User Topic: Free at last, whooohoo. Hello 2014
Member # 38865
Default  Posted: 3:10 AM, December 16th (Monday)

First, hugs to all still going through S/D. Its a f'n painful process.

I am now free, got the sealed orders in the post today! Just over one year from DD, 1year + 6 days from originally agreeing the financial settlement which he, of course, reneged on.

Lots of acquired brain damage later because I thought we could do it amicably its finally over. That messed up selfish SOB is finally out of my life. FOR GOOD! 7 days remaining to finalize the transactions, then its all over red rover.

2013 you almost had me. Such joy in learning and living this new life, such equally contrasting moments of pain and despair. Did you really only last 1year? You went by so fast yet seemed to last so long. Unfortunately my sweet 2013 you cant compete with the first douche free year since 1996. Welcome 2014, I am looking forward to all you have to bring.

A big thanks to all on SI for the strength, hugs and advice so freely given by so many with such enormous hearts.

There is still healing to do, but its okay, I can feel the sunshine now.

Me: Awesome - 35.... ummm, not anymore

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou

Posts: 756 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia
Member # 36445
Default  Posted: 4:36 AM, December 16th (Monday)

Great news. Enjoy your new life of freedom!

"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

Posts: 1363 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
Member # 20082
Default  Posted: 8:15 AM, December 16th (Monday)

What a MERRY CHRISTMAS and a HAPPY New Year you just got!!

Me: 33 STBXH: 34 DD: 8
D Day (EA): 6-19-08
D Day #2 (SA): 7-5-10
D Day #3 (EA): 11-8-13
WH moved out: 11-18-13
Moved BACK IN (because the lawyer told him to): 11/29/13.
Filed for Divorce: 12-9-13
In house, fun, fun.

Posts: 474 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: AL
Member # 27148
Default  Posted: 8:25 AM, December 16th (Monday)

Merry Christmas and Congratulations!!!

Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well. 

Posts: 2729 | Registered: Jan 2010
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 8:42 AM, December 16th (Monday)

There is still healing to do, but its okay, I can feel the sunshine now.
Love this. Congratulations, Hurts! Onward.

You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

Posts: 25850 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 35624
Default  Posted: 9:23 AM, December 16th (Monday)

Congrats! Here's to a brand new life!

WH: 41
me: BS, 45
Together 18 1/2 years, married 17
DDAY 8/2/12
OW: EA- friend of 4 months
Status: separated

Posts: 903 | Registered: May 2012 | From: California
Member # 14866
Default  Posted: 9:27 AM, December 16th (Monday)



Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.

Posts: 52770 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
Member # 39139
Default  Posted: 9:30 AM, December 16th (Monday)

Good for you! Happy New Year!

Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14

Posts: 636 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Columbus
Must Survive
Member # 34533
Default  Posted: 10:05 AM, December 16th (Monday)

This is me hitting the Like Button (((((hit))))

I wish the best for your New Year!

WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen

Posts: 799 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Must Survive
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 12:47 PM, December 16th (Monday)

There is still healing to do, but its okay, I can feel the sunshine now.

LOVE this. Love it.

I'm right there behind you, friend. Just waiting on the papers.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5619 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Member # 20150
Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, December 16th (Monday)

Yeah, love it!

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17592 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Member # 33698
Default  Posted: 8:12 PM, December 16th (Monday)

Yeee-haah! Congrats! Enjoy your freedom, and make sure that you celebrate the new year and your NB!

BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 3623 | Registered: Oct 2011
Member # 28622
Default  Posted: 8:22 PM, December 16th (Monday)

It is good to go into a new year with this news!!


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5870 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
Member # 38865
Default  Posted: 2:50 AM, December 17th (Tuesday)

thank you for the congrats. I cant stop smiling.

I feel like a huge weight has been lifted, like the last year was spent in financial limbo and I was powerless to make any major changes and decisions incase it ended up in court.

Thank you all again for being here, you all rock!

Me: Awesome - 35.... ummm, not anymore

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou

Posts: 756 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia
Member # 37656
Default  Posted: 8:07 AM, December 17th (Tuesday)

Congrats to you!! I know 2014 will bring wonderful things to you!

I am still waiting for mediation. My STBX astounds me with the lies he still spews.....I have to remember that he is a liar, plain and simple. I will be so glad to be out of this limbo state I have been in for over a year now.

Here's to new beginnings!!!!

I got into the marriage, because I loved him. I got out of the marriage, because I love me.

Posts: 484 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Southern California
Member # 34697
Default  Posted: 4:47 PM, December 17th (Tuesday)


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4697 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
New Member
Member # 41664
Default  Posted: 10:19 PM, December 17th (Tuesday)

Yea! I'm jealous that you get to start the new year a free woman! Enjoy the hell out of that freedom!!!

I tried to be everything you'd ever want and sometimes I even stood on my heart and stomped. Now I'm finally alone and dressed for the show but going nowhere.
--Sara Bareilles

Posts: 34 | Registered: Dec 2013
Member # 37215
Default  Posted: 1:22 AM, December 18th (Wednesday)

Another one of our D/S friends are FREE!! Yahoo!! I'm throwing confetti!! I'm so jealous you can start 2013 fresh fresh fresh!!

Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

Posts: 2284 | Registered: Oct 2012
Member # 28997
Default  Posted: 4:32 AM, December 18th (Wednesday)

Hi honey.

I truly hope 2014 brings a wonderful new life for you.



Married 32yrs Me BW 58Yrs Him FWH 60yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA 16+ years).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2755 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
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