User Topic: Today is our 35th wedding anniversary
Member # 27871
Cool  Posted: 7:08 AM, December 27th (Friday)

And we are celebrating! He gave me 5 golden rings. I don't always wear my ring. ( my hangup) so he said "maybe you'll wear these ". 5 bangles! Mamma likes. But that is besides the point.
I realized I'm on my way to a normal me. I love my husband and he loves me. I'm taking my husband's hand and looking forward. Not back. I am receiving and giving love. I feel hope.

[This message edited by openedupmyeyes at 7:09 AM, December 27th (Friday)]

Me:53 BS
Him:53 FWH Trying to make me a believer?
Years married:35
:03-01-10: The day I learned the truth
Kids:Daughters 4 all grown and married.
Reconciliation is hard.
Really freakin' hard.

Posts: 765 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: The Great State of Texas
Member # 38141
Default  Posted: 7:11 AM, December 27th (Friday)


ME - Betrayed Spouse
Him - Wayward spouse
Not sure, but trying I guess.

Posts: 477 | Registered: Jan 2013
Member # 39803
Default  Posted: 8:39 AM, December 27th (Friday)

I am receiving and giving love. I feel hope.

Tears on that one! So happy for you guys.

me - BS (40s)
DDay - June 2013, A was 2+ months, EA then PA
In MC & Reconciling
An affair is a personal crisis, not a relationship.

I edit, therefore I am.

Posts: 2065 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
Member # 41166
Default  Posted: 8:54 AM, December 27th (Friday)

Beautiful and much needed post for those of us still struggling.

Thank you for sharing! And congrats!

Me: BW 41
FWH 41
Together 21 yrs, M 18, 2 kids
DDay: 12/11/12 ONS with CW
Used condom, got chlamydia anyway.

His betrayal of me was not because I didn't shine brightly enough, but because he chose to put on blinders.

Posts: 261 | Registered: Oct 2013
Member # 30024
Default  Posted: 9:42 AM, December 27th (Friday)

Awesome! Happy for you both. Congratulations!

BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson

Posts: 9801 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
Member # 31240
Default  Posted: 9:51 AM, December 27th (Friday)

fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10383 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
Member # 24938
Default  Posted: 9:58 AM, December 27th (Friday)

So nice to read this!

And congrats on your wedding anniversary!

I read in your profile about the threads that are knitted together to form your marriage.

That was how a minister described it to me also.

It was our 30th anniversary and I didn't know how to look at it....should I say that this was our first anniversary because we were reconciling after d-day and embarking on a 'new' marriage, or should I subtract the 5 yrs of the LTA and say that we were only married for 25 yrs?
And the minister replied that I should think of our marriage as a quilt with all the experiences good and bad woven through it.
The 5 toxic years were part of our history but the marriage as a whole was so much more.

I now see us and our marriage as survivors.
We held on because underneath it all there really was a strong bond of love.

So glad that you are feeling hopeful.
May 2014 be your year for happiness and peace!

Me- BS
Him- WH
Long term marriage
D-day- Jan. 2007
5 yr. LTA

Posts: 3163 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: NJ
Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 12:58 PM, December 27th (Friday)

Congratulations! I''m so very pleased for you!

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

Posts: 4943 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
Alex CR
Member # 27968
Default  Posted: 2:05 PM, December 27th (Friday)

So happy for you both!

BS Me 61
WS Him 62
Married 33
Together 40
DD 11/16/09
The future looks good....

Posts: 1713 | Registered: Mar 2010
Member # 30369
Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, December 27th (Friday)

Posts: 7555 | Registered: Dec 2010
Member # 39836
Default  Posted: 2:09 PM, December 27th (Friday)

A lovely post, congrats!

Entering R slowly and cautiously...

Posts: 492 | Registered: Jul 2013
Member # 40637
Default  Posted: 2:12 PM, December 27th (Friday)

So happy for you. Thanks for the encouragement.

BS 60; fWH 59; 2 children, 1 grandchild; Married 37+ years, he is my only; D-day 7/8/13; MOW, PA 2009-?. Broke it off about a week before I found out. Sexting on cheating forums 14 YEARS. Idiot me. STATUS UPDATE - SEPARATED :-(

Posts: 167 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: USA
Getting to Happy
Member # 35200
Default  Posted: 5:13 PM, December 27th (Friday)

How Beautiful.

WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...

Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.

Posts: 1141 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: La La Land
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