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User Topic: Got Stood Up on Christmas Eve
Member # 39772
Default  Posted: 8:01 PM, December 24th (Tuesday)

Got stood up on Christmas Eve! I am still reeling from my exs infidelity after a 28 year relationship. I made the decision to start dating despite my Divorce Care groups recommendation to wait 1- 2 years. Started dating a younger guy and we hit it off great initially. He even took a couple vacation days to go site seeing with me. He stood me up 10 days ago. We discussed when family obligations come up just let me know. Well, he did it again tonight. We were to exchange gifts today. He claims he was not able to get off of work early so ate with his parents and they are now headed to church. He never texted me until I texted him at 8pm asking if I should eat without him. His longest relationship was 8 mos and I knew that was a red flag but chalked some of that up to his military service and college. Just sucks anyway, but my own fault for jumping into the dating scene too early. Thanks for letting me vent!!

Posts: 72 | Registered: Jul 2013
Member # 35912
Default  Posted: 8:08 PM, December 24th (Tuesday)

You deserve so much better!
screw him... on to better relationships.
If your divorce care group recommended you wait... maybe it was so you could see those red flags and ACT on them. Sounds like you saw them but let them go because you wanted a relationship (I know exactly what that feels like). I make excuses left and right for someones bad behavior (like you did with his military and college.
Maybe it's time we both took behavior at face value and just classified is as good. or bad. without our caring soles trying to fill in the blanks with excuses.

Posts: 500 | Registered: Jun 2012
Member # 21964
Default  Posted: 8:18 PM, December 24th (Tuesday)

Selfish guy, bullet dodged.

Since it''s Christmas Eve though, it has a greater impact. There are plenty of good men out there. Men who keep their word. They''ll still be there when you''re ready


"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand

Posts: 3119 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
Member # 22870
Default  Posted: 8:24 PM, December 24th (Tuesday)

I'm sorry that you got up. That sucks.

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7761 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
Member # 39772
Default  Posted: 8:34 PM, December 24th (Tuesday)

It does suck and since he friended me on Facebook after our first date, I have to unfriend his ass now too!

Posts: 72 | Registered: Jul 2013
Member # 33698
Default  Posted: 8:39 PM, December 24th (Tuesday)

Bah, humbug to him.

I'm watching It's a Wonderful Life right now-- you're better off curling up with some hot chocolate in your pajamas and watching this great film than worrying about that doofus.

Next! You're better than that!

BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 3620 | Registered: Oct 2011
Member # 39772
Default  Posted: 12:23 AM, December 25th (Wednesday)

Woo Hoo...
I ended up finding and attending a late night Candlelight Service at a local church. Also, I thanked God for helping me dodge a bullet with this guy. Thanks for all the support today fellow SI folks!

Posts: 72 | Registered: Jul 2013
Member # 20849
Default  Posted: 7:50 AM, December 25th (Wednesday)

I'm sorry (((Saleschick)))

Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

Posts: 15288 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Ohio
Member # 27148
Default  Posted: 8:49 AM, December 25th (Wednesday)

I am sorry he is such a loser. Now time to lose him...lesson learned, dust off, and enjoy today!

Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

Posts: 2706 | Registered: Jan 2010
Member # 39772
Default  Posted: 1:20 PM, December 25th (Wednesday)

Thanks for all the support
Seeing pics of my ex in NYC for the holiday is not helping today but my stupid fault for looking on his social media sites....

Posts: 72 | Registered: Jul 2013
Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 1:42 PM, December 25th (Wednesday)


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