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ajsmom
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Shutup  Posted: 10:49 AM, December 27th (Friday)

I'll be needing all your good thoughts tomorrow as I head into our Family Christmas celebration. The two family members that made our holidays such a joke last year will be there. Baby Sis Beotch is hosting and Beotch Niece will be attending with that very special snowflake kid of hers.

I’ve not seen either of them in well over a year and haven’t spoken to either of them since the whole Chuck E. Cheesegate last December. My plan is simple – to walk in, greet the hostess and her family, hand the cards with checks over to the under 18 niece and nephews, then promptly find a seat somewhere and not move until it’s time to leave.

As to the niece, I plan to mumble a hello (no hugs – she gets NO hugs from me!) tap the snowflake on the melon hello, and return to my seat. Sis has made it crystal clear there will be no alcohol provided, so I may just have to be totin’ a little sumptin’, sumptin’ to get me through the two or so hours I plan to be there before my *cough, cough* - “next obligation”.

Which just happens to be the closest tavern.

Cover me, peeps! Will report back later.


AJ's MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 10:55 AM, December 27th (Friday)

Good luck ajsmom...sending you good thoughts of a conveniently pocket sized flask.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:57 AM, December 27th (Friday)

We've got your back. Don't forget to park where you can't be blocked in.

Strength, sister!


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 11:13 AM, December 27th (Friday)

Don't forget to park where you can't be blocked in.

Oh, yes - must remember this!

Thanks!

[This message edited by ajsmom at 11:20 AM, December 27th (Friday)]


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 12:05 PM, December 27th (Friday)

Can you have someone call you to let you know you're 'late' for your next 'obligation'? Hasty goodbyes and you're out the door!

Good luck!


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 12:10 PM, December 27th (Friday)

(((Ajsmom)))

I too have my dysfunctional family Christmas tomorrow, and there is never alcohol, at least now they allow us to bring our own, they just won't provide it. I already have my flask of Bourbon ready.

I will think of you, as my Step-Mother-in-Law stress over the ham, and the Step-Brothers-in-law talk about their favorite weed is, and ponder why the youngest grandchild is developmentally delayed.....

I too plan to sit in a corner quietly, and hope that work needs me, or there is a honeybee swarm to capture or something to assist us out the door in a timely fashion.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, December 27th (Friday)

Mojo coming your way.


Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well. 

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 12:47 PM, December 27th (Friday)

Sending mojo and good thoughts.

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DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 1:07 PM, December 27th (Friday)

You got it. Sending loads of mojo!!

((((ajsmom))))


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
re-separated (in-house), for good (??) <-- should really remove these, shouldn't I...

Posts: 2541 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 1:14 PM, December 27th (Friday)

You're going......because?????

But since you are, flasks of mojo comin' at ya!


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks


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purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 1:20 PM, December 27th (Friday)

Double tequila shot in the car before going in. That's how I cope with the dysfunctional side (Mom's) of the family.


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

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Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 5:50 PM, December 27th (Friday)

Good luck AJ!!! You can do it!!


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 7:10 PM, December 27th (Friday)


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9467 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 9:23 PM, December 27th (Friday)

AJ's Mom... You have all my support going in and getting out alive and in one piece.

You have way more strength than I... I don't even pretend that I want to see my family. They know I don't like them... and I am pretty sure they don't like me.

Hang Tough!!!


Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 68
DS - 12
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 4:18 AM, December 28th (Saturday)

Sending mojo for coverage, may it act like an invisibility cloak to the people you want to avoid.

Hugs,
K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 8:02 AM, December 28th (Saturday)

I hope it goes well! Nothing better than being enclosed in a room with difficult family members for an unknown amount of time. I did it for years, and I'm still standing. Mojo to you!


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 9:53 AM, December 28th (Saturday)

Good luck today, ajsmom. Sending you mojo to have a day filled with peace and serenity.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


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hexed
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Default  Posted: 10:18 AM, December 28th (Saturday)

Thinking of you today!

Send you strength, calm, and a BIIIIIIG glass of wine.


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


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little turtle
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Default  Posted: 10:27 AM, December 29th (Sunday)

Just checking for an update. Hope all went well!


Failure is success if we learn from it.

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movingforward777
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Default  Posted: 12:05 PM, December 29th (Sunday)

Hopefully you had a wonderful Christmas with your family and did not let the "bitches" ruin things for you......HUGS


You can't reach for anything new if your hands are still full of yesterday's junk.......Louise Smith

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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 12:18 PM, December 29th (Sunday)

I haven't seen anything on CNN, so I'll assume everything went OK...


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 4:54 PM, December 29th (Sunday)

On the other hand, FF, she's not posting!


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 7:16 PM, December 29th (Sunday)

She's been posting on FB, though. Football, you know...


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:53 PM, December 29th (Sunday)

Priorities.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 7:56 PM, December 29th (Sunday)


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17289 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 8:27 PM, December 29th (Sunday)

Y'all kill me.

Well, it went better than expected, despite my not being able to drink thanks to a raspy cold I caught. Had to go in sans lubrication which I thought was going to kill me.

Little Sis Beotch must have been bit by the Christmas spirit or hit over the head because she was downright hospitable and - dare I say - cordial.

Though, there was one funny moment when the gang was FB talking and she mentioned - in front of everyone cuz that's how she rolls - that I blocked her.

I just shrugged my shoulders and said "Well, you know I had to."

Niece Beotch came in and walked right into the living room where she planted herself the whole night. She never came out of there at all - even had her husband get her food and treats. Sorry, but I found that hilarious.

She finally came up to me at the end of the night as I was leaving and said hello. What ev's.

I don't think complete détente was reached, but at least nothing got broken in fits of anger and our parents could rest in heaven knowing no one was in jail.

SI Mojo. Try it. It works.


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


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PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 9:02 PM, December 29th (Sunday)

Nobody had to get hurt? Sounds like a success to me!! Cheers!


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

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Dreamboat
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Default  Posted: 10:22 PM, December 29th (Sunday)

I just shrugged my shoulders and said "Well, you know I had to."


I love you AJ's!


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

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