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heartbroken_kk
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Default  Posted: 11:16 AM, December 25th (Wednesday)

I'm an adult survivor of a dysfunctional catholic family that decided half way through my childhood to stop going to church.

I never much cared for church (as a social place) or religion as I was always a skeptic and just didn't believe. Christmas became a three week long period of begging and hinting and feeling hopelessly poor--all about gifts. I grew to hate it.

Now I've lived more than half my life as an atheist and I'm very happy that way. At some point we called a truce on gift giving and agreed to just get together for a meal. That was a huge relief.

Partly because of modest income, parly due to conscious choice, I live simply, making do without many things. I recently put 97% of my things in storage and moved into an RV which I have parked off the grid in a remote wooded place in the mountains. I landed a part time job in the mountains near here so although I'm less than an hour from the hub of Silicon Valley I rarely go there. It is lone-some, quiet, serene, and simple.

Today I am planning a mountain bike ride and expect to greet friends on the trail. I'm bringing the dog to run, and a turkey sandwich.

I don't have to go to STBXWHNPDPAFTG's mom's house and eat her awful food in her filthy house.

I'm alone (well I have my furbaby who is ready to rock and roll ears a flappin') on December 25th; I'm not giving or getting gifts, and I'm ok.

Peace on earth!


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


Posts: 1086 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: California
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 11:31 AM, December 25th (Wednesday)

I'd wish you peace, but it sounds like your soaking in it already. Enjoy your day with your furbaby.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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cayc
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Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, December 25th (Wednesday)

You have your own little slice of heaven - if you''ll pardon the religious-based analogy lol. I think it sounds lovely. Have a great ride today!

Merry Christmas!


"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand

Posts: 2999 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 12:01 PM, December 25th (Wednesday)

Sounds like an awesome day.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7416 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
FaithFool
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Member # 20150
Default  Posted: 12:03 PM, December 25th (Wednesday)

Perfect!


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17123 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, December 25th (Wednesday)

I had a similar upbringing, kk; then had the X's religion (and all the dysfunction that went along with his family.) I'm happy with the universe now.

No gifts here either; living somewhat simply (can't give up my yarn & fabric!) I'd love to take a hike, but it was 9 degrees this morning and I have to go into the lab to remove specimens from the incubator, so I'm just going to catch up on some paperwork, then come home & cook my duck (better than cooking my goose?)

Enjoy your solitude, but don't become a hermit; you're too interesting and nice a person to do that!


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 19786 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
Elektra
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Default  Posted: 9:26 PM, December 25th (Wednesday)

Ride on kk! No need for Silicon Valley.......it is any thing but peaceful these days.


Divorced in 2010


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