Are so important, not only for the BS. My friend invited me out to a clun om Friday and an immediate sense of guilt accompanied reading the name. I invited OM to that club once with the same friend. Mentioned I was supposed to go to a fight party at another place and it didn't pan out (it was a fight party OM invited me to and I felt uncomfortable so was supposed to go with a friend who cancelled so i cancelled, this was before it got physical and when I was flirting and thought i was handling it, pfft yea right) so she told me to invite the friends and I did. He asked for a pic I sent him one of me in my dress at the club and then no more responses. I'm 99.9% sure I told XSO about this. I remember him asking if I ever sent OM pics and I told him about that picture. He also asked about that fight party. So I'm pretty darn certain he was told. Thing is he never wanted to read the timeline I offered. Stopped wanting any and all details so now if I recall something, even a sentnce uttered that I remember th at I didn't before I have to work through it and keep it there in case he ever wants more details. Yes we are broken up but I think if he ever asks me anything more about this its his right to know but I don't want to sucker punch him with anything ya know.
So point of all this? Timelines are important. Even if your SO doesn't want one, the day they are ready for one you should have a mental diary or written one of everything you've remembered.... 99.9% certain....Heartbroken madhatter trying to rebuild
No longer together
Do not let others be your reference for who you see in the mirror.
Stop allowing people to hurt you, because you don't love you enough to walk away.