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PanicAttack53
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Default  Posted: 10:09 AM, December 23rd (Monday)

Hi All!

It's been a long time (August) since my last post on SI. My divorce was final on 10/1 and I've been living life large since then.

My reason for posting today is that I was just diagnosed with a very deep stage 4 malignant melanoma. I'm hoping like hell it's localized as the recovery rate is 80% or better. If it's spread to my lymph nodes however, that number reduces to about 17%.

I'm going in for a Pet scan today @1:30pm est and should know more about where I'm at with this hopefully late today or early tomorrow. What I'm asking for here is good thoughts, Mojo, prayer... whatever you can see fit to send my way. I'm not trying to be negative, but I just have a sick feeling I'm gonna need all the help I can get on this.

Thanks in advance and Happy Holidays to all here at SI!!!!


Me-BH Her-XWW | B/ 59 on D-day (11/17/11) | D final on 10/1/13 I'm Lovin' life again!
Rest of the story really doesn't matter any more.
“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have.” ― Eckhart Tolle

Posts: 894 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Midwest
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 10:10 AM, December 23rd (Monday)

Major mojo coming your way, PA5.
(p.s.....good to *see* you!)


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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gahurts
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Default  Posted: 10:12 AM, December 23rd (Monday)

Prayers sent. Try to enjoy the holidays.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3432 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 10:12 AM, December 23rd (Monday)

(((PA))))

Mojo, and prayers coming your way.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8691 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:12 AM, December 23rd (Monday)

Sending you everything I've got, honey. ((((((((PA53)))))))))


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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PanicAttack53
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Default  Posted: 10:16 AM, December 23rd (Monday)

Thanks Gonna! Good to see you too. I'm a little screwed up in the head right now due to this physical crap I have going on but I *promise* I'll PM you soon to catch up.

ETA: Thanks everyone else too!

[This message edited by PanicAttack53 at 10:19 AM, December 23rd (Monday)]


Me-BH Her-XWW | B/ 59 on D-day (11/17/11) | D final on 10/1/13 I'm Lovin' life again!
Rest of the story really doesn't matter any more.
“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have.” ― Eckhart Tolle

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confused615
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Default  Posted: 10:17 AM, December 23rd (Monday)

Praying for you, PA.


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling?

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


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PanicAttack53
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Default  Posted: 10:21 AM, December 23rd (Monday)

Ah confused,

Thanks for that and I'm so, so sorry about your mom. Please know that you're in my thoughts and prayers too.


Me-BH Her-XWW | B/ 59 on D-day (11/17/11) | D final on 10/1/13 I'm Lovin' life again!
Rest of the story really doesn't matter any more.
“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have.” ― Eckhart Tolle

Posts: 894 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Midwest
lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 10:25 AM, December 23rd (Monday)

Sending lots of healing prayers, mojo and good luck your way hun!

(((Panic)))


Walk away from anything or anyone who takes away your joy. Life is too short to put up with fools.

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weeping willow
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Default  Posted: 10:29 AM, December 23rd (Monday)

Healing prayers and mojo coming your way. Best of luck to you.

((((PA))))


BW - me FWH - him
D Day - July 26, 2007
Married 36 years


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 10:32 AM, December 23rd (Monday)

Mojo and good thoughts coming your way!!

(((((PA)))))


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Tred
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Default  Posted: 10:35 AM, December 23rd (Monday)

PA,

Sending everything I have your way. Hope you have a happy holiday season mate. Please keep us updated!


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
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lostworld
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Default  Posted: 10:38 AM, December 23rd (Monday)

Sending you a PM, and you are of course in my prayers.


Me: BS
Him: FWH
Married 30 yrs. w/ 2 grown kids
Dday 1: Very early 2007
Dday 2: Mid 2008 (same MOW, 14 month false R)
R'd
The affair was the aberration, not the marriage or the man.

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Take2
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Default  Posted: 10:43 AM, December 23rd (Monday)

Prayers and positive believing that those lymph nodes are clean and clear! Peace, Strength and Courage! ((PA!))


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, December 23rd (Monday)

Prayers & good thoughts coming your way!


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9817 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 10:49 AM, December 23rd (Monday)

Covering you in prayer, PA.

Sending thoughts for strength and peace your way!


AJ's MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


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cayc
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Default  Posted: 11:03 AM, December 23rd (Monday)

(((panicattack))) Sending good thoughts and hope your way.


"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand

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windows
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Default  Posted: 11:15 AM, December 23rd (Monday)

Prayers are coming your way...

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sisoon
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Default  Posted: 11:15 AM, December 23rd (Monday)

Count me in, PA53. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this, too.


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

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hexed
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Default  Posted: 11:17 AM, December 23rd (Monday)

Lots and lots of prayers and good mojo!


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


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Crushed1
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Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, December 23rd (Monday)

(((PanicAttack))) Healing thoughts and prayers for you.


~~"You can't run away from yourself"!!! Me to my H when he descended into adultery insanity.
~~Prov.15:13 "By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken"
~~"The day breaks-your mind aches"
~STRENGTH~PEACE~HOPE~FAITH

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Edith
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Default  Posted: 11:46 AM, December 23rd (Monday)

Praying for you PA.

E.


Lies are manipulations. Always.

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5454real
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Default  Posted: 11:48 AM, December 23rd (Monday)

Mojo and prayers are on their way brother.


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

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Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Praying for you


Me (BS)-45, WW-43
DDay 2/17/13, 9-10 month PA/EA
M - 18 years, 4 children
Reconciling

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sheila0304
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Default  Posted: 12:43 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Send good thoughts and Mojo!!!

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sadcat
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Default  Posted: 12:46 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Good thoughts, major mojo and (((((pa)))))!


I need not suffer in silence while I can still moan, whimper and complain.

If this isn't what I consider soulmate crap, I don't know what is.


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stroppy_wanadoo
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Default  Posted: 1:21 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Many thoughts and prayers and much positive mojo to you!!!

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solus sto
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Default  Posted: 1:21 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

(((PanicAttack))) I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Please let us know how it goes.


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 1:41 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

(((PA)))

Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.


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itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Prayers sent.

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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 2:30 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

PA... Praying so very hard. Healing thoughts and tons of mojo coming your way.


Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

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DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 3:01 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Sending strength and mojo your way......I hope it goes well for you today.

((((PA))))


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 25 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 30
Dday: Dec 2008
Limbo-ish, again (after multiple S) -- weighing my options

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lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 3:20 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Oh honey, loads of mojo coming your way. Prayers and good thoughts, too. Hugs.


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks


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soveryweary
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Default  Posted: 3:47 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

((PA)) Sending healing thoughts your way.


Divorced 1/3/14

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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 3:52 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Sending you all the positive thoughts and mojo I can muster!


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Sending prayers and positive thoughts to you!!!


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

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goodbye_virginia
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Default  Posted: 4:55 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Sending prayers. I am a 1 yr cancer survivor. You can do this!


Me- BW 35
Him - WH 43

Posts: 53 | Registered: Sep 2007 | From: Texas
PanicAttack53
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Default  Posted: 4:55 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Hey all! I just got the most AWESOME Christmas gift ever!!! My Pet scan came back NEGATIVE!!!!!! NO cancer in any other parts of my body. Not out of the woods yet by any means... but this was a major hurtle to get over. Thanks to ALL of you for your support, thoughts, prayers etc... they really Worked!!!!!!!! Geesh, I'm sitting here balling my eyes out in pure happiness.

Sorry for all the smilies but I'm so damned giddy right now I feel like I'm *HIGH* (Not btw lol) Thanks so much again everyone. Going out now to celebrate with my brother and SIL over some hot Christmas toddies. I probably *will* be literally high after that.


Me-BH Her-XWW | B/ 59 on D-day (11/17/11) | D final on 10/1/13 I'm Lovin' life again!
Rest of the story really doesn't matter any more.
“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have.” ― Eckhart Tolle

Posts: 894 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Midwest
ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 5:04 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

WOW!!!! That is AWESOME news!!!

One of my friends had something similar- a deep melanoma on his shoulder. They cut it out and got it all- this was YEARS ago- and he's had no problems since!


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PanicAttack53
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Default  Posted: 5:15 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Thought, Yeah... that's what I'm hoping happened here. I still have to go through the second part of this i.e. excision, node biopsy and possibly a cocktail of meds like (Interferon etc..) but getting a negative on the pet scan was a HUGE hurtle to get past.

[This message edited by PanicAttack53 at 5:16 PM, December 23rd (Monday)]


Me-BH Her-XWW | B/ 59 on D-day (11/17/11) | D final on 10/1/13 I'm Lovin' life again!
Rest of the story really doesn't matter any more.
“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have.” ― Eckhart Tolle

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goodbye_virginia
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Default  Posted: 5:17 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Oh my. Such awesome news! Congratulations!


Me- BW 35
Him - WH 43

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sunsetslost
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Default  Posted: 5:23 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Sending all I got your way.


Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.

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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 5:25 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Very happy for your news, PA5.


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 5:42 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Awesome news!!!


Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

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PanicAttack53
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Default  Posted: 5:49 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Thanks again everyone. The next step in all this will be much easier to handle now that I know what I'm *not* dealing with. After the new year (probably) my oncologist will schedule surgery to excise the tumor area, do a node biopsy under my arm and possibly put me on a cocktail of meds (Interferon etc..) All of this I can handle because I now have the biggest piece of the puzzle solved in getting the negative Pet scan results.

OK, really late now and heading out to party. Talk to you all again real soon!

[This message edited by PanicAttack53 at 5:50 PM, December 23rd (Monday)]


Me-BH Her-XWW | B/ 59 on D-day (11/17/11) | D final on 10/1/13 I'm Lovin' life again!
Rest of the story really doesn't matter any more.
“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have.” ― Eckhart Tolle

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sisoon
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Default  Posted: 6:11 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

That's GREAT!

I'm still in your corner WRT removing the initial melanoma.


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

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JustDone
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Default  Posted: 6:17 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Whew! Such good news!!!


Forgiveness is giving up the possibility of a better past.

Nobody forgets what happens, the secret is learning to live with it.


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Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 8:39 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

What wonderful news and a great Christmas present for you!


Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well. 

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risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 9:05 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

I am so happy for you!


There is life on the other side of hell.

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jjsr
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Default  Posted: 9:14 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Sending you good thoughts


Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile

Posts: 1647 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now.
Crescita
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Default  Posted: 9:40 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Great update, more mojo headed your way.

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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 9:48 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

That's fantastic news! More mojo and prayers for a smooth next few steps.


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Wonderful news! I'm so happy for you. Sending you continued positive mojo for your future surgery, healing, and health.


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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Take2
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Default  Posted: 10:05 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Happy Dancing!!! Excellent new PA?


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

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teacheribe
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Default  Posted: 10:14 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

MOJO on the way to you. Prayers too!


BS me 53
FWH 57
Married for 32 years
Live for today.

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Crushed1
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Default  Posted: 11:38 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

So glad to hear that good news! And I hope you enjoyed your evening out! Best wishes Panic!


~~"You can't run away from yourself"!!! Me to my H when he descended into adultery insanity.
~~Prov.15:13 "By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken"
~~"The day breaks-your mind aches"
~STRENGTH~PEACE~HOPE~FAITH

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DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 2:32 AM, December 24th (Tuesday)

Awesome update ((((PA)))), I'm so happy for you!!


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 25 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 30
Dday: Dec 2008
Limbo-ish, again (after multiple S) -- weighing my options

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cass
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Default  Posted: 6:02 PM, December 24th (Tuesday)

Just so pleased for you


DDay - April 2008
Me - 54 and doing great. Found myself again and loving life
Him - who??

I can see clearly now, the rain is gone (Johnny Nash)

Those who stir the shit soup get to lick the spoon!


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Skan
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Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, December 24th (Tuesday)

I am SO very happy for you! That''s great news!


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



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Edie
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Default  Posted: 6:00 PM, December 25th (Wednesday)

Ah, that news was a great Christmas present! I hope you had a lovely day.


Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.

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Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 4:43 PM, December 26th (Thursday)

Awesome, that's the best news I've heard this holiday season. Merry Christmas!


Me (BS)-45, WW-43
DDay 2/17/13, 9-10 month PA/EA
M - 18 years, 4 children
Reconciling

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 10:58 AM, December 27th (Friday)

Yay! So very happy to hear this!!


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Tred
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Default  Posted: 11:00 AM, December 27th (Friday)

Awesome update PA!


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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JKL Vikings
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Default  Posted: 11:30 AM, December 28th (Saturday)

Great news PA
Going to send the cancer a sympathy card in advance of the butt kicking it's about to get


Her- Alpha Female 40
Me-FWH 42
Married since '02, together since 2000
D-day 2/10/2009
3 sons- J- born Oct 2001
K- born Sept. 2005
L- born Apr. 2008
We ALL have issues. It's how we deal with them that makes the difference

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SoVerySadNow
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Default  Posted: 7:46 PM, December 29th (Sunday)

Excellent news! I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and sending mojo your way.


Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

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Spelljean
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Default  Posted: 8:26 PM, January 2nd (Thursday)

Thank goodness!

Sending good thoughts your way!


WH: 41
me: BS, 45
Together 18 1/2 years, married 17
DDAY 8/2/12
OW: EA- friend of 4 months
Status: separated

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PanicAttack53
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Default  Posted: 4:27 PM, January 14th (Tuesday)

Hello All!

First and foremost, thanks to everyone for the thoughts, prayers and Mojo sent my way. I really do appreciate it! Second, sorry for not updating this thread until now. My only excuse is that it's been a really trying week for me.


I had the C surgery & biopsy last Monday (1/6). Unfortunately it didn't go as well as I had hoped. They doubled the area they were going to remove as the C was very deep. The biopsy showed it in some other lymph nodes besides the sentinel node. All of these had to be removed and were also very deep. My left forearm looks like it had a huge chunk bitten out of it. If I had to guess, I figure I lost about 1/8 to 1/4 of my upper arm & under arm.

I'm currently in a full arm compression sleeve and also wearing a drain that was sutured in during surgery. I will be wearing both until 1/16 when I have my post-op appointment. I will also find out that day *if* I need to go on chemo as everything they removed was sent to a lab.

Although I am in pain and experiencing other normal stuff after surgery, the hardest part of this again is the waiting game. I've been so tired since the surgery I sleep about 3/4 of the day away. Don't know if that is just the anesthesia wearing off or some kind of depression setting in. I'm trying like hell to live in the moment... stay positive etc... but being totally honest, it's a losing battle some days. Today is the first time since last Monday I even felt like doing anything. I am trying to eat & drink so as not to get run down or dehydrated... so I guess that's a plus.

Well that's it folks. Sorry again for the delay getting this up.

All the best....
~ PA53


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Default  Posted: 4:32 PM, January 14th (Tuesday)

(((((pa))))) Continuing to send you strength and mojo for clear margins and good news on the 16th.

Your body has undergone a major trauma with the surgery. It's no wonder you are needing so much rest! Take it very easy. We're all pulling for you.


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Default  Posted: 5:16 PM, January 14th (Tuesday)

(((PanicAttack))) I hope you get better news at your next appointment.

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Default  Posted: 6:06 PM, January 14th (Tuesday)

Rest and rest more. Your body is telling you this is best for your healing.

(((PA53))


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Default  Posted: 7:15 PM, January 14th (Tuesday)

(((PA)))

Sending you strength and mojo.


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Default  Posted: 7:26 PM, January 14th (Tuesday)


..@PA53.. sending you TONS and TONS of Premium, 1st grade, maximum strength, A-1 quality, magic MoJo..

..sleep is medicine for healing so get lots..

..stay POSITIVE !!!!! I believe firmly and strongly in the POWER of POSITIVE THINKING..

..that's also..GOOD MEDICINE.. put your brain in "HEALING MODE"..

..prayers also sent to The MAN!!

smy


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Default  Posted: 9:26 PM, January 14th (Tuesday)

Stay strong PA. You can do this.

((((PA))))


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Default  Posted: 10:00 PM, January 14th (Tuesday)

Prayers for a speedy recovery.


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Default  Posted: 10:58 PM, January 14th (Tuesday)

Sending mojo, good thoughts, and prayers. You will heal, and you will feel better in time.

(((PA53)))


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Default  Posted: 12:55 AM, January 15th (Wednesday)

Sending healing wishes.

ETA: I have been a malignant melanoma survivor for 29 years. This thing can be beat. Stay strong!

[This message edited by HardenMyHeart at 9:54 AM, January 15th (Wednesday)]


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Default  Posted: 2:00 AM, January 15th (Wednesday)

((((PA)))) too bad it didn't go as smoothly as hoped for, but k
eep hanging in there.

Sending you all the strength and mojo you need to make it through this difficult time.

((((PA))))


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Default  Posted: 7:18 AM, January 15th (Wednesday)

(((PA)))

it sounds like you are being gentle with yourself - good.

Peace, quiet, pampering, care and rest, these are are what you need now.

Love and hugs being sent your way.

Edie x


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Default  Posted: 9:18 AM, January 15th (Wednesday)

PA,

I'll have a beer on my utility trailer for you mate. Got rid of the pick up so I don't have a tailgate anymore...the trailer is as close as it gets .

Hang in there and PM me if you need anything.


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Default  Posted: 9:23 AM, January 15th (Wednesday)

mojo brother mojo. you will be in my thoughts and prayers.


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Default  Posted: 10:35 AM, January 15th (Wednesday)

Thank you for the update.
I'm sending prayers your way. Sleep is a good thing right now. Surgery of any kind takes it's toll on the body.
One day at a time.
(((PanicAttack53)))


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Default  Posted: 3:42 PM, January 17th (Friday)

Hi Folks,

Here's another update on my continuing C saga. I have great news and some not so good news in this one. First the great news... ALL the tissue samples sent to the lab after my surgery on 1/6 came back negative, i.e., there was no C detected in them. That calls for a BIG Yippee!!

The not so good news is that the C was so deep (to the bone) they're not 100% sure they got it all. So here's where I'm at in all of this as of now. I've scheduled another appointment with my Oncologist who will most likely put me on a Chemo or Radiation regiment. That appointment is Monday 1/20 so stay tuned for more info.

Last but surly not least... a BIG Thanks to ALL here at SI for your support through this. I really do appreciate it!!!


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Default  Posted: 3:49 PM, January 17th (Friday)

Each step along the way, it sounds as if you've had more positive than negative. So let's hope the trend continues.

Sending warm hugs and best wishes for Monday.

(((PA)))


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Default  Posted: 3:52 PM, January 17th (Friday)

PA - continued Mojo...

We're just finishing our three year journey thru Cancer/Chemo/Radiation here with FWSO Dx of Lymphoma.

Good news is... with all of today's technology and medical advancements the big C is survivable and you can live a happy healthy life!

My prayers for a Happy Healthy Post-C life for you!


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Default  Posted: 3:54 PM, January 17th (Friday)

That's really great news PA.

I know it will be hard to play the waiting game for a little while longer but a chemo or radiation regiment to make sure they have got it all sounds like a good plan to me.

Sending you strong positive vibes for a speedy recovery to full health.


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Default  Posted: 8:51 AM, January 18th (Saturday)

Sending you healing prayers and strength

BP


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Default  Posted: 9:18 AM, January 18th (Saturday)

PA - Big yippee for the tissue sample results! Continuing to send you strength for the next steps.


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Default  Posted: 9:38 AM, January 18th (Saturday)

Yay on the tissue but boo on the continued treatment!

Sending you prayers for healing and strength


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Default  Posted: 5:20 PM, January 18th (Saturday)

sending prayers your way, pa.

Waiting, for anything, sucks. Take care of yourself.

We are all here cheering for you!

Sending strength.


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Default  Posted: 5:57 PM, January 20th (Monday)

Hello All!!!
This will be my last update on this thread as I just got home from the Oncologists office a couple hours ago & have some awesome news!!! My doc informed me that NO CHEMO & NO RADIATION is needed!!!! He's confident they got *all* the C and putting me on Interferon or nukes may do more harm then good at this point. He also told me that I'll be a C patient for 5 years & a lifetime Dermatology patient... but who cares!!!!! I'm so happy & also feel so blessed I want to do cartwheels!

Here's a BIG THANK YOU to *everyone* on SI for your support though this ordeal. I can't even begin to tell you all how much it's meant to me. Obviously prayer, karma & good thoughts do work and help!!! I know that came from all of you & my family. I will *never* forget that!

Now it's time for me to put this ordeal where it belongs.... in the past. I really do feel I've been given a new lease on life. Someone or something wants me around on this planet for a while longer. I plan on doing my very best to appreciate every moment of this gift I've been given. Where that takes me I don't know... and it really doesn't matter. All that does matter is right *now*, and right now is pretty damn awesome in my book!

Thanks Again,
~ PA53


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Rest of the story really doesn't matter any more.
“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have.” ― Eckhart Tolle

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Default  Posted: 6:43 PM, January 20th (Monday)

That is brilliant news! So happy for you. All that positive energy has paid off big time.

Wishing you the best possible recovery and future health.


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Default  Posted: 6:51 PM, January 20th (Monday)

Best news ever!!!! I'm so very happy for you. *does a little dance*


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Default  Posted: 1:28 PM, January 21st (Tuesday)

Congratulations!!!!! Now go enjoy the rest of your life! Like you needed to be told.


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Default  Posted: 11:15 PM, January 24th (Friday)

Very happy for you PA53.


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Default  Posted: 11:33 PM, January 24th (Friday)

Awesome news! So happy for you. Go out and celebrate!


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Default  Posted: 12:43 AM, January 25th (Saturday)

Wonderful news!!!


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Default  Posted: 2:12 AM, January 25th (Saturday)

Oh fantastic, have been keeping everything crossed for you,


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Default  Posted: 2:12 AM, January 25th (Saturday)

Oh fantastic, have been keeping everything crossed for you,


Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.

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Default  Posted: 9:40 AM, January 25th (Saturday)

Great news:):)

[This message edited by Audrina at 9:42 AM, January 25th (Saturday)]


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Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, January 25th (Saturday)

I am so happy to hear this ((((PA))))


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Default  Posted: 12:46 PM, January 25th (Saturday)

Just read this thread for the first time. I am so happy for you.
(((PA53)))
Here's to the first day of the rest of your long happy healthy life!


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Default  Posted: 7:56 PM, January 25th (Saturday)

Very happy to have caught this update!


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