
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Default  Posted: 4:47 PM, December 12th (Thursday)

[URL=http://imgur.com/0vFznuI][/URL]

[This message edited by headdesk at 4:48 PM, December 12th (Thursday)]


Me: 39
WH: 42
DDay:Sep 19 2013 (only TT of EA)
Oct 4th 2013 revealed PA through snooping.
Marred 16 years, together for 20. Looking to R at this time. We have awesome kids (12/14).

Posts: 273 | Registered: Sep 2013
Chefj9
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Default  Posted: 5:12 PM, December 12th (Thursday)

Oh my. That is brilliant. That one I may have to post. Privately of course


ME - BS 49, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 25, 15, 15 and 12
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/13/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere

Posts: 468 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Texas
brokendancer7
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Default  Posted: 5:16 PM, December 12th (Thursday)

Y'all are so clever! It feels good to laugh!


Me: BS - 58
Him: WS - 56
Married 34 yrs

Latest DD - April 2013, PA


Posts: 181 | Registered: Jul 2013
Chefj9
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Default  Posted: 6:00 PM, December 12th (Thursday)

This actually helped change my mood this afternoon. I was in a dark place this morning and spend most of it crying and texting with SAWH (side note I guess I can officially make him a fSAWH since he recently received his 6 month chip.)

Thank you all for your clever insightful and just funny responses.


ME - BS 49, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 25, 15, 15 and 12
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/13/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere

Posts: 468 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Texas
AML04
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Default  Posted: 6:02 PM, December 12th (Thursday)

I LOVE these!!! Thanks for the laugh!

Eta: this is the start of (P)A season for us and OW has all of a sudden started posting public things like this. The last one was about being a feminist. Yeah because being a strong women means sleeping with another woman's H. I would never but I'd love to post some of these!!

[This message edited by AML04 at 6:07 PM, December 12th (Thursday)]


Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
T-13 M-9
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13.
Hopeful for R

Posts: 831 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA
Chefj9
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Default  Posted: 6:28 PM, December 12th (Thursday)

On a more serious note, what I'd really like to say to her is....

You were not a victim on any of this. There is nothing for you to really forgive. You were married at the time the A started and you betrayed your spouse.

Although you were pursued by my H, if you had healthy boundaries and didn't get your self esteem bolstered by having affairs with married men, then maybe you wouldn't have gotten hurt when you fell for all his unicorn farting rainbows and butterfly BS. You accepted a marriage proposal from a married man that lived 1000 miles away and believed every lie he told you because it made what you were doing easier and justifiable. You should be begging for forgiveness, not handing it out like you're some enlightened better person

and then I'd like to add the
Roses are Red
Violets are Blue
You're a crazy bunny boiler
That deserves nothing other than FU!


ME - BS 49, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 25, 15, 15 and 12
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/13/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere

Posts: 468 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Texas
Chefj9
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Default  Posted: 6:28 PM, December 12th (Thursday)

Duplicate post

[This message edited by Chefj9 at 6:28 PM, December 12th (Thursday)]


ME - BS 49, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 25, 15, 15 and 12
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/13/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere

Posts: 468 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Texas
Trying2Survive1
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Default  Posted: 6:38 PM, December 12th (Thursday)

"I'd slap you, but don't want to get slut on my hand."

I did post this on my FB wall after Dday


Madhatters, M 31 yrs
FWW/BS 57-BS/FWH 56
Separated 5 mos in 07.His DDay,11/07.False R since 07. My DDay,7/5/13."Once you are real you can't become unreal again. It lasts for always.”
― Margery Williams, The Velveteen Rabbit

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EasyDoesIt
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Default  Posted: 6:46 PM, December 12th (Thursday)

Or, you could take this angle:

It seems like you have become more spiritual and introspective over the past several years. I am happy for you and your new spirit,,so much so that I wrote you this poem:

"Roses are red.

Violets are blue.

Go fuck yourself you stupid, ignorant bitch."

ROFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Anything less than full disclosure and total transparency is pure bullshit. WARNING! No emotional pollution allowed.

Posts: 3688 | Registered: Sep 2010 | From: Georgia
Peaches2013
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Default  Posted: 10:12 PM, December 12th (Thursday)

Oh these made me laugh since I was stupid and looked at OW's FB the other day to find another selfie with her boobs hanging out with all the people lapping it up saying she should make it her "about the author" section.

I spent the rest of the night thinking up titles for her book.


Me: BS
Him: WH ONS/short EA
Married 11 years
Together 15 years
2 children

Posts: 64 | Registered: Oct 2013
Lowlow
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Default  Posted: 2:26 AM, December 13th (Friday)

Thanks for the laughs! You are absolutely brilliant people!


Me (BS) 42 Him (FWS) 43
AP#2 (LTA EA/PA) DD #1 16 Feb 2013
AP#1 (EA with my BF) DD #2 16 Nov 2013
Married 11 years, T 19 years
Reconciling

Posts: 198 | Registered: Mar 2013
SummerStorm21
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Default  Posted: 3:00 AM, December 13th (Friday)

Lol! Never thought this would be the place I found so many comedians. Thanks.


BW

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sinsof thefather
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Default  Posted: 5:48 AM, December 13th (Friday)


On a more serious note, what I'd really like to say to her is....

You were not a victim on any of this. There is nothing for you to really forgive. You were married at the time the A started and you betrayed your spouse.

Although you were pursued by my H, if you had healthy boundaries and didn't get your self esteem bolstered by having affairs with married men, then maybe you wouldn't have gotten hurt when you fell for all his unicorn farting rainbows and butterfly BS. You accepted a marriage proposal from a married man that lived 1000 miles away and believed every lie he told you because it made what you were doing easier and justifiable. You should be begging for forgiveness, not handing it out like you're some enlightened better person.

This is exactly what I thought when I read it. She should have been contemplating the meaning of the words humility, ownership, betrayal, infidelity and consequences before she got to 'forgiveness' ... still at least it's proof of one thing - she is might *think* she's zen, but that's because... she's just still deluded.

and Chefj - I'm with you here too...

Roses are Red
Violets are Blue
You're a crazy bunny boiler
That deserves nothing other than FU!

Yay!


...second star to the right and straight on till morning.

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Chefj9
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Default  Posted: 7:42 AM, December 13th (Friday)

I'm trying so hard not to give her any more head space. The more I think about her post the madder I get. I am not a vengeful person at all. Usually the first to forgive, and try and work issues out with people. But this OW makes me blind with rage.

One of her friends posted and praised her for being so enlightened and that she would love a better life than the average person. I want to out her so bad publicly. This was her second affair. She's into deviant sex acts. And she's a habitual liar that self mutilates..... A real prize.


ME - BS 49, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 25, 15, 15 and 12
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/13/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere

Posts: 468 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Texas
sinsof thefather
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Default  Posted: 8:34 AM, December 13th (Friday)

One of her friends posted and praised her for being so enlightened and that she would love a better life than the average person.

Wow. Shows what the friend knows then huh? Personally, I'd be embarrassed to put my name to such a load of drivel.
I want to out her so bad publicly. This was her second affair. She's into deviant sex acts. And she's a habitual liar that self mutilates..... A real prize.
Chefj, She knows exactly what she's doing. You and your husband are the intended audience. She knows you know the date and that's why she's doing this. She's hoping to get to you. Don't give her what she wants. She is truly not worth it. You know her for what she is and this for the rubbish it is. Remove yourself from her audience. Just leave her to her deluded posts and her equally deluded friends.

(((Chefj)))

[This message edited by sinsof thefather at 8:36 AM, December 13th (Friday)]


...second star to the right and straight on till morning.

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Chefj9
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Default  Posted: 9:52 AM, December 13th (Friday)

She will get nothing but crickets. It took me months to get here and not retort. I will not back slide. Still working on the "stop looking at her FB". I am forever grateful for SI, all the support and comments. I don't post often, but I read daily here and I know I would not be where I am today (In a good way) without it.


ME - BS 49, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 25, 15, 15 and 12
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/13/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere

Posts: 468 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Texas
StrongerOne
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Default  Posted: 10:02 AM, December 13th (Friday)

((Chef))
Gentle 1 X 2 (very small 2X4 ): stop looking at her facebook. NC, sweetie, means you can start to put the anger and hurt in its place.

BTDT, it took a long time for me to stop reading the MCOW's smug self righteous facebook page. I feel a lot better about myself when I stop myself from looking.


DDay Feb 2011.
In R.

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Chefj9
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Default  Posted: 1:52 PM, December 13th (Friday)

Thank you Stronger :-). I know, I'm getting there. I know it's the right thing to do for myself. Just one of the hardest things to do. I don't trust her, the rational side of me knows I can't control or prevent anything she died and the only thing that matters is what my fSAWH does. The irrational side says don't jet get out if my site. One day at a time and thank you for the support and advice.


ME - BS 49, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 25, 15, 15 and 12
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/13/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere

Posts: 468 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Texas
Skan
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Default  Posted: 3:01 PM, December 13th (Friday)

The stupid neither forgive nor forget the naïve forgive and forget the wise forgive but do not forget. Thomas Szasz

“WHORES. Necessary in the nineteenth century for the contraction of syphilis, without which no one could claim genius.” ― Julian Barnes, Flaubert''s Parrot

If you require vacations, gifts, and snacks, to maintain your secretive, superficial relationship, then you''re not high maintenance, you''re a whore.

Hey Girl! What''s with your new look? It''s VERY whore couture!

Did it hurt when you fell off of the whore tree and banged every guy on the way down?

A relationship is only for two, but some sluts don''t know how to count.


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



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