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Dieselpw
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Stop  Posted: 2:16 PM, December 26th (Thursday)

New to the sight and have been reading a lot of threads on here. Now my own story.

Bs found out about all of my A's back in April fast forward to present day and I'm IC and have learned a lot about myself that I didn't know. I'm trying to R but BS is at a impass(with good reason). I'm trying to improve myself to be the best person I can in case R happens. I don't ever want to lose BS ever again if given the chance for R.

We have been through a lot of ups and downs along with sadness and laughs in the last few months and have made a little head way. Trying to figure out how show BS that my changes are for real and perminate.


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atthedoor
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Default  Posted: 3:05 PM, December 26th (Thursday)

It takes lots and lots and lots of time. And consistency.
Walking the talk is the best way to go, really dig in deep, the commitment to being a better person will eventually shine through. But only after lots and lots of time, by time I mean years (speaking specificaly from my own experience). That is why the commitment to change must be taken so seriously, it will not be obvious for a long time.


Clearly we are on the ten year plan.
DD 10/14/2009

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Dieselpw
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Default  Posted: 4:11 PM, December 26th (Thursday)

Thank you I know it will take time and I'm willing to do the time. It's nice to read that other people are in the same place or have had similar experiences. I do know that it's nice to have a vent, a place where you're not judged or hated.

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Notdaniel
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Default  Posted: 11:40 PM, December 29th (Sunday)

I agree with atthedoor it takes time. I have the same questions because my WS is always asking about sincerity and meaning and sometimes I'm confused because I don't know how much more sincere I can be.

In counseling i was told that even if she doesn't seem to see it is sincere you have to keep doing what you are doing.

It will take time because of the broken trust.


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