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phoenixrise
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Default  Posted: 1:45 AM, December 24th (Tuesday)

4 months in...how does he or she deal with it? Thought I was done with that...tried to hold back the tears but it kills me thinking about how he shared the same intimate moments with the OW. The messed up thing I am afraid of scarring him off if I do it too much I can't imagine it gives him hope or is a turn on...I even apologized like an idiot then later regretted apologizing I have every right not to repress my hurt...I wonder how long this crying after the sex thing will last...I am afraid there will come a time when he gets tired of my hurt why am I so willing to walk on eggshells for this man after he cared so little...sometimes I don't respect myself for that. I hate when he says "what's wrong?" Umm duh buddy...maybe because you had your Wang where it didn't belong 4 months ago...why can they be so oblivious to the emotional damage they've caused it's crazy to me...can a person really be that amazingly ignorant!


"The grass is greener on the other side because of all the shit that is used to fertilize it"
Him: WH after 8 yrs M...wow to think he held my hand during labor twice
Me: thought I was a cool loving wife
D Day: 7 mos ago RIP soul

Posts: 212 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Dante's Inferno
conflicted27
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Member # 41321
Default  Posted: 2:13 AM, December 24th (Tuesday)

I completely understand what you are saying! You're further along than I am (I'm only 2 months from DDay). It definitely helps me to see that I'm not the only one who has crazy emotional swings when it comes to intimacy and that nagging thought of AP creeps into the middle of it - and I don't get the feeling that they're going away anytime soon. Thank you for sharing!

Posts: 18 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Alaska
Ostrich80
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Member # 34827
Default  Posted: 3:38 AM, December 24th (Tuesday)

It's so sad that what you need in times of sadness, intimacy, being close, sex,...is the thing that also triggers you. It's just such bullshit that something you love now has bad images attached. I think it was sister milkshake that said she imagined ow in the corner weeping while watching her reclaim her man. Something to that affect anyway...might work for you.


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 4871 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
phoenixrise
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Member # 41745
Default  Posted: 4:05 AM, December 24th (Tuesday)

Oh that's a good one! I like it...nice imagery...have to use that one for a mind movie instead...it brings me satisfaction to know that she is hurting too...hope as much as me if not more as sick as it sounds and that's being way too nice


"The grass is greener on the other side because of all the shit that is used to fertilize it"
Him: WH after 8 yrs M...wow to think he held my hand during labor twice
Me: thought I was a cool loving wife
D Day: 7 mos ago RIP soul

Posts: 212 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Dante's Inferno
Topic Posts: 4