User Topic: Ashley Madison?
Member # 19234
Default  Posted: 4:26 PM, December 20th (Friday)

I am curious how many people have had experience with wh or ww meeting people on AM. My wh met someone he slept with twice. We are in R. Just wondering if anyone else had experienced this too.

Posts: 228 | Registered: Apr 2008
Member # 24719
Default  Posted: 6:56 PM, December 20th (Friday)

My H had a profile on it. But never met with anyone. He decided it was unsafe. The safer option would be an escort.

Me- 40- BS Him- 36- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 3 mo. EA d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute 11/5/13 in R
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah."- Leonard Cohen

Posts: 2286 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Midwest
Member # 30024
Default  Posted: 8:09 PM, December 20th (Friday)

There is a BH named Tred who's ww had and affair with someone she met on Ashley Madison. He is usually pretty active here at SI.

BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson

Posts: 9853 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
Member # 33698
Default  Posted: 8:56 PM, December 20th (Friday)

I am one of the Ashley Madison group (along with Tred; I believe that we are the co-chairs of the group ). That's where my ex found his AP. If you have more specific questions, feel free to PM me.

[This message edited by tryingagain74 at 8:56 PM, December 20th (Friday)]

BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 3623 | Registered: Oct 2011
Member # 40778
Default  Posted: 8:56 PM, December 20th (Friday)

My WH met someone on there and developed an 18 month A with her. Yeah, I'm not a big fan of Ashley Madison. I had never even heard of it before dday. I was appalled that such a site even existed, much less sick people that would actually go there! Unreal.

Dday June 2013

"What lies behind you and what lies in front of you, pales in comparison to what lies inside of you. Ralph Waldo Emerson

Posts: 95 | Registered: Sep 2013
Member # 24719
Default  Posted: 7:22 AM, December 21st (Saturday)

A local talk radio station here plays commercials for it. We used to go to sleep to that station... Now... It makes me want to throw the damn radio across the room. We don't listen to station at all now.

The first time they had a commercial for it, it was about 6 or 7 weeks after dday1. We had a tornado warning, so we were stuck in the basement. That radio station is the GO TO for storm coverage. So, there I am, trapped in the basement, with two terrified kids, 2 even more terrified cats, and myWH who had recently said nasty things about his "boring vanilla wife" on his AM profile, when the commercial came on, he and I just FROZE. That was no kind of fun. I can't even imagine why they would think that was a good time to advertise a married cheating site.

Me- 40- BS Him- 36- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 3 mo. EA d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute 11/5/13 in R
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah."- Leonard Cohen

Posts: 2286 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Midwest
Member # 38288
Default  Posted: 7:42 AM, December 21st (Saturday)

My H did not go to AM but instead went to craigslist for prostitutes. I am so dumb. I thought craigslist was for selling stuff and what not. Hey, I guess prostitution is selling stuff!

BW 55, WH 64
2 years of prostitutes.

Posts: 283 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: California
Member # 33013
Default  Posted: 7:56 AM, December 21st (Saturday)

Another Ashley Madison BS here. A couple of weeks after Dday I created a fake account to see if wh still had a profile up. I had over a hundred notices in my inbox in under two days!! It's a sick, scary place.

WH on DDay 2: "I should just work and shut up. My happiness doesn't matter."

Posts: 182 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Ohio
Member # 34086
Default  Posted: 9:08 AM, December 21st (Saturday)


My wife was on AM for 20 months, had a 17 month PA/EA affair with one and had numerous (6 or 7, who knows) EA's, and chatted with too many to tell. She was really into the validation. She knew she'd meet tons of men because one of her BFF's was on there and told her that she'd be mobbed if she signed up. All betrayal sucks. This is just our flavor of shit. It's tough.

Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

Posts: 4028 | Registered: Dec 2011
cannot forget
Member # 30759
Default  Posted: 9:25 AM, December 21st (Saturday)

I am unfortunately in this group. My WH met his whore and had 2.5 year A. He took down profile when she asked him to. I hate that site.

MOW49 2.5yr LTA
married 24yrs

Posts: 52 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Ct
Member # 41407
Default  Posted: 1:41 AM, December 23rd (Monday)

Well, I made up a fake profile on AM after my gross husband got caught and admitted ONS w/ prostitute. So I figured if he was into anonymous sex, maybe he'd be looking for free anonymous sex, I better check if I could find him on AM.
Seriously, within hours my mailbox was filled with possible hook-ups. For days this went on, and no matter how many times I clicked *cancel*, they kept coming. And they pretty much all seemed creepy and skeevy. I finally wrote to AM and claimed I was going to call the police if they didn't *let me go* (I claimed an under age child in my home had signed up). I'm off their list, but it is really pretty frightening how many creeps there are on that site.

Me: faithful wife 62.
Him: WH 64 , prostitute 20 yr old
DDay: 8-13-2013
Status: boinging up and down like a yo-yo

Posts: 499 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Florida
Member # 41286
Default  Posted: 8:09 AM, December 23rd (Monday)

Sorry Hopeful, I'm no help...Craigslist here too.

Which I would like to clarify, is where people try to get rid of useless crap that was never of any real value to the original owner anyway.

Me: 42
WW: 36
Latest D-day: Sept 2013
Reconciling? Limbo?

Posts: 96 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: NE Ohio
Member # 40095
Default  Posted: 8:12 AM, December 23rd (Monday)

Yep, my WH was on this site. He was trying to meet more women to sleep with. Guess he didn't get enough from adultfriendfinder and craigslist. It sucks.

BS: Me
WH: Husband
One daughter - 22 months
Married 11.5 years
2.5 false R's.
Status: Divorcing.
You can't pick up a turd by the clean end. Time to flush the toilet.

Posts: 253 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Somewhere on the Eastern Seaboard
Member # 34722
Default  Posted: 8:38 AM, December 23rd (Monday)

Xpos was another AM member. Also a member on several porn dating sites. Also trolling CL ads for casual, anonymous sex. One ad there he was interested in was a man looking for men to have sex with his wife so he could watch!

Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

Posts: 2396 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side
Member # 16321
Default  Posted: 12:47 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

I hadn't heard about this site until a coworker told me she caught her father on it while borrowing his phone! After that, one of my best friends found out his W was using it for affairs. So, I have second hand experience.

Me- BW 35
Him - WH 43

Posts: 53 | Registered: Sep 2007 | From: Texas
Member # 30826
Default  Posted: 12:57 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

My WH was on craigslist.

I signed up for AM a few months after dday. I created a profile, trying to find my WH( I didn't). I had 278 responses in the first 12 hours. It was almost as disgusting as craigslist. I say "almost" because I've spent a lot more time cruising craigslist looking for my husband than I did on AM.

I asked WH WHY he would even think to post there..or place an ad. The whole thing made my skin crawl..I certainly didn't feel turned on.

FWH 45
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling?

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.

Posts: 7756 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
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