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meaniemouse
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Default  Posted: 8:14 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

This article was sent to me today. To say I was shocked is an understatement, not because of the story, well, OK, a little bit because of the story, but mostly because of the author.

If you think you've ruined your kids' holidays by being divorced, here's another perspective.

Oh--and the author is my youngest daughter. Sorry to brag, but I could not be more proud.

http://elitedaily.com/life/culture/five-reasons-kids-divorce-best-holiday-season/#


Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James

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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 9:12 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

NICE! You are right to be proud. Level headed DD you got there, with a good spirit and a talent for writing.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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meaniemouse
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Default  Posted: 9:20 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

Thanks, caregiver. I think what makes me the most happy is that she's telling it exactly like it is. And it's ok.


Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James

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wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 9:29 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

What a smart, funny, down-to-earth girl, meanie. Loved it.


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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meaniemouse
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Default  Posted: 9:31 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

Thanks, WB. I so love that kid.


Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:18 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

Great article. And I just love your DD's voice.


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-Hayley Williams


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 10:24 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Pass
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Default  Posted: 10:27 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

What NIK said.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


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meaniemouse
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Default  Posted: 11:00 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

Thanks NIK, tesla and pass. With all the worrying we do as parents of kids who are dealing with divorce--it's a relief to know that things can turn out ok after all.


Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James

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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 11:43 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)

This is awesome!

And ya know what? The last time we were at our family counselor he told me pretty much the same thing. I should not hold any guilt or worry about my kids & the holidays. They will be getting two celebrations of every holiday & special occasion from now on. It's a much better deal than originally thought! Good to read your DD's words confirming this idea!


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 12:47 AM, December 19th (Thursday)

Wonderful article!


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. Now I am living alone in the beautiful rural property that was once the dream retreat with X. It's taking a long time to create new dreams but despite some struggles I am mostly happy.

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meaniemouse
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Default  Posted: 1:02 AM, December 19th (Thursday)

Thanks NatureGirl and InnerLight!!


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Newlease
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Default  Posted: 9:07 AM, December 19th (Thursday)

Wow - what a great article - you really have done an excellent job of raising a wise woman!

NL


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StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 10:52 AM, December 19th (Thursday)

A really awesome article! Go ahead and beam today proud Mama!


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

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meaniemouse
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Default  Posted: 12:04 PM, December 19th (Thursday)

Thanks Newlease and StillLiven. She's light-years ahead of where I was at her age. Thank Goodness!


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, December 19th (Thursday)

ps - the pajama tradition? Had me rolling.


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better4me
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Default  Posted: 12:21 PM, December 19th (Thursday)

There are no lies, brave faces, or illusions. The charade we put on for so many years before my parents realized they werenít happy together is done, and now we have something thatís real and so much better to come home to. Seeing both of my parents in their new lives is the exact holiday miracle I needed, and itís what saved my familyÖboth families.

What a smart young woman! You did something right, Meanie!


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meaniemouse
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Default  Posted: 4:34 PM, December 19th (Thursday)

NIK--it's for REAL!! These are the footed jammies with the flap in back!

Thanks better4me! I sure hope I did!

poof!

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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 4:59 PM, December 19th (Thursday)

What a great article! Love the pajamas

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meaniemouse
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Default  Posted: 6:00 PM, December 19th (Thursday)


Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James

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NotFixable
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Default  Posted: 6:52 PM, December 19th (Thursday)

Loved the article! It gave me hope as this is our 1st Christmas split. I know this one will be bad, but now I know it can get better and probably will. You should be so proud of DD!


Me-BS
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DD #1 03/12
DD #2 11/20/13
Status: Separated and planning D
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Nowhere left to go but up!


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