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EvenKeel
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Default  Posted: 12:27 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)


One year I unwrapped my present which was a necklace sporting the monogram letter "S" as the charm.

Ummmm....my name starts with "T".

Necklace was from my dysfunctional step-sibling so it is not like she doesn't know my name.

Oh wait....and the year someone got me a white blouse with the stain on the front. SOOO if you panic on Christmas Eve, just check out your dirty laundry basket for a few last minute ideas.

Anyone else wanna play "Fun from Christmas past"????



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Too_Trusting
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Default  Posted: 12:35 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

I can't top evenkeel's presents, but will share mine from the "I'm clueless and can't put forth the effort" camp:

One year, I was collecting a particular line of figurines and the ONLY thing I wanted was a particular piece that was retired and somewhat rare, but readily available on ebay and from secondary market dealers.

What did ExWH get me? A STUPID PRINTER

It was supposed to be a fabulous printer for printing pics directly from digital camera card. Hmmmmmmm...I couldn't care less, but I suspect ExWH wanted to print those pics. He never could get it to work so we returned it and he told me I could get whatever I wanted.

I went to ebay and bought the figurine I wanted in the first place.


"Anyone perfect must be lying; anything easy has its cost. Anyone plain can be lovely; anyone loved can be lost." Barenaked Ladies

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Fireball72
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Default  Posted: 12:42 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

I once got a used non-stick cookware set from the Goodwill. No lie.

How do I know?

- it had the blue "g" sticker right on the box
- it was definitely used because the coating was flaking off of the pans (rendering it unusable, anyway)
- the box looked like it had been through a few foreign Customs offices

Now, I'm not one to make a fuss, and I do believe in reuse/recycle - but, really? At least make sure your recipient can actually use the thing before you buy it from a thrift store, okay?

(My sister-in-law was the generous gifter. I don't need to go into how we don't like each other, I assume.)


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:50 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

A box of rocks. As in large gravel. Not fun rocks, like geodes or anything, just rocks.

The following year, the same people gave me a box full of unwrapped Baby Ruth fun sized candy bars. The package was addressed
To: NIK
From: Their dog

Yep. A box full of faux dog crap. Merry Christmas, NIK.


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-Hayley Williams


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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 12:54 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

Who the HELL were these people, NIK??? Was this when you were a kid?


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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 12:54 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

First thing that comes to mind is the nail polish/manicure stuff my SIL (stbx's sister, who lived 5 minutes away from us and got together with us frequently) gave me one year.

Sounds like a *fine* gift, until I add in the fact that, at the time, I HAD no fingernails. I was a nail-biter and the last thing I wanted to do was call attention to my hands. (not anymore, though - yay me!)

I never said anything to her directly about it, but I did say something to stbx.....so I'm sure she *heard* about my reaction....


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

Who the HELL were these people, NIK??? Was this when you were a kid?
Treading very VERY carefully due to the forum we're in... some people I'm no longer related to? Who believed that I "needed to lighten up" because I didn't find their humor amusing.

How'd I do? Am I banned yet?


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-Hayley Williams


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SoVerySadNow
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Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

I got a note saying, "I owe you a gift". No gift came- all forgotten. It's better not to pretend.


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Default  Posted: 1:15 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

I got a brass letter opener from a cousin. The handle portion looked like a noose to me. I showed it to my parents, sister and aunt to be sure it wasn''t just me. It wasn''t just me. It looked really creepy.


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D final 8/2012

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LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 1:37 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

One year my folks gave me a concrete opossum lawn ornament that they brought back from their trip to the Ozarks that year. It was a little odd.

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whatdoto
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Default  Posted: 1:40 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

XWH years ago gave me two pot holders with poinsettias on them ($2) and a cheap tin wind chime ($2) from the Family Dollar Store.

My brother and SIL gave me a christmas decoration....Santa had on a purple santa suit.

I'm special ya know?


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lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 1:41 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

Just this weekend as we were cookie baking, my daughter and I were discussing Christmas gifts past,and she remarked, “Dad gives the WORST gifts ever” which prompted me to tell her about a gift he gave me when we were first married. I had just bought myself a new Singer sewing machine and was gleefully creating outfits. My new H, who is of Scottish background and as tight as a drum, bought me a couple of yards of the ugliest purple plaid wool. He’d heard me say that I wanted to get some material (I was thinking black velvet) for a long skirt, so he bought me the ugly stuff because “it was on sale.” That was by far the worst gift I’ve ever got, but I made a skirt from it anyway because I didn’t want to hurt his feelings. I never wore it in public, though.


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

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MartlArts
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Default  Posted: 1:44 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

Once many years ago I received a small kitchen appliance from a sister-in-law. The appliance itself was fine, but I received it unwrapped and its box had been torn open. I knew she had gotten it as a 'hostess gift' for a Tupperware party or something that she had held, because I had attended the party! It was obvious that she opened it, decided not to use, and regifted.

Now, I knew that she was not well off financially, so I really didn't begrudge the regifting. I'm a practical person so I recognized the logic of giving us a useful gift that didn't impact her budget. But please, at least tape up the box and add paper and a bow! Make it look like a gift instead of a Goodwill donation.


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toonces
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Default  Posted: 2:31 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

back in 2001, my wife got me 2 porno VHS tapes (????). I was certainly surprised since we didn't watch porn nor could I imagine that she would actually walk into the store to purchase them.

[This message edited by toonces at 11:55 AM, December 19th (Thursday)]


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d-day 4/2002
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EvenKeel
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Default  Posted: 2:39 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

I forgot about one....

One year my ex got me this ceramic box from the Dollar Store. It was shaped like a huge cross with these awful glass flowers on it. I opened it and did not know quite what to say.

He says "it looked like you....."

I took it to work to show my co-worker. She was speechless - it was really horrible-gawdy looking. I said "PLEASE TELL ME WHAT I AM DOING THAT MAKES THIS LOOK LIKE ME????"

She said that is so opposite of you. I am a tad OCD and do not like any sort of knick-knacky items, etc.

I was afraid I was going to start wearing polyester pants with matching crocheted kelly green vests!!

Edited...no offense to anyone sporting green polyester pants with a matching crocketed vest today. I am sure you are rocking it....

[This message edited by EvenKeel at 2:48 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)]


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Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

Just a reminder that F&G's is an infidelity-free forum.


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MartlArts
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Default  Posted: 3:08 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

Thankfully, this gift wasn't for me - but I knew a lady whose H was the cheapest guy I ever met. She had mentioned that she was thinking of painting something on their porch - so he bought her a quart of paint!


excerpt from an awesome quote "Forgiveness - the finishing of old business that allows us to experience the present, free of contamination from the past."

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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 3:20 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

My oldest sister used to have a habit of giving me three sizes too small clothes, usually with cats on them. I hung onto them for years, because they are gifts and it seemed wrong to toss them. Then I made an excellent discovery, her preteen daughter fits splendidly in them.

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Default  Posted: 3:24 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

Edited...no offense to anyone sporting green polyester pants with a matching crocketed vest today. I am sure you are rocking it....

*snort*


Me - 40s
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 40s. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - ??

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

I edit often for clarity.


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lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 3:31 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

Edited...no offense to anyone sporting green polyester pants with a matching crocketed vest today. I am sure you are rocking it....

Why yes I am....j/k

[This message edited by lieshurt at 3:32 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)]


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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 4:47 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

Then I made an excellent discovery, her preteen daughter fits splendidly in them


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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Default  Posted: 5:19 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

One year my mom gave me the free plastic watch that came with a gift she bought someone else.


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Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
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PurpleBirch
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Default  Posted: 8:14 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

My grandparents used to give me a huge (seriously huge) bag of chocolate (that I don't like) every year. They now (thankfully) do gift cards.

This isn't the worst ever per se, but I got a secret Santa gift that was perfume. This is a really nice thought, but I'm allergic to perfume! The boss even announced it to everyone, so there really isn't any reason for anyone to remotely think "hey! I'll just find her some nice perfume". I hate thinking that this person is a jerk (because a gift is a gift after all), but I seriously took it as a fuck-you PB.


Me: BS (32)
Him: WH (31)
Married 3 years.
Confessed to PA April 21 2013.

DS (6), DS (18 months)

Aug 30 2013 He gives me back his ring with an ultimatum: "Get over it or get out".

Status: Done like dinner


Posts: 277 | Registered: May 2013 | From: The frozen North, eh?
tesla
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Default  Posted: 10:08 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

When I was 10, my grandma got me a package of underwear with the days of the week on the ass. It was a set of six.
No undies provided for Sunday.


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courageous
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Default  Posted: 10:38 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

Well my birthday is VERY close to Christmas so I get the birthday/Christmas present alllll the time. It sucks because most of the time people are too cheap and lazy to actually get me something for each occasion.

When I was in my 20s, my then boyfriend thought it would be great to get me tickets to a wwf wrestling match... You know the one that had "the rock" and Austin 3:16. Just to say I do NOT like to watch wrestling and to top it off the seats were in the nosebleed section and the stairs were very steep. I'm afraid of heights... Deathly afraid. To give you an example of how afraid.... I don't get near second floor balconies, I hate glass wall elevators, and escalators make me nervous.

I freaked out trying to walk to our seats. I believe I stumbled several times. It was not pleasant. His gift is the example I give now of what NOT to get me.


Me: BW (35)
Him: ExWH (31) EA/PA with MOW coworker
Married 9 years, 2 small kids
dday 3/12/2011 divorced fall 2012

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 12:28 AM, December 19th (Thursday)

*Sigh* I trot this one out every year

When I was first married, I was taking Chinese cooking lessons. My MIL showed me pictures of some Asian-patterned place settings in a catalog and asked if I'd like them for Christmas; I enthusiastically said "YES!"

On Christmas Eve, my presents were the only ones not wrapped in Christmas paper. When I opened them--they were the covered metal dishes that they use to serve food in Chinese restaurants. The look on my face:


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 12:09 PM, December 19th (Thursday)

A couple of years ago, my brother gave me a gravy ladle for Christmas.

I lived with my parents, and had no need for silverware/serving ware of any kind.

I said "thank you" and then he went off on a tangent about how I was bitch and nothing was good enough for me.

I said "well, I'll be able to have all the gravy I want, now, since I have this awesome ladle!"


Maybe I am a bitch.


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Default  Posted: 12:38 PM, December 19th (Thursday)

Who's old enough to remember leg warmers? The kind ballet dancers used to wear when practicing? I'm not a dancer and I guess they were sort of "in fashion" during the Flash Dance Era....


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SurprisinglyOkay
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Default  Posted: 12:42 PM, December 19th (Thursday)

Who's old enough to remember leg warmers? The kind ballet dancers used to wear when practicing? I'm not a dancer and I guess they were sort of "in fashion" during the Flash Dance Era....

I'm wearing leg warmers, right now....

They are black and white checkered....

I'm skinny, I need the layers.

(I have four pairs)


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BS him 39 AFrayedKnot
Together 7 years
2 children


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Default  Posted: 3:17 PM, December 19th (Thursday)

My exMIL was the queen of gift giving. One year I received a musty couch pillow covered in lint. Then the hand mirror with brush in a box completely mangled. Oh yeah and she re-gifted me perfume that she had asked me for the year before. I could go on but I would just like to end with the happiness I feel to no longer receiving her gifts!


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Default  Posted: 5:48 PM, December 19th (Thursday)

As an adult I received one of those boxes of earrings that has like 24 pair in it meant for little girls, and that infect your ear piercing within five minutes. The price tag(s) was still on, and had been overlabeled at least 10 times with the top tag reading .99. They were even already tarnished looking. Awesome.


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Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, December 20th (Friday)

Once my secret santa at work gave me a pair of earrings...my ears are not peirced.


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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 1:54 PM, December 20th (Friday)

I said "thank you" and then he went off on a tangent about how I was bitch and nothing was good enough for me.

I said "well, I'll be able to have all the gravy I want, now, since I have this awesome ladle!"


Maybe I am a bitch.

Sounds like he knew it was a shitty gift. Love your response, but then maybe I'm a bitch too


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Default  Posted: 10:49 PM, December 20th (Friday)

One Christmas when I was working in something like an urgent care on a military base in Germany, all of the staff drew names for the Christmas party. No one was required to participate. I don't remember what the limit was but it was around 40 bucks. I bought a really nice gift for the person whose name I drew.

When present time came, we opened one at the time. And my gift was.........

NOTHING!

The guy who drew my name just decided not to buy anything. Didn't bother telling anyone. And he was happy enough to receive a gift.

Jackass


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

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Default  Posted: 11:24 PM, December 20th (Friday)

Does it have to be a Xmas gift??? I can't think of one but I can think of a cheap "thank you " gift I was given by two couples.
The two couples were going to visit the county where I come from in the Mediterranean. I still own property there and I offered it to them to stay for 2 weeks( the length of their trip) That saved them a LOT of money. When they returned, their thank you gift was 2 cheap kitchen towels that you can buy over there at the flea market for 2 euros each.
Honestly, what bothered me most is how ungrateful they were. I did not even expect anything; they would have been better off just sending a card. Their gift spoke volumes to me.......


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Default  Posted: 3:13 PM, December 21st (Saturday)

Sad I remember your Asian dish gift!

My *best* gift was the first Christmas after I had my son. I had all of these pie in the sky dreams that I had read. You know, the kiss the daddy would plant on the mom just after the baby was born, telling you how wonderful you are... nope. So I thought for sure for Christmas I would get something very personal... maybe a nice nightgown... something to make me feel special and sexy again.

I got a bread box. A. bread. box. To this day he does not understand what he did wrong.


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Default  Posted: 7:45 PM, December 21st (Saturday)

Co-workers had a gift exchange most years. It was a game where you could open a gift from under the tree or steal one from someone else, in order by numbers from one until done. If yours was stolen, you had the option again, and so on until all were opened.

I had a low number and chose one from under the tree rather than one of the few that were out. It came in a very pretty box. I was stuck with the partially burned candle and another used item because no one else stole it from me.

[This message edited by thebighurt at 7:46 PM, December 21st (Saturday)]


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Default  Posted: 10:17 AM, December 22nd (Sunday)

My I laws were both smokers. Every year, I had to throw away whatever they got us, because the gift reeked like smoke.

The best part of my holidays was when they would have meals or guests. Everyone else got the fancy crystal glasses - that bitch made me use Tupperware.

The best part of holidays for me is not having in-laws.


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Default  Posted: 6:01 PM, December 22nd (Sunday)

For many, MANY years, absolutely nothing.

Or worse, something he had rushed out and grabbed the night before.


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Default  Posted: 6:17 PM, December 22nd (Sunday)


Two stick out in my mind.

I had just birthed my daughter and was nursing. I'm well endowed anyway and what with nursing I looked like a breast implant operation gone wrong. Plus I had gained a ton of weight. I specifically told FWS I didn't want any clothing.

He got me a Victoria's Secret sweater. The kind that stopped right at the waist. It WAS a very pretty blue in his defense but it was obviously something HE liked. I was crushed. Never wore it.

#2 was Black Christmas (I busted him and FB#14 the day after). I had asked for a pair of pearl stud earrings. Instead he got me a pair of "less than .08 carot" diamond studs from Zales and adding insult one of the posts was so badly bent you couldn't wear them. I already owned a very nice pair of larger diamond studs. I didn't even try to fake my "thank you" through that one...... They were referred to as "the piss-ant little diamonds" because 48 hours later I didn't care if his poor widdle feelings were hurt or not.

After that debacle I just bought my own Christmas gifts and FWS endured it.

k9


BS: 56
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.

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Default  Posted: 6:18 PM, December 22nd (Sunday)


Two stick out in my mind.

I had just birthed my daughter and was nursing. I'm well endowed anyway and what with nursing I looked like a breast implant operation gone wrong. Plus I had gained a ton of weight. I specifically told FWS I didn't want any clothing.

He got me a Victoria's Secret sweater. The kind that stopped right at the waist. It WAS a very pretty blue in his defense but it was obviously something HE liked. I was crushed. Never wore it.

#2 was Black Christmas (I busted him and FB#14 the day after). I had asked for a pair of pearl stud earrings. Instead he got me a pair of "less than .08 carot" diamond studs from Zales and adding insult one of the posts was so badly bent you couldn't wear them. I already owned a very nice pair of larger diamond studs. I didn't even try to fake my "thank you" through that one...... They were referred to as "the piss-ant little diamonds" because 48 hours later I didn't care if his poor widdle feelings were hurt or not.

After that debacle I just bought my own Christmas gifts and FWS endured it.

k9


BS: 56
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.

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Default  Posted: 7:26 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

When I was 10, my grandma got me a package of underwear with the days of the week on the ass. It was a set of six.
No undies provided for Sunday

No undies provided for Sunday??? Bwahahahaha!!!


Me: BS (32)
Him: WH (31)
Married 3 years.
Confessed to PA April 21 2013.

DS (6), DS (18 months)

Aug 30 2013 He gives me back his ring with an ultimatum: "Get over it or get out".

Status: Done like dinner


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Default  Posted: 9:11 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

My MIL cannot accept the fact that I don't wear a size 22. Never have...even at my heaviest. She cannot accept the fact that people are shaped differently and that means sizes fit differently. She cannot accept the fact that she is not the same size/shape as me. Or that I cannot wear the styles that look good on her. Even at my heaviest I always had a waist. I've always been an hourglass shape. She thinks that because she wears bigger shirts and wants her shirts to cover her butt, that I should wear the same thing. That would mean I would be wearing something as wide as my hips and hide the fact that I have a shape. Right now I wear a size 12 in jeans...actually could wear a 10 around my waist. I can tell she doesn't believe it. And I'm not a 12 from the fat lady section. I can buy a 12 from anywhere and fit. I wear medium shirts and depending on the cut I can wear a small. My whole Xmas outfit for tomorrow night are mediums from Target and New York and Co! But she wears her shirts xxl. Anyway, my point in all of this is that she will buy me clothes at Christmas that are 5 sizes too big because she cannot accept the fact that even though I have been heavier and I'm still no twig, that I am not as heavy as she is or shaped in anyway the same. It's annoying because it makes me doubt that I look somewhat decent!


Me (BW): 32
WH: 33 TimeToManUp
Married: 11 years, together 16 years
3 daughters: 9, 5, 3, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011


Posts: 1720 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
TimeToManUp
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Member # 37538
Default  Posted: 9:37 AM, December 24th (Tuesday)

TCD, you look much better than half-decent. You're a hottie!


I know we're worth it.
WH (Me-33)
BW (tattoodchinadoll-31)
D-Day: 12/22/11
Together 15 years, married for 10.
Three daughters, 8, 4 and 2.

Posts: 227 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: New Jersey
Threnody
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Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, December 24th (Tuesday)

When I was 13, my step-father's mother, in general a selfish and childish woman, went all-out one year, buying my step-brother and my little sister wonderful, thoughtful gifts. I watched my siblings open them and held mine on my lap, wanting to wait and open it last of all. I was so excited! I thought perhaps she had finally kind of woken up to us kids.

Once everything else was unwrapped, I began on her gift. She liked to reuse paper and bows, so I was oh-so-cautious. I remember popping the tape carefully and setting the bow aside, then unrolling the paper to reveal...

... a cheap plastic box thing. I looked up at her to say thank you even though I didn't know what it was, but she leapt in. "It's a cotton ball holder! For your vanity!"

The vanity she promised me two years before that she later decided she didn't want to part with.

My mom asked, "Oh, you're giving her the vanity too?" Mom was as puzzled as I was.

"No," said grandma. "I told you, I'm keeping it."

(I gave that box to my sister. She kept Barbie shoes and accessories in it.)


“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"Great love requires determination." ~ tryingtwo
"Don't try to win over the haters, you're not the jackass whisperer." ~ Brene Brown

Posts: 14040 | Registered: Jun 2003 | From: Middle-of-Diddly, TX
thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 3:53 PM, December 24th (Tuesday)

(((Thren))) It's sad when hurtful people single you out and it's so obvious. Or promise things that make you feel special and they never happen. I would have given it away, too.


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

Posts: 2332 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side
stungbytravel
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Default  Posted: 5:23 PM, December 24th (Tuesday)

My worst is torn. A shower radio from a guy I was dating probably cost him maybe $5. No thought what so ever. Second would have been a full size flamingo planter. I love flamingos but really this thing was half the size of me.

Posts: 263 | Registered: Oct 2012
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 12:13 AM, December 25th (Wednesday)

(((Thren)))

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karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 6:46 AM, December 25th (Wednesday)

When I was about 7 my older (by 2 years) sister and I got rag dolls for Christmas. I loved mine!!

My sister decided she loved mine as well and took it, giving me hers.

I asked my mom if I could have my doll back and my sister said I was lying and the doll was hers. My mom looked at me and said "it doesn't matter what doll you opened, that one is for your sister"

I was crushed.

Years later I found pictures of me from that Christmas opening "my doll". I was pissed even then

My daughter actually has it now.....up on a shelf.


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3810 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 1:59 AM, December 27th (Friday)

I attended the wedding of a family friend, 2 weeks before my own. Another fam friend was sitting by me and giggling because she had given a crock pot to the couple, that she had received as a wedding gift. She came to my house a month or d so after my wedding and spotted a crock pot. She busted up laughing when I told her ot was from the friend who had gotten married before I. It was the same gift she re-gifted. So I received a gift that had been re-gifted twice. It was pretty ugly and not like the cool ones that had just come out.


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5048 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
Laura28
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Default  Posted: 2:47 AM, December 27th (Friday)

My MIL was the queen of second hand gift giving. (Was because we don't speak any more - she's not dead )

The last gift I received was a particularly ugly pair of clip on earrings I had seen her wear many times. Over the years I received many pairs of clip- ons from her - my ears are pierced but perhaps she never noticed.

And before you rush to her defence - no she does NOT have dementia.


Married 32yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 60yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA 16+ years).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2748 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
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