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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 6:20 PM, December 31st (Tuesday)

Three years ago we moved from NY to PA. Mostly to escape the taxes, and just for a fresh start. We bought a nice house in a rural area and it's been pretty nice here except it has never really felt like home.

LD's commute doubled when we moved and it's 80 miles each way. I was able to keep one of my NY jobs and get another local part-time job.

LD's sister was very sick last year and we've been feeling the distance from our family. Life's too short, we're learning.

We started talking about what it would be like to be back in NY and one day we just said, Hell, let's just do it!

So....we bought a townhouse about 6 miles from SIL and an hour away from my brother and his family (as opposed to 2.5 hours now). We'll be downsizing in order to not get killed by the taxes. But, we're happy!!! It's happening very quickly.

Always NYers in our hearts and now we'll be back home in about a month. I'm still processing all this, freaking out a little bit, but happy to be going 'home'.

Now, does anybody want to buy a beautiful home in rural PA?


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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, December 31st (Tuesday)

I already have a home in rural PA!

So happy for you both.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 6:27 PM, December 31st (Tuesday)

A month?!? Holy cats, that's fast. Congratulations!


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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 6:27 PM, December 31st (Tuesday)

Williesmom, Do you want another one?

NIK, I know! Things are moving along, which is good, but I'm freaking out a little bit!


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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 6:30 PM, December 31st (Tuesday)

I wondered why the wine glasses were "packed away" in the NYE thread in F & G!

Congratulations on your new digs and move!!


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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 6:32 PM, December 31st (Tuesday)

Yep. I'd procrastinate until the last minute but LD is making me be productive. DD and I were drinking wine out of paper cups last week. I said, 'I'm sorry DD, dad packed away all the wine glasses.' She said, 'Mom, I'm in college, this is the only way we drink wine!'

ETA Thanks, jrc!

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Default  Posted: 6:33 PM, December 31st (Tuesday)

Oh I think your PA house should become the SI Party House


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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 6:34 PM, December 31st (Tuesday)

It really is a good house for entertaining. If we don't sell it we might have no choice. We'll just charge admission.


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Default  Posted: 6:54 PM, December 31st (Tuesday)

Good for you!! =) Congratulations!!

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persevere
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Default  Posted: 7:01 PM, December 31st (Tuesday)

How exciting for you an!!! What do the kids think about all this?


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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 7:09 PM, December 31st (Tuesday)

Both kids hated the new area. It's far from everything. DS is on his own now (permanently, God willing he'll keep his shit together and be able to sustain it).

DD is away at school and we moved right when she graduated HS so this never felt like home. She's thrilled because we'll be in a great spot so she can travel to see her boyfriend and the friends she's made in college. Also, when she gets a job after she graduates, this is a great commuter location.

They grew up close to the area we're moving back to so this just makes them happy. There's really no connection here for them.

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Default  Posted: 7:26 PM, December 31st (Tuesday)

Congrats and how exciting, adventurous and fun, an.

I thought this topic was about something else. I was going to agree and tell you that these Minnesotans really don't know what to make of this New Yawk transplant.


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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 7:44 PM, December 31st (Tuesday)

I didn't know you were a New Yawka!!!


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painfulpast
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Default  Posted: 8:05 PM, December 31st (Tuesday)

Congrats!! There really is no place like home. Are you in Manhattan? I spent a few months there some time ago - really liked it, but like you, it wasn't home so it never felt 'right'.

Mom, I'm in college, this is the only way we drink wine!

This may be the best thing I've read all year, and there's only 3 hours left for something to beat this!!!


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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 9:17 PM, December 31st (Tuesday)

Yeah, she's a clever one .


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Default  Posted: 12:57 AM, January 1st (Wednesday)

Wow; I was also wondering why your wine glasses were packed! That's great! You're going to get a reputation like mine with all these moves, you know...

Congratulations!


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Default  Posted: 8:06 AM, January 1st (Wednesday)

Awesome!!!


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Default  Posted: 8:11 AM, January 1st (Wednesday)

Your home in PA is so lovely, I doubt you'll have any problems selling it.

I'm so excited for you all...what a great way to kick in 2014!!!


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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 8:29 AM, January 1st (Wednesday)

Thank you, DS. We have someone coming to look at it this weekend and possibly another person interested in looking.


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Default  Posted: 8:53 AM, January 1st (Wednesday)

I wondered why the wine glasses were "packed away" in the NYE thread in F & G!

I wondered the same thing and thought I must have missed something... so I went SI stalking on AN's *recent posts* and found this one.

You sound really happy! I can hear the excitement in your posts. But let us remember the geography lesson re: the regions of NY.

Happy for you!


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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 9:32 AM, January 1st (Wednesday)

Oh, I remember. I'll be over the Tapp so it's upstate.


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Default  Posted: 9:35 AM, January 1st (Wednesday)

You know I am so excited for you!! In my head it went from "This might be a good idea" to "We're leaving this week" . I think you've made the right decision and that's why it is coming along so quickly. There was nothing to agonize over, it was just right for you. I am excited for you AN and I think this is going to be a great year!



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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 9:40 AM, January 1st (Wednesday)

In my head it went from "This might be a good idea" to "We're leaving this week"
Yeah, that's usually how it works for me and LD . We make a decision and then get moving on it. We talked about whether or not we are impulsive or just go after what we want. I'm going with the latter, because impulsive isn't what responsible adults are .

Seriously, I appreciate the support and I know it's the right decision. It's something we've been beating around the bush about for awhile and when one of us said it with some seriousness (I can't remember which one of us), the other jumped all over it. We were both thinking it but didn't want to express unhappiness over living here after only 3 years. Because really, we're not unhappy here, we just know we're missing some very crucial (to us) elements in our lives by staying here.

When we told SIL we were moving she asked why. I said, "Well, it's BEEN three years!"
I told her she better not get sick of me (5.8 miles away!!!) and she said NO way! Our relationship has come so far and I'm so happy about that.


Take up your space (and do it well).

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Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, January 1st (Wednesday)

Oh, I remember. I'll be over the Tapp so it's upstate.

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Indian wisdom says our lives are rivers. We are born somewhere small and quiet and we move toward a place we cannot see, but only imagine. From Tending Roses

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