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heartbroken_kk
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Default  Posted: 11:16 AM, December 25th (Wednesday)

I'm an adult survivor of a dysfunctional catholic family that decided half way through my childhood to stop going to church.

I never much cared for church (as a social place) or religion as I was always a skeptic and just didn't believe. Christmas became a three week long period of begging and hinting and feeling hopelessly poor--all about gifts. I grew to hate it.

Now I've lived more than half my life as an atheist and I'm very happy that way. At some point we called a truce on gift giving and agreed to just get together for a meal. That was a huge relief.

Partly because of modest income, parly due to conscious choice, I live simply, making do without many things. I recently put 97% of my things in storage and moved into an RV which I have parked off the grid in a remote wooded place in the mountains. I landed a part time job in the mountains near here so although I'm less than an hour from the hub of Silicon Valley I rarely go there. It is lone-some, quiet, serene, and simple.

Today I am planning a mountain bike ride and expect to greet friends on the trail. I'm bringing the dog to run, and a turkey sandwich.

I don't have to go to STBXWHNPDPAFTG's mom's house and eat her awful food in her filthy house.

I'm alone (well I have my furbaby who is ready to rock and roll ears a flappin') on December 25th; I'm not giving or getting gifts, and I'm ok.

Peace on earth!


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


Posts: 1124 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: California
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 11:31 AM, December 25th (Wednesday)

I'd wish you peace, but it sounds like your soaking in it already. Enjoy your day with your furbaby.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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cayc
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Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, December 25th (Wednesday)

You have your own little slice of heaven - if you''ll pardon the religious-based analogy lol. I think it sounds lovely. Have a great ride today!

Merry Christmas!


"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand

Posts: 3059 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 12:01 PM, December 25th (Wednesday)

Sounds like an awesome day.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7563 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
FaithFool
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Member # 20150
Default  Posted: 12:03 PM, December 25th (Wednesday)

Perfect!


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17340 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, December 25th (Wednesday)

I had a similar upbringing, kk; then had the X's religion (and all the dysfunction that went along with his family.) I'm happy with the universe now.

No gifts here either; living somewhat simply (can't give up my yarn & fabric!) I'd love to take a hike, but it was 9 degrees this morning and I have to go into the lab to remove specimens from the incubator, so I'm just going to catch up on some paperwork, then come home & cook my duck (better than cooking my goose?)

Enjoy your solitude, but don't become a hermit; you're too interesting and nice a person to do that!


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20031 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
Elektra
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Default  Posted: 9:26 PM, December 25th (Wednesday)

Ride on kk! No need for Silicon Valley.......it is any thing but peaceful these days.


Divorced in 2010


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